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Are they really my friends??


Question Posted Sunday July 8 2007, 2:55 pm

Hi,
Im 15/f,
When Im in school I have a good few friends but when it comes to the summer hols or weekends I never hear from them and often meet them up town and feel kinda put out they never asked me. I have three groups of friends and a few from other different groups. I dont know if its my paranoia or at school they kinda have to hang around with me. I asked a friend could I go out with her and her friends one night and she said she would text me and she seemed uncomfortable.
Do they actually want to be my friends or is it my really bad paranoia??
Plz help
xx


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PrettyLady16 answered Friday July 13 2007, 12:31 pm:
It kind of sucks whenever you do feel put out because you don't understand their insiders or sometimes even the way they react to things. Please don't feel bad, this happens to everyone. If you're getting this vibe from them maybe they do want to be your friends but possibly aren't the best people. Maybe they don't feel comfortable with new people with their friends because they don't really know you that well. Keep the effort up and work with your friends to become a better one with them. Invite them places instead of going along with them. If things don't work out don't be afraid to form your own group, with people you are friends with from different groups. Try not to have paranoia, be confident.

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Floridagirl1821 answered Sunday July 8 2007, 5:04 pm:
Well, being a teenager is a difficult time. In my opinion, real friends would want to hang out with you outside of school. (Sometimes you have a few people you talk to in class but you dont hang out with them outside of class, like in the halls or whatever.) I wouldnt say its your paranoia, you need to think about it. Try getting together a few more times (maybe with another group of friends) and if it doesnt work out, maybe they dont want to be that friendly. If they dont even call or text you back, then they really dont want to.

Basicly, you dont want to 'force' yourself on people. So dont push it for months, they may only want to be friends with you at school. Try getting together with someone else or try making new friends. I know its hard.

Good luck!

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