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Hate my family.
16/f
I live with my grandparents, father, and brother and my mom lives in another state. I'm gonna be a senior next year and then I can go off to college [thank god]. My grandmother gets me so irritated. This year I started playing computer games, rather than be like my cousins and get all obsesed with makeup and looks and all that. I really really honestly don't care about makeup and i'm not gonna take hours to figure out my hair and what to wear each day. I don't think that's fun at all, it's more like torture.
That's one of my many problems with my family. Once I go off to college I know i'll be happier, no matter what. I wanted to start playing this neww game that my brother loves playing but she won't stop freaking out about how i should be doing more "girl" things and stuff. How can I get her to stop bothering me ALL THE TIME about not being "girly" enough for her.
I don't dress tomboy'ish or do anything like that except play computer games [which other girls play too.]
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It's hard enough to get your parents to understand you, what with the generation gap and all. Grandparents are a whole other story. Your grandmother is just from a different generation with different values. My grandfather refused to pay for my mom's education if she decided to do science... it 'wasn't a woman's place'. So I can see where your grandmother is coming from, even if her point of view is outdated and old-fashioned.
The way I see it (and the way I live), if you're neat, clean, and presentable, you're doing just fine. No need to waste precious hours doing your hair. As for computer games, I'm a bit of a gamer myself, and the guys LOVE it!
If she starts bothering you, let her know that things have changed since her time. The boundaries that used to separate guys and girls have changed a lot! Emphasize the fact that you do care about your appearance, you are presentable, but you're just not interested in looking like everyone else. Natural beauty is not a bad thing!
If she's on your case about boys not liking you (as my parents were), let her know that it's actually really cool for a girl to be into that sort of thing now. All my guy friends love girls who play video games.
Good luck! I know it's tough, but just wait till university. Trust me, it all gets better from there for us dorky girls :D Two words for you... engineering boys!
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Wow, I think it great that you don't care about that stuff. What a waste of time, effort and money. I should think your grandmother would be proud of you. Well no matter, once you are in college you will meet people who put a premium on brains, and not on looks. Since looks fade, but brains can still be working for you years after your good looks have gone. NOt that you won't see girls in college who care more for their looks than their grades.
I wonder if it would help to remind your grandmother that some of the most famous women in history who made a big difference in the lives of people, did not care about their looks, but cared more for education and hard work. Like Joan of Arc, Eleanor Rosevelt, Susan B Anthony, Pearl S Buck, Maya Angelou, Amelia Erhart, and Rosa Parks, just to name a few.
American's are just too enamored of American Idol,
and pop star's like Briteny Spears and Paris Hilton. What has any one of them every done to change the world or improve the live of poor people? Nothing. In my opinion these are the people that we should shun and make fun of, not emulate. YOu are on the right track. Just hang in there. Don't change, be strong, and in the future, your family will all be looking for you to support them or for advice, because good looks don't pay the bills.
Good luck to you
Michele
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