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Parents' spliting up.
Kay well my parents' are spliting up , and I've been expecting it , I'm not sad or anything [no I'm not in denil either] and I have a desision to make , who I want to live with.
1) My mom : She sooo nice and I can tell her anything , But she can get moody and emotinally abusive [just a little bit].
2) My Dad : He is always asleep or a work or on the computer ,I can't really talk to him about anything.He is always in a bad mood and is vitiamin D deficiant [usually really bad mood in the winter] and he over grounds me for everyhting.BUT he brings me places and gives me money and treats me my age.
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I think you should live with your mom. Your dad gives you money when you ask, but if he grounds you all the time, how would you spend your money? I'm sure you mom will give you money and bring you places, too. It sounds like you're much closer to your mom. Everyone can be moody. I'm sure you can still visit your dad though. He'll give you money then. Plus he can send it. But I think your best choice would be your mom, but it's up to you.
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You should definitely go with your mom.
Yes, your dad has the money to give you, but money can't buy happiness and money can't raise you properly. I know that lifestyle sounds appealing at your age, but once you get a little older, it will seem less appealing, trust me.
You need a woman figure in your life. All people get moody sometimes, it's just a part of life. You need love and someone to always be there for you. I'm sure your mom will bring you places and give you money when you need it, too.
Your decisions now will affect your future greatly. You need the supervision and love of your mom. Tough love sucks but it's beneficial in adolescence. If your father isn't going to be home all the time and let's you go about as you please, what does that say? That isn't fathering, that's just offering a free place to live with bonuses. You know what I mean?
I hope you choose what you feel is best!
Jen
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Personally I think it's a very important thing to have your mother around all of the time. I am sure the materialistic things are all very great with your dad, because who doesn't like the luxury life? But if you're a teenager you're going to need someone to talk to and enjoy their company which your mom seems she can provide. If I were you, I would want to live with my mother. And be able to be there for her as well because she might be emotionally abusive and you could help her.
I have a dad that sounds just like yours. I love him to death, but I need someone to talk to from time to time.
good luck with everything
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I really don't think that anybody on this site could really tell you who to live with.
Both of your parents love you very much, but they can't be together anymore, I'm sure they have tried to live together for as long as they could, but it still wasn't working out. Are your parents moving to different cities or states? because if you all are going to be in the same city, close by each other I really don't understand why you can't live with both.
I understand you love both of them equally. For me I think living with my mom would be easier, because I'm a girl, and I can talk to her about girl stuff, you know? and dad's don't really understand. If you're a guy... living with your dad could be easy, or living with your mom could be easy. I really don't know. If you really need help choosing you should ask one of your friends.
It's not an easy thing to choose. So I don't think anybody could choose with just the little bit if information you gave us here.
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Well, if I were in your position I would sit down with both of them. And tell them how I felt about them. And work out some deal with them. Maybe 3 days with your dad and 4 days with your mom. And if you don't want that you should ask yourself who are you most happy with.
Hope I helped. Good Luck.
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i had to make the same choice also and um its pretty much the same circumstances that you have.
i say choose your mom i think you will enjoy it better. but explain more when you say emotionally abusive..
hope i helped
Jess
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by the way it sounds i would be with your mom. she is with you longer in the day and she seems nicer. and if your a female you will need her to help with your female problems. it dosnt matter if your mom gets moody. all parents do :)
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i think your mom i would do that if i were you but you can visit your dad anytime you want or if u live with yur dad you can visit your mom but if i were you i would go with your mom
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you should go with your mom
and visit your dad?
its something you really have to think about
no advice can help you = sorry
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ok hi im jenny
my parents also are divorced and my dad is homosexual. they got divorced when i was 5 so i really didnt have any choice on who i would live with. i now am 15 and i live with my mom, I really like living with my mom.
For example, if you live with your dad who is going to buy you tampons and stuff when its an emergency. I mean i no that sounds lame but its true. Your dad seems cool, but if you do live with your mom your dad with miss you and feel bad so then he will spoil you EVEN MORE! so my opinion is that you live with your mom. plus your mom always is your bestfriend and that way she will ALWAYS be there for you. i hope i helped and good luck making the decision.
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