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Fucked over this girl...
Okay so i have been talking to this girl for a really long time and she wanted to hangout really bad so she came over one night. I flirted with her a lot and we had sex. And i know this girl likes me A LOTT. but the thing is i dont like her at all and i tottaly led her on by having sex with her so how do i make it as easy as i can on her without dating her?
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hmmm.... wow this is a toughy... i say you tell her that you are really very tuly sorry but you really dont feel the same way for her as she does for you tell her that you are very sorry but you guys would be wayyyyy better off as friends and nothing more go0d luck
*ariana*
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hmm.. well, i have the same situation, just in reverse, as in ye, im the girl, hu wants a guy, we had sex, and it didnt seem to me like he was leadn me on, but he did give some major signals, you may just have to tel it straight to her, its the only way, has she contacted you since? have you contacted her first? she probably feels on the moon right now, but if you havn said ne fin since, she will start to regret things, and may end up resenting you, tell her, talk to her, or you may lose her as a friend, n if you dnt like her as a m8 then at least spare her feelings, it was/is sorta drivin me up the wall not knowing, and i dont wnt to contact him cz he may be aware but ignoring how i feel, i would have liked it for him to have said somehting, good or bad, an i no my news is most likely gna b bad, but what do i no, if she aint contacted you, shes not gna wna hear you saying no, its hard, but you have to do it, shes going to keep on tryn, she wont giv u up without her telln you why you should give her a chance.. add me on msn at
sassybabe7@hotmail.com
i seriously would like to no what goes on cz then may be it could out me in my place, as you seem like a nice guy, and can help me too?
rate me hun, n pls add me!! xxx
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wow that was dumb.. girls are real sensitive, you gotta be careful. dont lead her on anymore, that will only hurt her more. tell her your real sorry and that you dont know what you were doing and that youd like to be friends with her. shell get over it eventually.. goodluck
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You tell her. And very quickly, before you lead her on even more.
(Don't tell me you were expecting any answer other than that one...)
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wow.. ummm if u didnt like her why did u have sex..ummmmm tell her you had a good time...
then when she wants to hang out. say your busy
and if she vists you or something
Just dont flirt and have MORE sex.
lol..
I duno if i helped.. I hope I did
x0x3
Sam
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At least you are honest with yourself. There is hope in someone who realizes one's mistake however rude it was. Tell her the truth. And you must care for her at least as something because you are concerned about her feelings. Maybe the easiest way would be a bunch of flowers, and an I am sorry note. Please talk to her long enough to be sure she didn't get pregnant by the indiscretion.
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lol you've been getting some harsh advice dude :-p
i know you're not going to like it... but you need to be sensitive, and have a deep conversationg with her... explain that the situation got out of hand, and you didn't plan on having sex, it was happened.
it was a spur of the moment... it felt right at the time, but right now you can't commit to anything, as you're not ready. tell her that you do like her, but nothing else can happen at this point in time.
hope it helps
feel free to get in touch if you need anything else :-)
XxXxX
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Tell her that you regret having sex. Or if you don't regret the sex, explain that you weren't doing it out of love; it just "happened." If you want to stay close friends with her (which I suggest, because you shouldn't just throw her out of your life) then say "I care about you as a friend, I just don't have those kinds of feelings for you and what happened the other night can stay between us, but just don't get the wrong idea." Either way, she's going to be crushed but hey. Just talk to her about it and keep your distance from her for awhile. She'll need time to cool off and get over it cause she's gonna think this is a tragic break up. Best of luck!
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Just politely tell her you aren't ready for a serious relationship right now. Then stay away from her for a while. Her feelings are going to be hurt but that can't be helped.
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Led her on? You didn't just lead her on. For most women, sex is an expresion of love or trust (but only if she likes you A LOTTT like you said, sometimes its not that way). You're so screwed its not even funny.
There is no way to make this easy. She's a girl, she likes you a lot, and she had sex with you. That DOES in fact mean that she thinks she means something special to you. The best thing you can do is tell her that you "love her as a friend" and you needed to get your feelings straight. Honestly, that is the only way she will still let you exist without hating your guts.
"I'm sorry. I love you as a friend but I was really confused about my feelings for you. I'm REALLY sorry if I hurt you and I never ment to. I like you, but you're just not the one for me."
Sound girly? Why yes it does. And I'm afraid if you say anything manly she'll slap you in the face. Saying girly and romantic things are the really only way you can deal with women's emotions without making a few enimies.
Led her on. -chuckle- Oh, ya think?
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