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I just can't help myself
my best friend and i are goin to different high schools next year. i had the choice to go to her high school, but i decided not to because i didn't want to be unhappy at that high school. a month ago she left to go to another country with her family and she's comin home soon. while she was on vacation she called everyone else, but me. durin the school year we only saw each other 3 times and we haven't seen since. she only calls me when she has no one to talk to. we call each other wifey because that was how tight we were b4. she's changed a lot and i just dont know if i want to be her friend anymore. i've been through everything with her and now she's kinda leavin me for her little slutty friends. she's always sayin how she's goin to make it all up. when she makes plans she'll tell me about it, but wont invite me. i just feel like we aren't friends anymore and i've talked to her about this already, but i guess she doesnt get it. what do you guys think i should do?
sorry that this is sooo long, but its just killin me to keep thinkin about this inside. i'm givin advice to other people and i can't help myself
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People change a lot during their teens and 20's. People who are good friends one minute seem like strangers the next. This is pretty normal. Stay friends and keep in touch but you may not be "best" friends right now. You may pick that back up one of these days but for now make new friends and don't feel guilty if you find a new "best" friend. :)
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well done... that was brave making the decision to go to a different high school; it should show you that maybe you're ready for a fresh start, away from your old friend.
I'm not saying that you could end all contact with the girl... try and rebuild your friendship if it used to be really strong... but start to make new friends and enjoy yourself at high school.
I think you should try and talk it out with her once more, but if it doesn't work... then you have to decide if the situation is worth trying to save your friendship.. or if you should just let it go.
hope it helps
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that just goes to show how much people change..i can relate to situations like that. i think you are making a good choice to go to the other school. there, you can make new friends because your "best friend" doesn't seem so great anymore. some people are very easily influenced by other people, so the reason for your best friend changing so much might be because of the people she hangs out with. i think you should just either talk to her, or even better yet write her a looong email, or letter that explains exactly how you feel. tell her you don't even feel like her best friend anymore, and ask her what she thinks about everything. maybe she is trying to tell you that she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but whether or not she does..you will make new friends, and have good times with them! i know it might be hard, but don't try to let it get to you so much. surround yourself with people who really care, who actually notice you are there, and who honestly want to spend time with you. if someone thinks you are not good enough for them, which your "best friend" might, chances are you are too good for them. (not in a mean way..i mean i'm not suggesting you say that you are better than ANYONE because nobody is better than anyone else) but if she doesn't need you, you don't need her!
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