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miss the old her
im going into my freshman yr & ive known this girl for about 7 yrs..shes changed alot and shes going thru so much...she trys to get noticed by doing stuff with guys..it disgusts me but i still want to know im always here for her & at the same time tell that whats shes doing isnt ne good
please help my friend and i stay close!
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Find a time when you two can be alone, and have a serious conversation with her. Don't tell her what to do, but tell her that you're concerned and that you'll always be there for her, no matter what. She may not appreciate it now, but I guarantee she will later.
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I think its time you and your friend discuss this problem if your feeling a sting in your friendship... chances are she is to. Let her know that you love her and care for her and don't want ro see her doing things that make her look trashy... explain to her that your not saying this to hurt her feelings your daying it because lately you feel like you two have been strangers and you don't want to drift apart. Even if she doesnt get it at first hopefully she willl think it over and understand that you are just looking out for her. I hope I hleped!
Kelli
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I have gone through the same thing. Basically, you just need to write her a long letter, or sit her down, tell her you love her and care about her, and that she may not see it now, but, she's hurting herself. One day in the future, she will probably regret the things she did w/ those boys. I hope this works, but it depends on the person. I hope she will be willing to listen to you because no matter what happens, you can keep caring about her, and if you are religious, pray for her. It may not work at first, but it will somehow. Good luck w/ your friend, you are a good one to notice that kind of problem.
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Awww~!
You're a really good friend...
Some girls your age go through these... phases. She wants to be... HOT! She wants guys to like her, so she thinks that if she does anything a guy wants with him, she's easy!
People like her end up on the street corner, either prosituting or begging for food or money. You're a really good friend for being concerned. Some people would just leave this alone and you didn't. That's a very good sign.
Tell her that you don't think what she's doing is right and what she does in high school reflects off the whole rest of her life. If she has sex in 8th-9th grade, chances are she's going to get pregnant and be known as a slut. Tell her you would HATE to see her like that so you thought you would want to catch it before it got too big. You know?
Tell her she's NOT a slut but if she keeps trying to get popular in that kind of way, people will THINK she is. You don't want your friend to be like that. She would be depressed all the time and stuff.
Tell her how you feel about the whole situation. Tell her (like you told everyone here on Advicenators) that you miss the OLD HER! You want your "FRIEND" back! And this is NOT your friend. This isn't the same one who talked to you and made you feel better when you were sad.
Tell her that! Don't be scared for her to be mad at you. If she does get mad at you, she'll learn from her mistake later on. And besides, it's HER loss... NOT YOURS. If there were more people like you in the world, there would be NO KILLING, RAPING, MURDERING, STRANGLING, OR PROSTITUTION. And you are very generous. Just know that you know what could happen and stick with it!
I'm sorry this is so long! :-( But, hey! I have a LOT to say! :-)
Remember, I'm here for you if you want to talk or something. My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you want to email me there. Or you can drop one in my inbox! Either one... OR BOTH! LOL.
DON'T GIVE UP TRYING!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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Take her aside and say that you need to talk to her and that she needs to listen. say something like:
What you're doing to get attention isn't right. It gets you attention but not to right kind. If you want respect from ME and everyone else, you need to be yourself. I'll care about you no matter what you do but i can't just sit around and watch you screw up your life. that's not what friends do."
eh... yea something like that
hope i helped!
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Well if I were you I would talk to her cuz that is the best thing to do. I mean if anything even came betweeen me & my best friends I would always talk to them first before i do anything else, well i hope i helped!
good luck
you know you love me ,
Nicole
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I think that you should talk to her about this...if she does things with guys just to get noticed tell her what you think about that..if your her good friend then she will care about what you think, also tell her to keep in mind that you are just trying to help her not hurt her and that you there for her....i hope i helped!
~Linda
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Have you tried talking to her about it? If you are pretty close tell her what guys really think about girls who act the way shes acting. If she doesn't listen to you she won't listen to anyone. All you can do is be there for her because sooner or later she will need a good friend. :)
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have a proper talk with her; she's your friend, so she will appreicate your opinion. explain that you're always there for her, but you don't agree with some of the things she's doing right now, especially with guys... try and get across the point that you're not calling her a slut... but that maybe she should think about what sort of reputation she wants... and the sort that she's going to get if she carries on doing this stuff.
hope it helps
feel free to get in touch if you need anything else :-)
XxXxX
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