I am a Christian, and I love giving advice, so you can be anonymous or not, I would just love to hear from you! My friends tell me that I am a great person to come to for advice. I seem to know just what to say. I don't know. =) I love listening to people and problems. I just don't like being in the middle of them; I do choose sides if I absolutely have to. I want to be a Social worker or a counseling Psychologist someday. I am a senior in high school, and I start college in August of '06. I'm in band, and choir. I play French horn and sing alto. I have been through a lot with friends/family and even though I haven't, I feel like I've seen it all, so I hope I can help!
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How exacally do you send a guy "signals" that you like him and such? (link)
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What I usually do is look them in the eye when I talk to them, smile a lot, and touch them on like the elbow or shoulder or something when we're being goofy. Good luck!!
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My best friend is kind of going through a hard time... She really loved this boy and they broke up earlier this year. She's still not over him. Sometimes, she gets really upset and cries and I comfort her and talk to her. Especially when she justt found out he was going with this girll to the 8th grade dancee. She's been upset lately. I don't mind it at all, what are best friends for, right? Butt, what can I say to her? I tell her how great she is, how any guy would be lucky to be with her, boys are dumb and he made a huge mistkae that hopefully he'll realize with in time, and a bunch of other stuff. But what else do I say?? What advice to I give? Ill rate 5's!! (link)
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Remind her that you're both still young. Love comes at any age, I know...but it doesn't mean it won't come again. Let her talk/vent/cry...you're doing the right thing...it may get annoying eventually, but if she needs to and she feels comfortable with you enough to do that, let her. GirlFriends are more important than boys...they don't do the break up thing :-)Breakups are rough...keep doing what you're doing...do things with her that won't remind her of him like games...or watch a hilarious movie taht won't be remind her of him. Good luck!
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omggg okay so my best friend has been ignoring me like the past 2 days or so. so i asked her what was wrong and she wouldnt tell me. then she randomly ims me today and says this..
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HERSCREENNAME: w.e im not up for aguring bc were not bestfriends any more
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OH MY GOD - please help mee. shes been my best friend for 5 years+ and i dont knwo what to do if i loose her. WHAT CAN I DO! (link)
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I would ask around to other friends of hers and see if there is something you did/said that makes her feel this way. If it is something you did or said (even if it wasn't meant to be against her or something and she took it the wrong way)apologize. If not, keep your distance and show her that you can be okay w/ out her...i know you probably aren't, but you'll learn more about yourself and find new friends who won't ditch you out of the blue like that. Good luck, that's a tough one to be in, keep your head up.
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Ok, so I like this guy who I know likes me but he doesn't know I like him. He didn't actually tell me that he liked me but his best friend was like miming it behind my back and I turned around and he goes, "Shut up! I told you not to tell her!" and then I asked him and he said that he did. I was crushing hard on him at the beggining of this year, but he had a girlfriend then, but he said that he did like me then but just not as much as his girlfriend. So then I got side tracked.
Anywayz, the real questions are do I tell him that I like him again? Do I ask him out? Do I ask him to our end of the year dance? (link)
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Well, if you do know this guy likes you, asking him to the dance is a good idea! You could be like "Are you going to that end of school dance?" and if he plans on going but not w/ someone yet...say "Well, you should go w/ me cause it'd be fun!" and see what he says! If he doesn't go to your school, then say "Hey we're having this dance, and I think i'd have a lot more fun if you came w/ me!" If you end up going to the dance, if he's sending signals, play along. If the moment is right, you possibly could tell him how you feel! Good luck!
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Here's the deal. Me and my Girlfriend have been going out for a year and she's now at a different school than me. We live a fair distance apart so we rarely see each other and we seem to be talking less and less.
And now when we see each other it seems the spark just isn't there. I think we should break up but i'm not sure how to tell her.
P.S. I'm a 14 year old male (link)
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That's the exact words that my ex b/f used when he broke up w/ me. I didn't get it at the time, but you know it happens. Don't lie about it, be completely straight forward to her. She'll understand in time and will understand that you couldn't be in a relationship w/ her just because you can. If you still want to be friends w/ her though, mean it, and don't not talk to her. She may not want to talk after she asks you why (cause she will), but eventually she will want to talk to you and be friends. Good luck, and I'm sorry it didn't work out. You're 14 though! You've got years to learn from!
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ok so i am 15 and i have this friend and me and her are great friends but she considers me as a brother and not a boyfriend....i have told her s everal times that i feel like we can be more...and she doesnt want to ruin anything even though i know i would never let anything come between us EVER...she currently has a boyfriend of like 3 months but i kno he doesnt care for her because when ever she wants to see him he makes up an excuse not to and when i want to hang out with her she does the same thing to me...it just doesnt make sense and i dont know what to do...what should i do? i was considering sending her the link to the song For You I Will by Teddy Geiger..is that a good choice? (link)
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Usually when a girl says that she considers you like a brother, it means she doesn't consider you more than that at all and she doesn't know any other way to tell you. I got that from a boy once. She could possibly change her mind, but probably not any time soon though because of her boyfriend. You should tell her that if this guy she is with isn't making her happy by not making time for her, that she deserves better. Whether she chooses to go for you or not. You could send her the song, and it may work, I don't know I'm not her. But if you want a girls interpretation, I did the best I could. Good luck!
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ok hey. so, i'm in highschool (i'm a sophomore.). i'm a female (pretty obvious?) and i need advice. duh. i haven't dated/liked ANYONE since llllaaaasssssttttt year. i really want to find someone that i can like and will like me. all my friends have boyfriends, and they are neglecting our friendship to hang out with their stupid boys. this isn't just about them, though. i really want someone who i can be with romantically. do you have any advice to help me when i don't have a boy, or to help me get one? (link)
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You don't have to join a club necessarily. Even though that isn't a bad idea...but since you thought of that before I did, probably means you are already involved. If you are involved, get to know friends in your classes. Look for guys that may be dropping you hints as if they might like you. Keep your eyes open. I'm in choir and band, that gives me plenty of options. I met the guy I'm interested in at summer camp though. There are plenty of places to meet people. Ask some of your friends boyfriends if they might know anyone that is single and might want to hang out...your friends know you best so they should know what you look for in a guy. That way, you can all hang out together. It may not work, but it's an idea. If not, remember, not EVERYONE has a b/f. I never had a boyfriend in high school until my junior year, and that boy was way worth being single for. Good luck!!! :-D
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OK so there is this guy and he's really sweet and nice and funny and cute. But, he's like too mice and too funny. Well, the other night we were texting and he was like you are the only girl for me and you are so perfect for me. He was like I miss you sooo much and then he wrote LYL (love ya lots). Yes I like him, but we aren't even going out! And there is this dance at his school and he has to bring a date and he wants to bring me! That's just so not my style. I am more of those crazy, wild, hyper, love to havea good time girls. How can I make him see that? How can I make him see that it freaks me out when he says that? And how can I get out of going to that dance?? Thanks in advanced! (link)
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If dances aren't really your thing, just tell him that. Keep in mind that if he's a fun guy and one of your friends, you could have a good time dancing. It would freak me out too what he's saying to you, even if I did like him. The only way it wouldn't is if I was head over heels for this boy. Just tell him (if you like him as more than a friend) "I like you too, but I'm not in love w/ you. At least not right now. I hope you understand that." If you don't have romantic feelings towards him, just say "You're like a brother to me, but I hope you know I'm not "in love" w/ you." If you really don't want to go to that dance, tell him that you just don't really want to go because you just need a weekend to hang out w/ family or girlfriends or something. Good luck!
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every girl i go out with dumps me within a couple of weeks. i'm not conceited and people are always telling me i'm a nice guy but now i'm starting to feel like i'm not capable of keeping a girlfriend. how can i keep a girl for more than a couple of weeks? (link)
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It could be both of you. Ask yourself these questions.
Am I getting too attached too quick? i.e. telling her that you love her
Am I coming on too strong? i.e. kissing, holding hands, cuddly/touchy feely when she's not into that
Sometimes girls get pushed away by this. It can also be the girls that you choose. Are they known to not wanting to be in a relationship for more than a couple of weeks and then breaking up w/ their boyfriends. Are you choosing girls you may not really like much just to say you have a girlfriend or visa versa. Ask the girl what she wants before you persue a relationship. If it's not what you want, don't go for it just because you can. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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I am so upset with a psychic reading that I had today. I paid a lot of money- 80 dollars for the reading and it was done over the phone. I only did it because my mother said she's been going to this guy for the last 15 years and that he was very good- and his other testimonials on his website looked promising. Well I asked him if I would end up with the guy that I love- I've been friends with him for a long time. He was really negative and said he did NOT love me- that he thought of me as a fantasy and not reality and he would never commit to me. He told me to cut off contact with him forever- and not to tell him I'm cutting off contact with him or else he'll do anything to be my friend again. I was almost in tears because I feel in my heart that he does love me but is shy. I don't want to cut off all contact with him I think this psychic is nuts. But my mother said how good he is- what should I do? I am so upset! (link)
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I think psychics are a bunch of crap? Do you honestly think someone can prophesy and tell the future? I highly doubt it. Don't let this guy get to you. Live your life w/ out worrying about this guy. Enjoy him. Don't doubt the love you have for him because of what a guy, that doesn't know either of you, says. I don't know if you are dating the guy that you love, but if you love him, and you two are meant to be, it will happen. You just have to give it time...it is hard to do, I have to do it right now, but everything will work out whether you end up w/ him or not. Good luck...
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i am singing at my church and i am suppost to pick a song to sing.... does anyone know of a good christian sing and worship song that i can sing?....and if it helps im a 15/f and i have a pretty good voice.thanx and god bless (link)
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If you have a good alto voice, "Never Alone" by barlow girl is REALLY good. I love that song. It's a good song for a soprano voice too...if you need a real worship song, my personal favorite is Here I Am To Worship.
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idk i just need someone to tell me (sorry its long)
Me: i dont care if you cant help all i care about is that you care
HIM (link)
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Keep your close friendship w/ him. If things work out when you are an adult, and if you only get closer as friends, you might be able to see each other a lot more if you both choose to do so. I don't know how far Vermont is from Massechusetts, but if your friendship w/ him is completely worth it, and you both mutually decide that it won't work right now, but it might when you're older, and you both still feel the same (even though you may date other people between now and then) it just may work. Don't completely rule it out because anything can happen. I was in a long distance relationship once, and we loved/love each other, and he's my best guy friend in the entire world. We can't be together right now, but we are probably going to prom together, and we may see each other more in college, so us getting back together isn't ruled out. I hope everything works out for the best for both of you. Good luck!
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there's this boy that lives like two houses down from me and he's like sooooooooooo cute. he's 19 and i'm 15 and i really like him but i don't know if he likes me. he's always staring and smiling at me like he as something to say but never says it. should i go up to him and ask him does he like me or should i just wait and see what happens? (link)
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Have a casual conversation w/ him first. Talk about interests, and then be like "so why doesn't a guy like you have a girlfriend" or something like that to find out if he does, or if he doesn't, it will give you clues to potential interests, or he would probably drop hints saying he likes you. Good luck!
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i think my boyfriend is cheating on me he went out and bought me a whole bunch of things and i think he does'nt want me to suspect anything when it comes to the phone we used to be alot but not alot if u know wat i mean but anyways now when i try to call him is phone is off or he presses end wich makes it go to voice mail and i call his home phone and i can hear him and another young girl in the backround i can tell that the girl is like 15 around his and my age but his room mate always answers and says he's not there. wat do you guys/grls think is he cheating on me or am i just being paranoed (link)
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I would keep a close eye on him. It sounds like it's possible. If you have a vibe that he may be cheating, that means you don't completely trust him. I hope that he's not, but it sounds suspicious. Ask around, and keep your ears and eyes open to anything that might come up about him, ask anyone that he may be friends w/, guys and girls,if he's a trustworthy person. Good luck w/ that one.
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I love knowing that my boyfriend is caring and trusting but I can't help but feel like I need to watch him. I know he likes me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, but I can help checking the comments he gets from other girls on Myspace or how he looks at other girls. I know its pretty normal for any girl to do that. When he doesn't message me (when he's online) I get nervous that he thinks I'm insane or something. Yet I know that he probably isn't paying attention to the screen, is busy, etc. I've never been like this with any of my other boyfriends and he makes me nervous/intimidated, (In a good way) because he's exactly the type of guy I've always wanted. I just don't want to lose him but I know inside he likes me a lot. How can I deal with these somewhat jealous feelings I get when he talks with other girls and understand he likes me not them? Sorry if that sounded conceited, I'll rate. (link)
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You can't control what other girls are going to say to your boyfriend. You should be glad he's considered "yours". It's normal for you to feel the way you do. Just remember that you have a good looking guy, and of course girls are gonna tell him that he's cute. I'm a girl that would do that, even if I knew he had a g/f. I would respect that, and just say he's cute. Not all girls are me, and try to go for him. If he hasn't shown signs of cheating on you so far, enjoy what you have. I've been known to read into stuff way to much. Don't think about the what if's too much. If you really had something to worry about, you would hear about it from his friends, and yours and they would warn you. Good luck!
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So I have a guy friend that I've been close with for pretty much all of high school and had an on/off crush for him. Well, I recently broke up with my boyfriend, partially because of this guy, but he doesn't know it. I just feel really close with him and can tell him everything. We just have this chemistry where we feel comfortable whenever we're together.
Just a few weeks ago, another girl told him that she likes him, but he doesn't really want a long term thing with her. I talked to him about it and he said he might hook up with her though because he figured there was no one else interested. I wanted to tell him that I like him but I just feel like it's too soon for him to have another girl friend say she likes him. We're graduating soon and I'd figured I'd tell him then but he's already taking this other girl to prom and I feel like I'll lose my chance if I don't let him know.
The other thing is that a lot of people in our grade have been asking if we're going out lately and it just makes it harder for me because by reinforcing to other people we're not going out, I keep saying to his face "No, I don't like you...we're just friends" when that's not really what I feel.
Could someone just help me figure out if he likes me or not and if I should let it go or tell him? (link)
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If you think the chemistry is there and that you two talk, it sounds like the chemistry is there, then don't rule out that he might like you. You should tell him how you feel...or show it! If he says stuff like "who would be interested in me?" you should say "me". Be honest w/ him if it comes up again. Life is about taking risks and requires you to jump. You don't want to regret not telling him and wonder about it. Give it a little more time though to see if he gives you any hints towards a relationship w/ you, or not, in his words or actions, tell him. Good luck!
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ok..im 14/f and i have a boy friend that i really love, only i just found out that my friend likes him too...and she dose this alot and last time she did this i ended up with no boyfriend and she and another one of my friends were giving him head....( i dont give guys head and dont ever plan on doing so by the way) any ways what im asking is what should i do>? i dont want this relationship ending up like the last one did...ive been hurt by guys too much ...plz help i dont kno what to do! (link)
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I think you're smart by staying pure. If your friends are doing this to you, you should tell them how you feel. If they already know that you feel this way, and keeps liking the same guys you like and doesn't care about how you feel, then she's not a real friend. He's your boyfriend, she should respect the relationship. If the guy is good to you, and genuinely likes you, you shouldn't be worried about the competition. If you're afraid that he'll find out about your friend liking him and leaving you, you don't deserve him. Good luck, that's a tough one. I've had best friends like the same guys I like, but I never ended up w/ any of them. Maybe your luck will be different from mine! I hope so.
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alright this question may sound a bit cliche,
but does anyone have any suggestions on ways to
keep your mind off of a breakup? or anyways
to try to make me feel better.
i just got over a 6month relationship.
and it's hard, i know it wasn't that long,
and we'll most likely never date again.
but ive been feeling horrible. and i cant live
my life all depressed and what not.
any suggestions?
cause im sure 578685797834 people have
gone through the same thing, thanks.=] (link)
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I honestly don't know if there is anything that can keep your mind off of a break up, just remember that he was the one that broke up w/ you. It was HIS loss, not yours. I was in a relationship for 3 months, and another one for 8 and I still love the one of 8, and the one of 3 doesn't talk to me much. It's not an easy thing to go through. I still have a hard time of it. I hope you have friends to talk to about it because that's what makes it easier for me. I thank God that my situation w/ the one of 8 months is still today my best guy friend in the entire world...otherwise, I'd probably be miserable. He's just a boy, he may be a special boy, but there are others. Especially if you don't think you'll be getting back together. That's how I feel about the boy of 3 mons. You'll be okay...appreciate the good times you had w/ him, and make new ones w/ new boys. Good luck!
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While i was helping my guy friend from work at work he said i was a distraction for him, what does that mean? (link)
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It depends on if he was smiling when he said it cause that could be a good thing for you to be "distracting" cause you look good or something. Or it could be negative as in you're bothering him. Depends on how he said it. What was the tone in his voice? Hope I helped!
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I have this friend. I wanted to be more than friends at one point, but I am pretty sure he doesn't know that. However, like before Christmas we were so close. We were with each other constantly. He was like the only person I have ever felt like I could bear my soul to, but I didn't because I didn't want him to think I was wierd.
On New Years, we went to the beach with like 30 of our friends. We hugged and mess like we always did, but then when we came back to school after New Years, half the time he acts like I am not even there. I just want ot be friends with him, and I don't even know why he's mad.
If you have any advice on how to talk to him please, please help me. Thank you in advance. (link)
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He's a boy...he probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. Do you think he might have realized you like/liked him? That could be a reason for backing away if he didn't feel the same, but I don't know. It's understandable for you to not understand...I'm going through the same thing. You wish they knew you existed even if they want to be your friend, they just don't act like it. It's frustrating. Maybe you should just go up to him randomly one day...don't act like anything is wrong, and just strike up a conversation. Tell him you hope his life is going great, and to have a good day. Maybe it could be small talk, but hey...it'd be something!
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