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ok hey. so, i'm in highschool (i'm a sophomore.). i'm a female (pretty obvious?) and i need advice. duh. i haven't dated/liked ANYONE since llllaaaasssssttttt year. i really want to find someone that i can like and will like me. all my friends have boyfriends, and they are neglecting our friendship to hang out with their stupid boys. this isn't just about them, though. i really want someone who i can be with romantically. do you have any advice to help me when i don't have a boy, or to help me get one? <3 p.s. please don't give me something lame like "join a club to meet people!" lame. thanks!
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heyy.. yea sometimes it really does suck when it seems like your the only one out of your friends who dosent have a boyfriend.. you can start by deciding on a person you like.. just make sure you act like yourself..you should not have to act different when you are around guys. Start by flirting and make sure that he pays attention to you.. the one thing i do not recomend while flirting is to whine or hang on to him..its totally not hott.. o yea and about your friends.. u have to let them know how you feel.. if u feel lyk you are getting ditched for a guy then tell them... i really hope i helped. if you want to ask me another question, feel free to.. im allways around to give advice<33
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You have friends right, who have boyfriends,who most likely have guy friends of their own.
thats all i can think of for meeting one. or get good at gaming, if you are not. alot of guys ten to play videogames im sure
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get a job, it will help u spend your time doing soething productive and it wont make you feel bad about your friends and it will help you meet ppl. hope i could help.
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You don't have to join a club necessarily. Even though that isn't a bad idea...but since you thought of that before I did, probably means you are already involved. If you are involved, get to know friends in your classes. Look for guys that may be dropping you hints as if they might like you. Keep your eyes open. I'm in choir and band, that gives me plenty of options. I met the guy I'm interested in at summer camp though. There are plenty of places to meet people. Ask some of your friends boyfriends if they might know anyone that is single and might want to hang out...your friends know you best so they should know what you look for in a guy. That way, you can all hang out together. It may not work, but it's an idea. If not, remember, not EVERYONE has a b/f. I never had a boyfriend in high school until my junior year, and that boy was way worth being single for. Good luck!!! :-D
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yess, i know what you mean.. thanks for dropping one in my inbox im happy to help hahaaa. to meet guys, you really have to put yourself out there. i know it may be hard but if you don't, they aren't just gonna pop up. flirt w/ guys you think are cutee, and talk to them about stuff they like and such. before you know it you'll find that guy that you love flirting with. get his s/n/# and talk to him, developing a relationship. then start hanging out w/ groups of people. pretty soon, if not already, he'll like you & you'll have a good friendship/relationship. i hope that helps<3 as for your friends .. if it really bothers you that they ditch you for their boyfriends, bring it up. say, i don't wanna get in a fight over this but i really miss you and i feel like you never have time for me because of [boyfriend's name.] maybe we can have a girls night every now and then (or as often as you want it)? boys will come & go .. but your friends will always be there. eventually they WONT have boyfriends and you'll be the one that's there. they are probably just wrapped up in the romance & are taking you for granted .. it'll pass, trust me. but if it really bothers you & you want to fix it NOW bring it up with them. hope i helped + good luck =]
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Ah, sophmore year. So fun. My advice to you is, have one of your friends that has a boyfriend throw a little get together, her boyfriend, some of his friends. Def more then one tho so it isnt awkward and doesnt look like their trying to set you up. And then maybe another couple or something. This way it wouldnt be awkward and you could def. meet some ppl. That or if you find a guy you sort of like, go to things that he would be at to, and always just hang out w/ him a little bit more then anyone else. But not to much, clingyness is unattractive. But even if you dont get a boyfriend, its not the end of the world. Boyfriends come when you least expect it. Make it look like you dont want or need a boyfriend, what boys cant have they want. So play it off like that. i promise eventually someone will come, and they'll want you ;)
♥ MUCHO LOVE
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Join the school's academic clubs and meet some guys there!
Just kidding.
When your friends and their boyfriends hang out, tag along and meet some of the guys' friends. If you don't see anyone you're interested at school, go to the mall, movies, local concerts, etc. and see if you can meet new people.
You can't just make the perfect boyfriend appear, you've gotta go looking!
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well i'll try to answer this question :-)
well yeah you dont have to join a club or something thats true! lame :-O but uhh if you see a guy who u think is nice or whatever just go talk to him and try to become friends first! by the way you really dont need a boy to be happy cause then sometimes you get a little stressed and everything! i also dont have a boyfriend and i'm really happy :-D cause i just like to flirt with guys but uh the good thing is you CAN flirt with guys without your boyfriend getting jealous when you dont have one duuhh! you're better in school and get better grades cause you dont think of him so much and you dont "belong" to some1! just feel free and i think when the right one comes you'll know! and trust me you'll find him cause its better to be with some1 who loves you than with some1 just because you really need one!
i hope i helped !!!
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I wouldn't tell you "join a club to meet people"...Anyway, these things are not like"i want it now and i will have it now"..I know how you feel but you cannot have a boyfriend just like that!It needs time and if you continue thinking like that "i have to be with someone now" you will not be because when you will meet someone nice etc you will be stressed and you will always think "i have to be like this, i have to behave like that", so, you will not be yourself...And you will lose him.
So don't think about it.But, i will tell you what you can do..
1.Try to go out more often with your friends...There must be a friend without boyfriend.And if there isn't try to have an other new friend...Apart from the ones you have now...
2.Go shopping or watch tv or do things that you like and that will also make you forget..This will be good to start going at a gym.This will help you have a great body.Boys adore it and you have much more self confidence...
3.Smile and become more sociable.You can go out with one friend of you and her boyfriend and one friend of him.Here is a new boy!!!!
4.What else???You can flirt with a boy that you like(outward appearance)...There must be someone!!!!
5.AND MOST IMPORTANT...Don't try to find something perfect.There is no perfect boy, no perfect girl and no perfect friend...This is sure..Just try to have fun and see boys as friends too.Not only as "my next boyfriend".You shouldn't be that strict with your friends because i think that you would do the same thing, wouldn't you???And something else.1 year alone must have helped you meet new friends or have experiences...Right?Now, think about things i told you and decide!!!!
I hope i helped...Emily
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my answer is probably incredibly lame, and not what you're looking for either... but, what about your friends' boyfriends? they probably have friends. have your friends set you up on a blind date with some of them or something. the only thing i can really think of is having people that you trust set you up with someone, and see if it works out.
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first and most obvious, flirt around with guys. Not only the guy that you eventually choose to like, but also ALL the guys (especially when the guy you like is around). Here's the tricky part: Do NOT give the wrong signals to your guy friends that you flirt with. It will really tangle the plan of getting the guy you like. First of all, your guy friend may get mad that he thought you like him. Second of all, the guy you like may think you don't like him. So basically, flirt with all guys, but mostly the guy you like.
Some tricks to fliting for your guy friends are:
-wen your talking to them, always stand close to them.
-talk with a somewhat soft voice when your close to them.
-sort of touch their arms when standing close.
-always look into their eyes.
some tricks to flirting with the guy you like:
-all the same tricks above. except soft voices.
-wear the same perfume so he connects that scent with you. then when you aren't around and he smells something similiar to him, he will think of you.
-give him a nickname.
-play hard to get, until you can tell he wants you.
once you and this guy become bf/gf, go on double dates with your friends. This way you can still hang out with your friends and him.
if you have any other questions, or if i didnt clarify enough, let me know.
~brittany
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Well all I know is that you shouldn't have to "have a boy" to fit in in school. We all want boyfriends, but most likely it's not going to happen. All you can do is be a bit more social to different people at school, and someone will like you.
A good thing about being single is it makes you focus more in school. You are not so emotionally tied down either (because a lot of times you'll just end up breaking up and crying for a week anyway). Although it's nice to have a boyfriend, there are still more important things.
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Well if you really want someone to be with romantically it's going to be a little tougher probably because of your age. Most boys around your age are just looking for fun, you know how it is. Anyways, about your friendships..if they're neglecting you for their boys, most likely they aren't true friends. Talk to them about how you feel. Boys come and go, friends will always be there. If you wanna get a boy, be confident. Guys like that..smile a lot too, just not to the point of where you're being fake. Be yourself but with attitude. I've found that the more you look for a relationship the harder it is to find. Just let it come to you, it will eventually! Let me know if you need anything else.
♥ Evy
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