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My name's Kendal and i'm 17. I've been through quite alot of stuff, from heart breaks, to messed up parents with drug addictions & not being together, to fights with just about anyone about anything. I'm the youngest of 7 children, 4 brothers & now two sisters. In school I use to be the kind of girl who thought they were better then everyone else, and was the popular bitch who played varsity basketball & softball as a freshman. Alot has changed. After my older sister died things sort of started coming into perspective. And i just wanna help ppl out now. If you need anything about anything. I'm here to talk, help, listen, whatever. I dont judge, and i usually can understand where the ppl are coming from. My lifes had alot of ups and downs and i really just wanna help out. I wish i would of known about this site a few years ago! Currently i have a boyfriend, Chad. And i usually hang out w/ him and my friends after school and on the weekends. I'm super social, and i think easy to talk to. So ask me anything! Btw the user name's from the song, from the tv show; 8th and ocean. If anyone was wondering. ha. MUCH LOVE!
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okay this may be long im not sure.but sorry.
in the third grade i switched teachers because my assigned class was full and in my original classs was a super cute boy. in the fourth grade a boy grabbed a piece of paper and had to lean across from me. in the fifth grade this boy was in my class.
i was a "nerd" in fifth grade and he was a cool kid. and we would occasionally joke around and make fun of eachother. then in the sixth grade i found out he lived right down the road from me and hung out iwth my best guy friend. [oh and in middle school i wasnt a nerd anymore i had "popular" friends but stayed true to the original few] i sometimes ran into this boy at my bestfriends house. because they lived across the street from oneanother. then those two stopped being friends and that kinda limited me from seeing the boy. ever since 5th grade i developed a crush on him. and so did EVERYONE else. and i would help my two best freinds with their realitionship issues with him, never telling them my feelings. well they have both moved on from a MAJOR crush and i havent. in the summer before seventh grade i CONSTANTLY hung out iwth him and our other friends [one girl and two guys] and we kissed once during truth or dare. he would always make my friend [the girl] call me to tell me to come over and he would always im me and just compliment me and be so amazing. then in the beginning of seventh he told me friends if i asked him out he would totallly go out iwth me. and i was sooooo happy. but i oculdnt do it i wanted him to. then he would always high five me inthe hallway even infront of his friends and talk to me on the bus and just wow. then he made new friends and i dont know if they turned him against me or wat but im going into ninth grade and havent talked to him in months. honestly, i know i love this kid. i see him in theh allway or even in the class we shared togethre and he looks at me then to the floor. we both have had realitonships since this, but idk.. its love for me .. what should i do please help. i just want to be friends atleats, im not asking to end up marying this guy..i just want that high five in the hallway back..
First of all, i think its VERY cute how you have liked this boy for A VERY LONG time. It shows that you do reaaaally care about him.
If i was you i would start trying my hardest to talk to him & stuff again. Maybe have a small get together at your house before school starts & make sure he can come, then invite a few of his friends & a few of yours (that dont like him) that way you guys can all hang out, it wont be awkward & you'll def. talk to him.
But i might be kind of weird to just all of a sudden invite him over, so i would def. just start making small talk w/ him again first. Just start asking him about whats been going on like if he plays a sport - hows it going .. or like something like that. You could even say "hey i havent talked to you in forever, how have you been" if you guys both have im that might be easiest.. but i dont know how much you go on the computer or how much he does during the summer. Plus since its summer i can see how it'd be harder to see him, maybe ask someone that talks to him to have a small get together & that way you both are invited & you'll see him. Or simply have one of your friends call him & be like "do you remember _______ (your name), shes here right now here you can talk to her" hahah anything. But make sure you start talking to him, and then start hanging out w/ him.
Hopefully you'll get whatever you had back. :]
Hopefully that helped. Goood Luck ♥
i am a girl 14 and i like my neighbor who is 15 and i told him how i felt but he never said anything bac from then on it was really awkward between us but now i have been seein him more and he has become so much nicer he even IM's me now he go's to all my softball games and all that but i still don't know if he likes me or not he never told me what should i do?
If he's being nicer to you, & coming to things & becoming closer to you i would guess that he likes you. If i was you i would totally go for it, i would start hanging out w/ him more & more. & maybe eventually you two will date. its'd be a huge benefit as him as a neighbor. you'll be able to hang out w/ him alot more. Maybe let him know again, but ease into it. Like saying that you still feel the way you did. & keep inviting him to hang out. :] good luckkk Hopefully that Helped!!
Hey- so i really like this boy and he likes me alot too and we flirt alot when we hangout and on the phone and online and everything, but my friends always tell me to make the first move because i want to makeout with him but hes very shy and doesnt like to jump on girls..any advice?
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You def. dont want it to be awkward, so just start being closer to him .. just laying on him when your at places & when its dark & the moments right just lean up and start kissing him. If he really likes you alot too, i'm sure he'll enjoy it & start kissing you back, and then from there you can makeout. Dont take it super fast tho, if the boys shy you might have to wait a while. Well good luck & hopefully that helped! :]
hey- okay so i am a 15 year old girl and im gonna be a sophomore and i have liked this boy for a while now about since february. we were really cute until at the end of march i did something that hurt him and even though we were hardly together, we both got mad at eachother and that spread us apart and make us afraid of the future, now after a while we are so cute and so strong except that we fight alot and he is very shy..what can i do to stop the arguments and help him to open up a little to me because i like him alot!? thank you!
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For the fighting - i would just basically tell him that you dont wanna fight, and when a fights just starting. Say that again.. and say that you do really like him & that this really hurts the relationship. Plus dont let little things bother you. To make him open up i would def. just start opening up to him .. even more then what your probably already doing. Tell him what he means to you, and it'll make him feel more comfortable.
Hopefully that helps :] Good Luck
On July 25th my mom and my step dad will be leaving for iraq for a year and a half. My dad and my step mom are now going thru a divorce. My dad is moving us from waterford to clarkston. My dad had 2 kids with my mom, me and my brother. he also has to kids with my step mom, my younger sister and brother. Now he has to pay child support along with bills, house payments and gas money. This forces him to go back to his old job where he has gotten 3 surgerys in the past 2 years because of it. i have the option of west bloomfield or clarkston schools bcuz i can go under either adress depending on what i choose. Im just not sure were i should go. I know it would be so much easier if i went to clarkston and im VERY sick of my friends trying to guilt me into going to wst bloomfield. plus ill only be going to clarkston for two years, ill be ack with my friends in 11th and 12th grade. SO i gues im saying, what do you think i should do, what would be easier? I really would appreciate if you guys could help me.
If your gonna end up getting back w/ your friends in 11th & 12th grade if i was you i would wanna be w/ them all throughout highschool. i cant make the decision for you or anything but i just think that you'd wanna spend all four years of highschool w/ all of your friends.. if their pressuring you to go to West Bloomfield its probably b/c that want to be w/ you & that means they are good friends & if i was you i would wanna keep them. however if you go to Clarkston you'd meet alot of new people. And you would probably keep in touch w/ your old friends, plus it'd probably be more like starting over. Depends on what you wanna do. hopefully that helped a little :] good luck w/ your decision
I think I'm gonna pierce my own ear.
I have it pierced twice and my cartilage...but yea...how do I make the needle or w.e clean?
when i did my own i used peroxide. They never got infected or anything. So i would use something like that. And make sure you clean your ear w/ it too :] goood luck
hey everyone... well i need help... well my mom doesn't trust me at all anymore!!! its because i lie to her alot!!! i've tried to stop!!! but its rea;;y hard... && i do things behind her back like talk to guys... and she doesn't want me doing that either!!! so how should i get her trust back?
If you wanna get her trust back, i would start w/ showing her that you can be responsible & doing what you say you will do. Start helping out around the house more & do everything you say you're going to do. You have to commit to not lying anymore either, you cant continue to lie to her if you want her to trust her. Just think about everything before you say it, make sure you're going to do what you said.. nothing more or less then what you said & all that stuff. After a while of showing her that you are trustworthy & responsible, i think she'll trust you more :] Hopefully that helps.
i feel like my mom is running my love life. when i was 13, i met this boy. i fell madly in love with him and to this day, 2/3 years later, i'm still crazy about him. he liked me a lot. i think he still does but he's just hurt about all of this that's been going on. my mom ADORED his best friend. she told me that if i was going to like anybody that it could only be his best friend and her mind was set. she said that the other guy was ugly and stupid. so, i pretended to like his best friend infront of her. she was so happy and every time i might have hinted that there was something for the other guy, she would get soo pissed. so, i told my best friend about what was going on, and she was the only one that knew. but, then in 8th grade, my mom saw the one she thought was ugly at a party and saw how much she thought he cared for me and she liked him and stuff. and then i was at the hospital on christmas because i had a really bad cough that was non-stop for 3 days and 3 nights and the only thing that made me stop coughing was when she said his name. she dumped my boyfriend of 1 year over the internet because she says that he was sending me inappropriate things. i thought it was gross, but it wasn't worth dumping him for. he said he was sorry. but, she really shouldn't have done that. but, i recently met this guy and she says he's ugly and she doesn't like him because he's ugly and he carries things in a bag. the only reason he brought a bag was because we were going in the pool so he brought an extra change of clothes. she finds the stupidest reasons for things. she thinks he's weird or something and he's not like that, he's a very nice person and he has excellent table manners lol. but, i'm tired or her running my love life. i feel like she wants to control who i can and can't like. i've talked to her about it, but she just doesn't understand. she doesn't think anything she does is wrong. and i think all of these 3 circumstances have everything wrong with them
1) TELLING ME I COULD ONLY LIKE HIS BEST FRIEND
2) DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!
3) TELLING ME I CAN'T LIKE A BOY BECAUSE SHE THINK'S HE'S UGLY!!!!!
now she's telling me i have to like the one she thought was ugly in the first place and i still love him, but, i'm kind of just hanging around and waiting for him to come around. because, recently he was getting into things like smoking pot and stuff and i want him to outgrow it and i also don't want to make a move on him like that. i want to hint it and stuff. but, there's nothing wrong with liking someone and him getting a little jealous with it. deep down i really care about him, but that's besides the point
it'advice about my mom please
thank you
That is horrible that your mom is doing that to you. Especially just b/c she thinks their ugly. Obviously she only wants the best for her daughter, which is cute. But could get very annoying, & i guess to you already is. if i was you i would just try and not listen to her, try and show her the good things in all the guys that you like, or whatever. Show her that the boy cares for you as well. And that it really isnt her choice. But other then that, i dont know what to tell you. Just dont continue to lie to her, just say that you really dont like the other guy. And that you can like whoever you want. Say that he isnt ugly, and stand up for them in front of your mom. hopefully she'll see that you really care about them. Hopefully that helps :] & Good Luck.
AHH Please help me anyone!! My dad just started smoking and I'm sorry but I hate smoking and cigarettes and lighters and the smell I just hate every single part of it, plus I didn't want my dad to start smoking...so when he came home, I snuck into his car, and there is this little compartment where he puts his cigarettes and lighter, so I put this note to him that shows him all the bad points of smoking, and how it can effect you..and then I stole his lighter and it's hidden in my sock drawer!! But I am sooooo SCARED because he gets really mean sometimes (but he never abuses me or anything.) so I'm really scared for what he is going to do!! Was this a good idea?! I think he smokes every night outside from like 8:30 to 9:00 ( he doesnt think I know.) Please someone tell me if this was a good idea, or what I should do ?! PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!
P.S.- is it ok to keep a lighter in a sock drawer? Or will like my dresser blow up?!
Thank you so much!
Firstly your dresser wont blow up, so i think its fine there. And secondly i think what your doing is seriously the right thing, i dont know how addicted your dad is to smoking. But hopefully he will understand that you are just trying to help him. So thats good. if he gets mad just simply say i'm only caring for you, and that you dont want to see him w/ lung cancer or anything like that. Cause you love him. I think he'll appreciate it :] Good Luck.
What advice would you give a 14 year old aspiring actress who's parents don't give a damn about her dreams, who lives out in the country, and isn't the stereotype of pretty?
I would stay. Stick with it for sure. If you wanna be an actress, do it. Seriously. If you dont you're always gonna think what if you would of.
For your parents - it always seemed like mine didnt want me to do anything. And you have to start being more independent or b/c of your age maybe find someone else that does give you time to help you, like an aunt or uncle or older sibling? or older friend.. depending on who your close to. Someone who understands, a grandparent i dont know. But when you do become rich & famous, make sure you dont give your parents the credit :]
And for the stereotype of pretty. That actually i think will help you, set you apart from the rest of the ppl at the auditions you start going to if you stick to your dream.
Well goooood luck, seriously. ♥
okay..
Basicly my mom has anger problems..
Her anger is causing many problems, and her relationships with the family are at stake.
She has LOTS of anger and I think the anger management classes would be a waste for her, because she needs to know whats bothering her. If i try to tell her, she'll start yelling and slamming things around saying why do you think i'm crazy..i don't need those fucking therapists telling me whats wrong..blahblahblah.
Are there any ways to MAKE her go to therapy?
so maybe someone could help me out?
i'm pretty tired of living with this.
First of all i am sorry that you have to live w/ that in the first place. Secondly, make sure if you ever approach her on this that its a very calm approach & that you dont think shes crazy, just think shes making life hard but going off in her tranturms. Tell her that the therapists arent just going to tell her whats wrong, just tell her how to fix it. & tell her that its making things hard for you & your family as well. And that you really want her to go, make sure its respectful but shows that you really think she should. If that doesnt work, or you've already tryed that. Try telling other ppl in your family - maybe her parents, her siblings or someone closer to her in age, and also still close to her, i think if she hears it from more then one person she'll realize it more.
Hopefully that helps! Keep me updated, and i'll def give more advice if you need anything more ♥
I've heard a lot of words that I can tell are sexual and I figured all of them out but two...
1) What does it mean to be "fingered" (ex:Would I mind if he fingered me)
2)Being hitted on (ex: he was hitting on me)
I've been so confused, thanx
Fingered is when the guy sticks one or more of his fingers up inside you (where you would insert a tampon) & being hit on - is when someone is flirting w/ you, usually means they wanna get w/ you as well.
hopefully the helps & your not as confused now :]
I wear black eyeliner right now. But i was watching The Tyra Show and she said that White eyeliner makes your eyes stand out more. If Thats True Does it look good.
If you can answer by tomorrow or saturday. Thats wonderful but Anytime IS good also.
Thank you.
Honestly, white eyeliner might look kind of weird in my opinon. BUT DEF. TRY IT FIRST. See how it looks on you, and if you dont wanna buy it w/out knowing how it looks. I reccommend you go to the beauty area of a store (like where they sell the makeup, jewlery & stuff) and ask one of those ladies if you can try it. That way you can tell for yourself. Also other colors can help make your eyes stand out more, find out what color is right for you - you can also do it at one of those stores. Hopefully that helps :]
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months now and he said he loves me..How long do you have to be going out to know if you love someone. Or is it not time constrained??
Def. not time constrained. You'll know when you love him to, it seriously is a gut feeling. like when you know you can be completely comfortable in front of them. I dont know if you've ever read the quote like saying something like wanting a boy you could go to in sweatpants, makeup running, hair a mess or something like that and he says he loves you. I think really thats how its gotta be, be able to wear no make up, a old t-shirt & sweats & your hair just dryed from being wet. Completely natural, and he still thinks your beautiful.
As for you knowing when you love him. Its def. not if your questioning yourself about it. I mean you probably REALLY like him, but you'll know when you love him.
Aw! Well hopefully that helped! & i hope your in love&hearts :]
I'm 16f, and i've been having sex with my boyfriend for the past year or so (maybe a little bit longer) I feel like i'm being a bad child, by not telling my mom. But i really think it would be awkward if i told her. What do you think i should do?
You for one shouldnt feel like a bad child, as long as your doing it safely, but you could do it even safer. If you did tell your mom, she could take you to the doctors & get you on birth control & stuff like that. I dont know however how your mom would feel about you doing, but i dont think many moms would be too upset i mean your 16. Just i wouldnt add that you've already been doing it for a year, maybe. Let her first know that you are, and if she doesnt get mad then yeah me honest with her. So yeah i would tell her. & just say you thought she should know.. hopefully that helps :]
I was considering buying some colored eyeliner. But then i started thinking, is that tacky? Is it better to just stick to black and brown liner? Also i was wondering if colored liners come in liquid. I really need to buy some new make-up i have some MAC eyeshadow and i really like it so is there any similar kind of high-end make-up that isn't to expensive.I know that this is a lot of questions in one but, does it look better to line the top thin or thick and line just the top or does it look better to line the top and bottom. Sometimes when i line the bottom of my eye the liquid will get it with my contact.
So just any thoughts on this would be awesome.
Sorry its kind of long.
I've heard that if you have blue eyes to wear green or brown eyeliner, if you have brown eyes to wear purple or black, and if you have hazel eyes to wear either a light or dark blue.
Also i'm not positive, but i'm pretty sure there is color liquid eyeliner.
Also - what i said about the colors you dont have to completely follow, definitely try a bunch so you can see what looks best on you. i like to wear purple, but so does my friend & she has bright blue eyes, it looks really good w/ her tho. So Yeah. Lastly, i use Almay & its not too expensive, but not liquid.. which is probably a little more expensive depending on what quality you want tho, depends on how much you'll spend.
OH yeah & just to help you out a little bit more, if you go to like the beauty department in like a Kohl's or something like that, if you ask some of the ladies will let you try the eyeliners that they think are best, and let you put on like 3 or 4 different colors or kinds. So you might wanna try doing that at a store like that :] Well goood luck finding some that works for you ♥ Hopefully i helped!
i'm completely stuck to my past. there's there two boys, let's call them cole and tommy. now, cole was my first boyfriend and tommy was my first love. somehow, one day, they popped in my mind. both of them. and now, i act like i'm going out with them, getting jealous with every girl that talks to them, being selfish. it just seems weird that they suddenly comes back to my life, and everything that happened between me and them just comes back to mind. now, i just want to be part of their lives all over again, and be more than friends to them. but they seemed to have moved on. and i guess i need to, too. but i can't do it. i want them back. i want everything back. now i'm just cherishing everything i had, and blaming myself for not being able to know what i had before i lost it. and last night, i suddenly had the urge of asking cole out. i would feel weird, but i do like him again, but i don't wanna seem like i'm desperate for a boyfriend or anything. what should i do? i really need perspective on this, from everybody. thanks in advance.
I think i kind of understand where your coming from. My friend use to call me at night crying that she couldnt get over boys that didnt like her anymore, but that she had been w/ in the past. Its hard. If they really dont wanna be w/ you then i dont know what to tell you other then to move on. but if there is even a slight chance that the do, stick w/ it. Show them that you care for them & you wanna be really good friends, or for Cole maybe more. Your not desperate for a boyfriend, so dont even think that or let anyone else. Your in love. I dont know how long its been since you've been w/ him, but if it hasnt been that long chances are that he still has feelings for you too. And as for getting jealous of every girl that talks to them is COMPLETELY NORMAL. i get jealous of some girls talking to my best guy friends, that just shows that you care about them.. which is good. So yeah, i think start becoming friends w/ them again. Good friends. & if your nothing more, just stay good friends w/ them. I think if you show "Cole" that you like him, that he'll eventually ask you out too, if he has feelings for you as well. Well goood luck :] hopefully that helped!
As you know, I recently put in a question. I'm doing a lot better and have a new little puzzler for you. If you have't read my other question, my boyfriend is moving to Belgium. I was just wondering what i should get him for a going away present. Something really special and personal. Love, ringo8mybaby.
First of all thats incredibly sad that he's moving & i'm sorry. But as a gift, i think a scrapbook to remember you of him & you would be perfect. And very personal, he'll know that you took your time on it. Also if i was you i'd make him a blanket, i dont know if you've ever seen those ones that you like knot on the sides but they are really easy to make. (if you dont know what i'm talking about, just ask i'll explain it to you - like how to make it & stuff) & that way he could have it w/ him when he goes to bed & stuff. Obviously i would pick out like his favorite colors or something, not like girly, but i think he would appreciate it too :] That's personal too. Also i would write him a letter [maybe put it in the scrapbook] just saying how much he means to you, how much you'll miss him & stuff like that. VERY PERSONAL. and he'll love to re-read it when he misses you. Lastly - save a little money for yourself, or money for him to have a plane ticket to go visit him or him to come back & visit you. If you have that much money. That will give hope that you'll keep in touch ♥ Well good luck & tell me what you end up doing!
Hey,
Im 15, and I still have not had a boyfriend, or hooked up with a guy...
it never really bothered me before but lately it has been.
My best friend since 4th grade (who lives in Texas) (I live in Philly) has had alot more experience with guys than me.
It makes me kind-of jealous, and i dont want to be like...behind her if that makes sense?
alot of girls at my school just give in and do any guy that is willing to do them. There's not alot of people who are in an actually relationship.
I hate my school. All the guys are a-holes.
and i have confidence in myself too i model, im sweet, im funny...
im just really shy.
now im just babbling.
To get to the point I dont want to just hook up with some ass hole who doesnt care about me. But.. i dont want to be prude.
Thanks.
-Anna
I think its good that you havent hooked up w/ some random guy at your school, especially if their all "aholes" keep w/ your morals. The right guy will come :] and then you can experience w/ whatever you havent done. But i can see how you wouldnt want to not do anything at all, so in the mean time if i were you try meeting guys at other schools. I'm sure you'll find at least one guy & then you can actually have a relationship w/ him ♥ Good luck!
i'm super scared to start highschool. And i dont even know why, but is there any way to make it less scary?
Highschool isnt really that bad at all, i actually really enjoyed my freshman year. and i think you will to. Just dont be nervous, have fun, and try to get involved in alot of things. Plus stay w/ your friends till you make new ones, that way you wont be alone! Good luck! & have fun, seriously - Highschools the best :]