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HEyyy guyss..im Paige im 15 and i can give you totalyy cool advice:)I have a LOT of experiance with friends,drama,boyfriends, and if you need advice for problems with popularity..i will try my hardest to help
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my cousin is having money problems right now is there anyway that you guys no of that I can do to help her thanks? (link)
tell herr to get a job.. i hear that helpss.. duh


So there is this kid i like, a lot. we are in the same school, and a couple of the same classes. he and i are both scorpio, and we get along great. we have so much fun together! tonight, i was txting him, and he asked if i thought he should go out with anyone this year, and i said idk, so he said that he would like to go out with his ex, which made me a little jelous. then he told me all about how good he is with parents, and then he said, " who knows. maybe youll see it for yourself some day." so i asked what he ment, and he was like "idk." what do you all think?

thanks,

meeee! (link)
it sounds to me that he likes you! he has been giving many hints and he probably want to make sure that you like him before he goes and askes you out..he probably thought that by bringing up his ex it would get you to admit ur feelings for him. good luck


well.all the boys that i would like, like these girls. it gets really annoying and its just upseting. They are literally obsessed, and really don't care about any of the other girls. i feel like i cant like these boys cause they will always like that same girl. I dont know what to do because i can't talk about any of this with the other girls because they get annoyed by it. i get really confused with some of the boys because they flirt with me like a lot but then they say that they love the other girl. then the next day the boy ignores me and just starts all over again being obsessed with that one girl. its hurts my feelings. Please help me and give me advice on what to do!! (link)
do the girls like the boys...if the girls like the boys you like then you should probably not come between them, but if the girlss really dont like the boys then you really have to just walk up to them and flirt as much as you can ..maybe you can get the girls to tell the boys that they dont like them and that they are acting silly by waiting around for them when it is never going to happen..i reallyy hope i helpedd..if i didnt then definitly comment back if you need more advice


There's this guy. He confuses me so bad! Like at a dance lastnight we were together the whole first part & then this girl is like a stalker & begged him to dance with her. & I took it as him liking her. Well today we had "yearbook signing" & we were together again & I didn't really have the courage to talk to him so he thought I was mad at him. We were talking and he told me that he didn't and stuff. Well he's always calling my name & notices if I don't talk to him. He's extremely cute & tomrrows the last day of school. I wish i could tell him but I don't think I can. Please help I can never tell waht to do. High rates for REAL answers. (link)
YOU HAVE TO TELLL HIM!!!
juss lyk pull him to the side and be like i really like you and i was hoping we can be more then just friends but if u dont want to then we can stsill be friends...that like the best way to set thing strait


i was rapped--twice.and i was telling my cousin about it (online) and her sn is sord of like this perverted (but we were cool) kids sn..and i ACCIDENTALY IMed him insted of my cousin..so he knows all about my rape. he now hates me..and i tried talkin to him but hes being rude and wont talk to me and if he does its an insult. then he IMed me and was like,"im ganna tell everyone" and went on his away message and it said " (my name) GOT RAPED!"im soo upset..my friend offered for her bf to beat him up..but hes not answering his phone or anything.. (2 people know about the rape)..WHAT SHOULD I DO??!!
anything will help at this point

love always and forever
sam (link)
ohh my godd thats really sad... welll first of all he is a major dick if he would do that to you and tell people and stuff... confront him and talk to him calmly..let him know that what happened is really personal and you were really hurt when people found out about it.hope i helped


I'm really skinny, except I have a big stomach. When I wear tight shirts like Abercrombie shirts, it hangs out. & Also my hips are really huge and I think I'm a little too wide.

What could I do to get a flat stomache besides a good diet, crunches, and situps. And what can I do to make my hips/waist smaller? (link)
well you cant really get your hips smaller since they are pretty much your bones but maybe you can try joining a gym or taking something like pilates or yoga...try doing some sports and cut out as many fats and sugars possible...hope i helped!

♥paige


I have a crush on this kid in my grade and the thing is i don't even like know him...I never talk to him and when he comes online i go onto my friends sn to talk to him because they talk more...i don't know why i like him and i think it is ridiculous but i really want a way to be closer to him and start talking any suggestions? (link)
well i think you should stop talkin t him on your friends sn... it isnt really making him like you anymore and if you really want him to like you alot then you have to start talking to him...become his friend and someone he just cant get out of his mind. flirt constantly and just act like yourself... make sure he gets to know the real you and just act yourself


It was my birthday a couple of days ago. I was at work when I checked my voice mail messgages. I male friend of mine left a really sweet message. He was singing happy birthday in a really romantic voice. Then he said he would be sending me a small gift in the mail ( he lives out of town). None of my other male friends have done that for me? Do you think it sounds like he may like me as more than a friend? (link)
it sounds to me that he realy does like u.. maybe he is just not lyk other guys but i know many guys would not be so thoughtfull. he is a keeper especially if he was did something that cute


What's the best way to get over a guy I like?

I've known him since I was like two (when I moved here) and was like best friends with him back then. Now he's still one of my really good friends and I've liked him for about 2 months, and I mean REALLY liked. Now he's taken by one of my other really good friends (yes, they both knew I liked him but I told them it was ok so it's my fault). Now everytime I talk to him, I fall faster, but I can't not talk to him because, well he's my friend. (link)
find another guy!!!

well if u really honsetly want to get over him u just have to move on.


I went out with this guy, but then he broke up with me. The next day, my friend becky started flirting with him. I still like him a lot and he said he likes me to, he also said that breaking up with me was a mistake and he regrets it. He asked me out again but i said it was too soon..but he said that he also liked me friend becky and i dont want them to go out because i still like him and yeah. My friends said if i ever went out with him again then that would be a wrong choice, and they will get mad at me, because they ignored him and stuck up for me and stuff. He asked me out again and then i said its too soon. I want to go out with him again, because i loved going out again, he was so nice to me and everything. Then, he said he isnt sure if we should go out again. Im thinking that he might ask out becky, which once again i dont want to happen. Im so upset right now, i like cant even breathe. Everytime i talk to him or see him i get butterflies and i want everything to go back like it was, it was perfect. Please help me with everything. Ill rate high=)
thanksbye (link)
well i hate to tell u hun but u kinda messed up..you shouldnt have even broken with him in the first place..try to explain to him that you messed up big and you would really try your hardest to be the best girl friend ever if he goes out with you again


okay.
so i like this boy, right?
yeah. at my school dance i slowdanced with him.
and i really started to like him. the next day was my schools basketball game. and she was thier. he kept talking to me and yelling at me but in like a flirting way. and he kept touching me. whenever i walk by him and when we talk i get butterflies. i dont know if he knows i like him. should i tell him? what can we talk about to try and get him to like me if he already doesnt? thxxx (link)
i think that you should definitly flirt as much as possible with this guy and if he still dosent say anything just confront him and ask him yourself if he lyks u


Ok so I have been seeing this guys *Jim* for a little over a year and I really love him. We makeout all the time, he's gotten up my shirt and just today he fingered me many times and I gave him a blowjob. Now I know this may not seem like alot to you but for me it is and that might be just because I`m 13. Now I have a question would you consider me a slut? How much do you think he likes me. (I am his first girlfriend, first kiss, first everything)? please answer this i am so nervous and scared. (link)
no.. you are not a slut if you only do it with yourr boyfriend.. if you do it with many different guys. I am sure he loves you and you mean alot to him


Ok well theres this girl named paige and like shes my bedt friend but i feel bad becuase something happened 2 nights ago and she just found out. And like how do i tell her that i didnt want like anyone to know or something?!

I LOVE YOU PAIGE MARIE DIFF.

♥elisa (link)
ohh my ggooshh..causeee u r going out withh tyler??? i dont care i forgive you cause thats whats best friends are forrr


how do you get guys to notice you more? i mean i'm not ugly but i dont think i'm "hott" so what should i do? i think i have a nice personality...but idk. (link)
flirt more.. be more friendly with guyss and tell them they are awesome n stuff like that.. but dont be all over themm..make them want you


Well today i approached my boyfriend that i told one of my friends he was cute. But it meant nothing because it was over myspace, and i was commenting his pictures. I mean being i have a boyfriend, i can't be super nice because then he'd get mad. He wasn't too happy about it but he said as long as it meant nothing that it's fine. And it didn't, see i think he's worried though becuase my friend that i called cute thinks i'm the most gorgeous girl he's ever saw and all that.

My thing is that i've tried telling my boyfriend that it means nothing in multiple ways, i've told him straight out, i told him not to worry, but i still have a feeling he does worry, because now he asks if me and my friend talk, and what we talk about.

So my question is how can i prove to my boyfriend who i love dearly and would never "drop" him for anyone, that there is nothing to worry about?

I'll rate high for good answers.

Thanks so much in advance. (link)
well besides just telling him .. run up to him and give him a bigg kiss or somethingg..maybe he will just forget about it... if u want to continue being friends with the other kid make sure he know that you 2 can only be friends!!



i moved from my home-city to live with my sister for 6 months now, im moving back home in a couple of months. i miss my ex we didn't date long but i know something was there for sure. and i can't seem to let that go. so am i just like obsessed with him or what? i miss him. :( hes so perfect. and i don't think anyone can love him more than i can. i wanna talk to him so bad but im afraid its gonna be awkard like last time. sometimes it seems like hes talking about me when hes online and leaves messages. i don't want to get my hopes up. what should i do? i wanna get over this guy! hes taking up too much space in my heart! (link)
talk to him.. tell him that you are moving back and that you really care about him and it will really mean soooooooooooooo much if u can get back together..



14/f
I am in love. I know your probably thinking "A fourteen year old can't be in love!", but i am. Last night it all became clear to me. This is what happened:

There was a dance. I was kinda pissed at my friends for something so I hung around my guy friend who I used to like instead. Of course, we danced and stuff. We slow danced to two songs and grinded to one. As I said before, I used to like him, and then I realized something: I still did. I started liking the person I liked before last night just to get over the one I was dancing with. But the truth is I can't. I feel hot and cold at the same time when I'm with him, happy and sad. When he holds me in his arms I feel safe, like nothing in thee world could possibly happen to me. I want him more than I want anything else.

Now the problem: as far as he has told me, he likes my friend. He told me last night before we got really close. I think he still does. Now everyone, even teachers, think we are/should go out. And I want to but I don't know if he does. What do I do? Sorry, this was long. (link)
i think you should ask him if he has any feelings for you.. tell him how you feel..its not worth waiting..you have to take the chance


ok well... i have liked this boy for almost 3 years. and now me and him go out and it didnt take us long to kiss b.c we have kissed b4 and stuff.. but now we are to the point.. that he touches my boob and i like grope his penis. and like we talked about it he doesnt think we are going to fast and nor do i. we have been going out for almost 2 months... and i know! we wont go any farther.
so.. i dont know.. do you think we are going to fast.
and we touch ONLY outside of clothes.

well have like rules we made up..
btw im 14 and hes 14

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i think it is totally fine at the pace you are going.. it dosent hurt to do anything OUTSIDE of the clothes..just make sure that you feel uncomfortable at ANY time you let him know... if you dont feel like doing anything then just say no thank you.. if he really cares about you (which i am sure he does) then he wont do anything that you dont want to do


well my friend broke up wit her boyfriend for Ex. its been weeks and the ex is finally gettin over her, well now i start to have feelings for him..hes now talkin to a gurl who likes him (but he doesnt like her back) and me and him are talkin..at a party we were drunk and all over each other...my friend broke up wit her boyfriend and the same day went out with her X (the guy i like) she doesnt seem like shes into him at all, only want him cuz hes moving on from her..selfish ( i think..)it seems like i coulda had a chance.. should i even bother? or back off cuz hes her "property" now.. (link)
i think you should definitly go for him.. your friend should be the one who backs off because she dosent have reall feelings for him.. tell her that you like him now and thats it will really mean a lot to you if she let you be with him..hope i helped



my friends were bugging the guy i like about this thing i have to go to that i want to go w/ him to he said if i want to go i had to ask myself so i did.he said he didnt know about may 12th which i already knew. im worried that hes saying that b/c he doesnt want to go but doesnt want to hurt my feelings im really scared its got me sooo stressed and frustrated that i dreamt about it all last night and im exausted. ill find out soon enough what he meant but its bugging me soooo much and i just want an answer i really like him but dont want him to take pitty on me b/c i hate that what do i say to him? i need to know by thursday if hes going b/c tickets go on sale soon. is he just trying to not hurt my feelings? whats his deal annd what do i say? sorry this is sooo long i just really need some help im so confused im ready to just break down. please help! thanks!! (link)
i think you should go strait up to him and ask him to his face wether or not he would like to go with you.. it takes a lot of guts and confidence but its the easiest way to find out... i think if you ask him he will think more of you and chances are that he will say yes!!





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