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Now everyone is dating really young and having boyfriends when their 13. i'm 13 and have had a couple of boyfriends but guys are just plain jerks sometimes at that age. most girls are crazy about dating young but older girls that have waited say that it is worth it to wait to date until your older. does anyone have any opinions on the topic?
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You may think its a bit old but I think 16 is a good age for a girl to start dating a guy one on one. When you are 13 it isn't really dating because the guy isn't going to pick you up in his car and take you out for a dinner and a movie. At best a parent hauls you around and/or you hang out in the halls at school. I think at 13 you go out in a group with other people and at 16 you seriously start dating. :)
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18/M About 6 months ago i was burned bigtime by a girl that i liked. In retrospect i went overboard with planing out every miniscule detail. Now a new girl has found her way into my life. She likes the same things as me and shares the same musical interest, BUT the problem is that i am also good friends with her parents and im not sure if they would let her date yet. What would be a good way to get the parents approval. (The parents own a local coffee shop that I frequent) (link)
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If her parents like you they probably wouldn't mind your dating their daughter. You don't give her age but if she is not much younger it should all work out. You won't know until you try so go for it. :)
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im not concited. but i am well liked at my school. everyone thinks im...
exsperienced such in the kissing section. well ... im not... when you come from my elementry u are like a goodie good. not that i am but what ever. so anyways i havnt had my first kiss cause im not a hoe and im saving it.
is that soo wrong. and if i do kiss someone. would it all just come soo much more naturally? (link)
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Don't kiss anyone until you are ready. You will know when that is naturally. You are not wrong, a girl shouldn't just go kissing for the heck of it! :)
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does it hurt wen u get ur period (link)
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Your actual period does not hurt. Some girls have abdominal cramps and/or breast tenderness but not everybody.
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ok well i have a bf that iv been gion out with for about 3 months,im not sure wether to stay with him or not,i mean all of my friends are telling me to brake up with him and try out some other gies,but i love him and sometimes i dont i have no clue what to do,pleasse help me!!! (link)
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You do what your own heart tells you to do and not what well meaning friends might think. If you really care for your guy then stay with him and ignore the friends. :)
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ok if someone is pregnent how soon would morning sickness kick in? and do all women get morning sickkness? do most women get morning sickness by the time they are 2 weeks pregnent? (link)
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Morning sickness can come on any time at all. Probably by the time the first period is missed. No, not all women get morning sickness. Many don't. 2 weeks may be a little early for morning sickness but I'm not 100% sure about that. If someone thinks they are pregnant you can get a home test almost anywhere these days. The local health clinic is a good place to go too. :)
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my bestfriend lives across the street from me.. well she talks to this guy who is 16 on aim and we are both 13 well hes not a virgin... since shes been talking to him her personality has changed big time. hes smokes pot and drinks all the time and shes starting to act like him. heres the bad thing she sneaks out of her house at 2 a.m and doesnt get back until 5 a.m. well she has done this the last 2 nights and im worried that something bad will happen.. they almost got caught out by the police 2 times.. id this keeps up shes gonna end up getting raped or something by him.. how can i tell her to stop this or something might happen.. any advice will be helpful and most appreciated..
thanks
signed
worried friend (link)
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I think this is something you need to go over her head with. Go talk to her mom. She can probably catch her at it without even involving you. Your friend is going to wind up in serious trouble if she keeps it up. :)
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My mom and I fight alot,and when we do it's bad. She never wants me to have any style, she wants me to buy the cheap stuff. She doesn't understand that kids do tease you if your wearing a shirt with Barbie on it. I used to be known for my style at school but since my dads paycut she wont even let me get a haircut because "It Costs Money." I know it costs money, everything does, but there are something a girl needs like shaving cream and actual razors not like those crap disposable ones. It's not like we have no money whats so ever. We're just struggling, I buy all my own clothes and things. Its gettin to the point where she wont buy my the shampoo I need or the toothpaste I need. She always insists on the cheap stuff and I'm sick of it cause we always end up fighting about it. She thinks I need a job, but what job *besides babysitting* can a 13 year old do ?!?! PLEASE HELP ME. I know its long, but I'd greatly appreciate it. (link)
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Maybe you need to try and see moms dilemma here and the arguments would end. When it comes to food or fancy shampoo etc. Food is gonna win. I agree with mom, if you want those things you need to find a way to pay for them yourself. I realize that as a young teenager those kind of things are important to you, but as a mom she has better uses for the extra pennies saved by getting the cheaper brands. Electricity, water, gas for the car....so many things kids tend not to think about. Don't be so hard on her because I am sure she wishes she could get you what you want. :)
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Ok, so i went camping with my boyfriend this weekend and we had an amazing time. When we got back, i had made plans with my friends to hang out with them on monday night. Well he got home from a really bad day of work and called me and i only had like 3 minutes to talk to him so i asked him how his day was and shared mine, then i told him i had to go. He acted kind of mad and i was just like whatever, we've hung out every day this summer and all weekend. So i went and hung out with my friends and when i got home he was really mad at me and told me that i blew him off. He said that he really needed me when he got home from work and that i shoudl ahve made time to talk to him because he was having a miserable day. The thing was i didn't realize he needed me so bad. We are all made up now and stuff cause we talked about it and got over it. Am i at fault here?
16/f with 19/m b/f of 9 1/2 months (link)
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Here is where the age difference is a problem. He is ready for total commitment and you still feel a need to be with your friends. I don't think you did anything wrong. It isn't like your married to him yet. Next time he needs to let you know what he wants instead of just getting mad about it. Because he is older he should realize that, since he doesn't I hope you have let him know. :)
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ok I have been doing about 60 situps a day and now my stomiac hurts in the bottom of it. REALLY BAD to. Whats wrong and whats going on. I will rate all 5'd 4 good answers. (Please exuse the misspelled words) Thanks (link)
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Its probably jut your muscles. Try doing something to warm up before you do so many sit ups. :)
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ok so theres this guy and i really like him and he really likes me. but were not going out. its a long story. anyways he asked me if i have ever kissed anyone and i said no and he was like well maybe i can change that next time we go to the movies. i was like um..ok. but now i dont no wat to do. because we might go to the movies on sunday. and like i dont no if i really want to kiss him. part of me does and part of me doesn't. if i don't how do i tell him? please help me i will rate high! thanks in advance! (link)
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Simply tell him you like him and all that BUT, we aren't dating and I'm not ready to kiss you yet. :)
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okay this is really hard to explain but i'll try...my best friend ryan (shes a girl) moved and she went out with this guy hunter...hunter imed me one day (after him and my friend broke up) and we talked and stuff and he was so sweet and i thought i liked him but i had a boyfriend and i told him i did so ya...my boyfriend was like a really good friend 2 but i didnt think it was fair to date him when i really liked hunter you know so i broke up with him and on aim i was talking to hunter that same day.and i said guess what and he goes what and i was like i broke up with andrew and he goes you kno whats coming next...will you go out with me! i really wanted to say yes but i wanted to ask my friend first to make sure she was like over him and i said hunter asked me out...do you care if i say yes and she ignored me and started cussing hunter out and then so hunter imed me and said...maybe we should wait,i still like you,and im not taking it back i love you,you just broke up with your boyfriend though,so lets wait. and all that was fine with me....well two days later my friend ryan came and stayed at my house for like a week and then 1st night she was there,hunter and me were texting and he called me and we talked for lk 4 hours (it was the first time we has talked on the phone) anyways and then the next day me and ryan went with my uncle to look at his new house and hunter texted me and i said im out of texts so i cant talk now and so i said he could text ryans phone...so he did and he was like can you hand tayler the phone for a sec...so she did and i gave it back to her (i was like in the car talking to my uncle and i didnt want to like be texting him) and then she handed it to me again and it said "will you go out with me" and again i handed her the phone and just thought i will talk to him about it later...then he texted ryans phone again and said " i really like you...but i guess you dont like me" so then i felt horrible so i texted him back and said "no no i do like you its just i dont want you to hurt me" and he said "i would never hurt you,i love you too much" so then i said "are you sure this is what you want" and he said "i wouldnt want it anyother way" so i said yes...and he was a good boyfriend for like a week and then we would be like talking online and he would say i gtg baby i will call you tonight...then he wouldnt call and then we would fight and all this stuff...and it happened like 3 times...then he texted me and was like "baby im sorry i've been a bitch and im such a dumass for treating you like this and im lucky that you stuck around this long please forgive me...things will change i will be the boyfriend you deserve which is better that what i have been" and then he was better (we still hadnt met in person.but we did see lots of pictures) then he broke up with me said he wanted to be friends and then we would talk ever day texting...but he wouldnt talk to me on the phone and he would always ask me for pictures then the fourth of july he texted me and said "we dont need to be friends" i was like okay whatever..after this im not giving you anymore chances and he goes i dont care your ugly and and i go your not excactly the hottest guy i have dated eitehr and he goes oh ya thats why u wanted me soo bad and i was like it wasnt you i wanted hun it was a boyfriend but its fine cause im over it and he didnt text me back for like three days and when he did he re-wrote what i had written him the "it wasnt you i wanted hun it was a boyfriend but thats okay im over it" and then he wrote oh thats nice you played me..and he was like look im sorry ok can we jsut start over i understand if you dont want to be friends i jsut feel guitly sayin all that shit to you and im sorry and then we talked and i was like well i dont know if i can be friends with you...you hurt me and he said and you hurt me and im sorry and i was like well i only said it cause you were being rude and acted like you hated me and even though i liked you i wasnt gonna be like oh baby im sorry i love you...and he was like i jsut said it cause i had nothing to say and said he had to go and asked me to get on aim the next morning so i did and we worked everything out and then we talked on the phone every so often and then this whole thing happened where he said sorry i cant call you and i sent a message to christina (a girl thats friends with me and hunter) and it said if he calls you three way me and i accidently sent it to hunter and he was like yeah he got really mad at was like you thought i would to you blah blah blah and said i hate you get out of my life then the next morning he texted me and said sorry i was jsut upset cause i thought you lied to me and i for some reason forgave him and we talked and we "friends" and then he said i like you and i was like ok..and he would say i love you and i want to meet in person and all this"well he said that one night and the next morning he said i dont like you anymore theres no other girl theres jsut no girl at all...and then we just talked as "friends" and then he was on the phone with christina and asked her to three way me so she did but i didnt really talk directly to him cause he was only on the phone for like 5 minutes cause then he had to go and i stayed on the phone and chrisitna said hunter told me to tell you he likes someone..but he wont say who and i was like okay so later that night hunter texted me and i asked him who he liked and he was like i dont want to tell anyone and i was like okay well if you get ready to tell someone you can trust me and he was like ok and he said i like justins girlfriend,ariel (justins his best friend)and then he said i gotta go i will be back on later (he has been texting me from his sn) then his friend justin was like hey and i go hi and he was like whats wrong and i said stuff with hunter and he goes like what? and i said its jsut hard liking someone that doesnt like you back and justin said do you know who he likes and i said no and he goes if you do please tell me i wont tell him i sware and i said im sorry but im not gonna do that to him and he said this is hunter on justins sn i jsut wanted to see if i could trust you and i can so thanks and i dont like ariel i like you and it turns out him and justin were together the whole time and i was like ok no big deal i couldnt be mad cause he liked me again and then i didnt talk to him for 3 days and he texted me and said i dont like you i like someone else sorry and i got on aim and i was like who do you like and he said well i like you but u live really far away but if you move here i would love to go out with you (we live like 20 minutes away,and my parents are looking at houses out there) and so i was like so theres no other girl and he goes no there is her names courtnei and i like her alot and i was like oh and then i found out he has asked her out and she liked him and he liked her the only thing keeping them from going out was that she had a boyfriend when i started typing this i just wanted to see what you thought but unfortunately since its so long since the beginning of this i jsut found out in his friends away message that him and courtnei are going out and i dont know what to do i mean i want to just tell him off and be like im sicking of you treating me liked this and i could careless if we ever speak again and stand up to him but that would screw everything up with us for good and a big part of me still wants him..i dont know why cause i have had guys that treat me 10x better and since we broke up two guys have asked me out but i have said no for him...i was waiting for him and then he jsut moves on like im nothing and i feel like just...i dont know im just really upset and dont know what to do everyone tells me oh my gosh taylor just move on but i cant its i dont know theres something about him that i cant let go of...what that is i dont know cause i mean hes hott but not that hott hes nice sometimes and i just i dont know should i tell him that i like him that i love him that i want him that i hate him or as hard as it may be jsut not talk to him and see if he comes back to me or even notices im not there for him...or if he cares anyways please please help me... *** broken hearted
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I think you need to find someone who really likes you. Who knows how many girls this...oh forgive me I don't want to hunt his name down lets call him text boy...has on the string. Maybe he is chatting up so many he can't keep it straight who he is talking to. Whatever the case, he needs to do some growing up.
You need a guy who you can see all the time and who gives you all his attention. Forget text boy, just ignore him, block him whatever it takes and move on. :)
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I have the weirdest phobia (Well to me) I can not swallow pills. My sister used to have trouble with it too, but she eventually got over it. My younger brother has ADD so he has to have pills so he it's no problem for him. But when I was little I had choked on something and I blacked out before it was dislodged, and even though I know it's not going to happen just because I try swallowing a pill, I still have a "pill phobia". Anyway is there anything I can do that will help me get over it. Or just ways to make swallowing pills easier? I'm almost 15, and a sophmore in high school, and I'm still telling doctors when I'm sick that I need a liquid or chewable, I don't want to be an adult doing the same thing. It's embarassing. I have friends that won't swallow a pill unless they have to, but even if it was the only way, I'd rather just be sick. So if you have tips on making swallowing pills easier or just getting over the phobia, please let me know!! Thanks in advance! (link)
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Don't be embarrassed by asking doctor for liquid medicine when available. Many adults have trouble swallowing pills for one reason or another. Putting them as far back on your tongue, or putting them in chocolate syrup might help....but bet you've already tried those. Just know you aren't alone and don't fret over it :)
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This is going to sound so stupid. But I've been noticing some hair under my arms and its getting really dark so I want to shave it. The only problem is that my mom and sister shave their underarms but it leaves bumps and little black stubs/dots. Is there anyway that I can shave and not get any stubble? Like if you shave with a certain razoe, is it possible to have NO stubble? Any tips on shaving would be great! Sorry so long. Thanks! (link)
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The black stubble is what you get when the hair stars growing back in. Nair or something like that does the best job ( and yes I know it smells bad) of keeping it away longer. :)
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my mom is always saying im ugly. last sunday for church, i let my hair dry into natural curl/waves and she said it was ugly and i should brush it (badddd idea) and wear some makeup because my face looked "bad". i didnt wear earrings & she always says i look bad when i dont wear them. when i do wear makeup for other occasions she says i look like a prostitute. i dont know what to do anymore! i cant always be best dressed and miss cheerful like she was when she was my age. shes always telling me how thin she was and how everyone liked her figure just to rub it in my face that i have no womanly shape. my dad says i look ok because he sees what it does to my self esteem. everytime i get the slightest blemish, shes the first to point it out. i hate it! someone please help me! any advice will help! ill rate 5s... (link)
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You will have to learn to ignore her comments. Her idea of what looks good and what doesn't may not be the same as yours. You need to fix your hair, makeup etc. to suit yourself ( and the times) and not what looked good when she was your age. She may be feeling that shes getting old and and wants to feel young by trying to be your friend instead of acting like a mom. You should tell her that while you appreciate the fact that she thinks she is helping....she isn't. She is hurting your self esteem instead. If all else fails just ignore her. :)
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how do you know if you have an std without getting tested (link)
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You don't know you have an STD unless you get tested. And its very important that you do. Some of them can have very bad consequences.
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Sorry, this might be long, takes some explaining. Btw, I'm 16/f. I've been completely in love with a guy friend of mine for 2 years, and I stressed about how to tell him. I went to one of his closer friends, (we'll say Jake), and asked if he thought (we'll say Jon) had any feelings of that nature towards me, or if he knew that I liked him. (I wasn't that subtle about it, and he'd have to be pretty dense not to get some clue as to it.) Well Jake ended up telling Jon, and he replied that he saw us as just friends. About a week later, a friend told me that Jake was /majorly/ upset that I liked Jon, because he was totally into me. That same day, I had talked to Jon, and he said that he really did have feelings towards me, and we kind of just worked out our feelings for eachother. But Jake didn't know this and he asked me out, and after about a week of stressing how to tell him, because he's one of my best friends and I /really/ didn't want to hurt him, I finally told him that I held him in very high esteem, and I really valued his friendship, but I cared about him as just a friend.
So I thought the situation was fixed, and Jon and I have been together for about 3 months, but then Jake talked to me and told me that he was having a really hard time getting over it, and this has also ruined his friendship with Jon! Jake's friend told me that even though he appeared fine on the outside, he was starting to get really depressed, and I hate to see him like that, he's one of my best friends! And now I don't know what to do about it. Breaking up with Jon is /not/ an option, and I don't know if the situation is beyond repair, but does anyone have any suggestions?
Sorry this is so long and confusing, I'll rate high for helpful answers.
Thanks!
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If you like Jon then Jake is just going to have to get used to it. Don't get guilted into breaking up with Jon. If Jake wanted a chance he should have said something when you first mentioned it. It might just be a case of him not wanting Jon to have you...which isn't right either. Don't listen to what others say. Jon is your priority right now. :)
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Well This Is Goin To Be Long. I'm 15 a Female...and me and my ex just recently broke up we dated for a 1 yr and half..i did 1 thing wrong. i was drunk and selfish didnt no wat i was doin and we broke up..i swear up and down that i love him..he said were history were through he never wants to talk to me again...well i got a msg on icq last night..sayin him and his sister is after me..so i msged him back..and he threatened me and *ALL MY FRIENDS* which is pretty much the hole county. and he said for us to show up at his house and if we didnt we was pussys..well we didnt show up..cause we didnt have a way..and because half of my friends is on vacation. so now his sister said that she gets her liscence monday..and that i have it coming. and shes gonna stomp my ass..and she said for me to watch my back..well she said that i threatened her when i didnt..the only thing i said is if u come up to my house and try to fight me youre gonna get it..she goes thats gonna look great in the police records..well shes 18. and shes already been in jail once..and her brother (my ex) beated me and everything..what should i do???..bout the hole thing...the fight and gettin threatened..should i take a compliant thingy out on her and her family for threatening me..
PLEASE HELP
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I think you tell your parents and then you call the police and see what they suggest you do. Don't take threats lightly and keep friends close when you go out until this is resolved. Whatever you do...DO NOT take this guy back as a boyfriend. He is bad news! :)
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I'm 14/f/bi. I have this friend..who i've always really liked but she didnt really know until i told her..i mean ive liked for like 2 years now. and after i told her i liked her..she asked me out...and i was probably the happiest person ever. after a couple of weeks she said we should take a break because we never really talk anymore..but the only reason why we dont talk is because i share my computer with others and i havent had a chance to talk to her alot..but not that i have my own computer..i try to talk to her as much as i can..well anyways the point is..i really love her. and she doesnt know i love her yet bcuz shes always talking about how it takes a while to fall in love..but i love her more then anything in this world. and i miss her..i would do anything to get with her again. how can i tell her how much i love her and miss her? sorry it was so long.. (link)
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Try calling her on the telephone. Tell her you would like to see her again. Explain the reasons for not talking more. If she takes you back...really make an effort to call her or keep in touch. :)
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i have this friend and she is going out with this guy that i happen to like...she doesnt know that i like him and i know that if she finds out she would be soooo mad because i guess at one point he told some of his friends that he liked me...so i dont know what to do, do i tell him? do i tell her?
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I think you should keep it quiet until they are no longer a couple. If you tell him and he does like you it will cause a break up and your friend will be mad. Same if you tell her. Then there is the fall out you will get from other friends who think it was wrong of you to do. Play it safe and just wait and see what happens. :)
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