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my bestfriend lives across the street from me.. well she talks to this guy who is 16 on aim and we are both 13 well hes not a virgin... since shes been talking to him her personality has changed big time. hes smokes pot and drinks all the time and shes starting to act like him. heres the bad thing she sneaks out of her house at 2 a.m and doesnt get back until 5 a.m. well she has done this the last 2 nights and im worried that something bad will happen.. they almost got caught out by the police 2 times.. id this keeps up shes gonna end up getting raped or something by him.. how can i tell her to stop this or something might happen.. any advice will be helpful and most appreciated..
thanks
signed
worried friend
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Dear worried friend,
Your friends really lucky to have you look after her like that. You need to sit down and have a long nice talk. Tell her how you feel. If she's a real friend she'll listen to you but maybe not right away it will take some time. Don't give up hope on her...hope this held.
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well sadly theres nothing you can do cuz the more poeple tell her its wrong the more shell want to do it. She has to learn on her own and its not your responsisnlity to make sure she doesnt get into trouble its hers so just relax n hope she comes to her senses soon enough
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wow well im 14/f. did you think about telling her parents about what she has been doing? i no she might be mad at you if she find out you told on her but shell get over it if she was a good friend. n wen i sai get over i mean it might take a long tyme. maybe you can tell her parents to go in her room at night and theyll see shes not there so that way she wont know it was you who told her parents. i think talking to her wont help so much since shes a teen but she needs to get some help soon or she can be in dangour.so why dont you be a good friend and tell someone who can help her .
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hey worried friend,
it's never easy to face a friend, telling her that you DON'T like whut she's doing. But in the end it all comes to the same point, Something goes wrong, or she's a problem child, or she's full of regret... ect. ect. You need to tell her what you think about, but don't let her hurt you by telling you your such a loser, cause she really likes him and bla bla. If your not sure about this chase, You can always writhe something down, then read it and think about what you need to say to hear, but you do need to realise this is very bad what she's doing, you need to speak your hart out and tell her everything that you don't like about it, She might like it, or she doesn't , But if you two are really bestfriends, she'll respect your opinion and stuff. If she handels it wrong and get angry, realise it's not your fault, it's hers, And you've done what a bestfriend should have done. Your only trying to protect her and that's good. Keep your head up, all things will come to an end sooner or later.
Good luck with it!
<3
inger. (girlish)
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OH Dear!
Worried Friend,
You need to SERIOUSLY talk to your friend. Tell her parents whats going on, it doesn't matter if she will be mad at you in the end, because you helped her and thats all that matters.
We both know probably what shes capable of getting herself into..
Tell her you need to talk to her, what your feeling, and what you can do to help.
Take Care my dear.. :)
♥ Alli*
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i think you should really sit your friend down and have a long talk with her. the question i am anwsering right now, ** read it to her**. tell her exactly what you said to me. tell her you are wprried about her and tell her you are scared for her. tell her to stop and if she doesn't she will end up getting raped or hurt or pregnant. if worst comes to worst you might need to tell someone.
brunettecutie**
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I think this is something you need to go over her head with. Go talk to her mom. She can probably catch her at it without even involving you. Your friend is going to wind up in serious trouble if she keeps it up. :)
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i think you should sit down with your friend and talk to her if you havent already. amd tell her that she has changes and tell her that you are worried that something bad is going to happen. amd tell her that as a friend she should really listen to you. hope that helps
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First of all, it's good that you noticed this, and think you should be doing something about it. Even if she's met this guy in person, that doesn't mean anything, expecially if she met him online.
First try talking to her. If that doesn't work, which it probably won't, then you need to decide what you think would be the best thing to do. Maybe try talking to her with more of your friends, the ones you can trust. If that doesn't work, and you're still worried, you need to go to your parents or hers and let them know why you're worried and what's going on. Just let them know that you're concerned for her, and that you're worried because she's changed since meeting that guy. But remember, if the situation doesn't turn out to be as bad as you thought, then you could've ruined her freedom for a while. So let them confront her and try to help before telling them EVERYTHING you know.
Also, let her know after you talk to her, that if she doesn't do something herself, that you're going to go to an adult. Maybe if you do that she WILL rethink her actions. Good luck, hopefully things get better!
♥ Melissa
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well lets see my advice to you is you talk to her about it and like she might be mad at you for a while but you are gonna have to take that risk its for the best of her! and if she leaves you for him tht proves that she really isnt a true friend at all so this is what you have to tell her:
lo0k i kno that you probably dont wanna hear this but please just listen to me i think that this is wrong what you are doing all this sneeking out and stuff im juss really concerned about you and i want to let you kno that you are seriosuly changing and not in a go0d way maybe you should top hanging out with this guy and get back to normal
go0d luck!!
*ariana*
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You need to talk to your best friend and tell her how you feel. She needs to know what could happen to her. If she doesn't listen then try talk to your parents to have them talk to hers. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Well first you could try talking to her bout your concern but she might not appreciate it so if that doesn*t work tell her parents, she*ll be pissed at first but she*ll get over it. but only do that if your really concerned about her. i don*t no wut else to tell ya!
hope i helped hun!! xoxo, chelsea
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Okay here are two things you can do depending on which you think will work.
1. take her to a place she can escape you and sit her down and tell her i love you but what your doing is dumb dangeriouse and NOT COOL! tell her how you feel and how ur scared for her but also keep saying you love her. ask her if theyre is anything going on at home to make her so re beliouse.
2. Try the nicer aprouch and just sorta keep an eye on here. or start trying to do stuff with her..like if she goes....go with her so u can be like noo dont do that thats gayyy.
3. TELL AN ADULTT OR HER MOM.
i think 1 is good. sometimes they need some1 just to yell at them and try to understand at the same time.
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