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Ok, so i went camping with my boyfriend this weekend and we had an amazing time. When we got back, i had made plans with my friends to hang out with them on monday night. Well he got home from a really bad day of work and called me and i only had like 3 minutes to talk to him so i asked him how his day was and shared mine, then i told him i had to go. He acted kind of mad and i was just like whatever, we've hung out every day this summer and all weekend. So i went and hung out with my friends and when i got home he was really mad at me and told me that i blew him off. He said that he really needed me when he got home from work and that i shoudl ahve made time to talk to him because he was having a miserable day. The thing was i didn't realize he needed me so bad. We are all made up now and stuff cause we talked about it and got over it. Am i at fault here?
16/f with 19/m b/f of 9 1/2 months
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HOLY SHIT, I THINK I JUST READ A DIARY ENTRY OF MINE. dude to a fucking TEE> 100% this happened to me last year, tha asshole never let me forget that i "let him down" even though it was bullshit. NO youre not at fault you didnt know. and dont you ever let him try to rub it in or tell you that it is. apologize for not being there for him, but dont apologize for going out with your friends, tell him that you didnt know or realize that he needed you so much or you would have stayed.
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It sounds like you and your b/f r really close. I think you did the right thing. just explain to him that you need a little space but that you still love him as much as you did before or even more. make time and talk 2 him and call him.
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If you didn't realize then i dont think you're in the wrong. People's feelings do get hurt tho if you have to rush off without letting them talk. It didn't sound like you did it on purpose so relax. Y'all made up so that's all that matters. Just use it for next time when you can try to make more time for him. You don't want him rushing off when you need to talk.lol So i don't think you're at fault. Just be careful next time!!
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no, you are not at fault. you already had plans and if it woukd have been his friend, he more than likely would have done the same thing. love will get you through it. hope i helped.
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Your not at fault because who knew that he was having a bad day, unless he told you that, then you are.
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I ALSO agree that it has something to do with the age difference. You need to talk to him about it, and find out why he feels like he has to be with you so much. You guys do need time apart, if not your relationship will suffer. Hope it helps!
♥ Melissa
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I agree this problem arises partly because of the age difference. Around your bf age, work becomes life, and your co-workers become like your friends. (Or at least, you see them nearly as often) So it is good for you to understand that a rough day at work for him is like a fight with a friend for you.
On that note. You're not really at 'fault'. He didn't communicate his needs properly. It's up to you to decide if you can fufill his needs. Would you really have wanted to dicth your friends and hold his hand through a bad day? I personally don't think you should have to. I think he should be mature enough to recongize your priorities as a 16 yearold.
Don't blame yourself, and be very careful of a guy who blames you. It smells a bit like being controlling to me.
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Here is where the age difference is a problem. He is ready for total commitment and you still feel a need to be with your friends. I don't think you did anything wrong. It isn't like your married to him yet. Next time he needs to let you know what he wants instead of just getting mad about it. Because he is older he should realize that, since he doesn't I hope you have let him know. :)
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