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over protective
my parents are WAYYYYYYY over protective.. i mean if i go out the house in front of my door they come after me.. i tryed talking to them and explaining to them that i am not a baby anymore and i need to learn to make my own mistakes and etc.. but all the said was were not over protective we just care a lot about you.. i cant have a boyfriend until i am 16 and when i get one at that age my dad and my uncle have to be wit me the whole date with guns and if he trys makin a move on me he will basically be died.. my dad said he would hire a body gaurd but he doesnt want to spend so much money on one.. for prom the plain on gettin me a lemo but i CANT have a prom date and my parents will be chaperoniing the dance.. i swear i think i dont have a life.. when ever i get a boyfriend i NEVER tell them.. i only tell them who ever it is is only a friend but i cant go one like this for ever can someone plz help me out!!! i am dieing to get some freedom.. o yea i am a 14/f..
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wow your parents are very protective. well since talking to them didnt help so much. y dont you talk to a therapist or some. i feel bad for you. just try talking to them more.
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Try just really talking to them. They'll atleast have to listen. Tell them that they're getting over protective and that it's really damaging your relationship with friends. They probably don't realize what they're doing. You know they care for you but you have to understand where they're coming from. See their point of view. There might be a reason they're acting that way. Try asking them and they'll be impressed that you're willing to see both sides of an argument. Just be patient with them because they might just be scared you're growing up. Hope i helped!!!
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O.K... usually, I would say, "It's because they love you and care about you and they don't want anything bad to happen." But I have to admit... this IS getting rediculous. Following you on a date with guns at hand? I mean, COME ON!
If it makes you feel any better, I have been in this situation before. But it wasn't with my parents... it was with my grandma. She wouldn't even let me go out front and sit on the bench, even though she knew EVERYONE on her street and LIKED everyone on her street. She made me study her phone number in case of an emergency and she didn't just tell it to me and make me say it to her... she made me WRITE it 200 times before I could finally go outside. It was CRAZY and I felt the same way as you.
I proved to her that I was old enough to do my own thing, and she had nothing to worry about. I told her that I know how to defend myself if someone tries to kidnap me. I proved to her that I know what to do. What really helped was I invited a friend over and told her I was going on a walk with my friend. She was uneasy, I could see it. Even though she said O.K, I knew she wanted to say "No!" but me and my friend told her we would be back in thirty minutes. We walked around the block a couple times and we even returned to her house earlier than what she expected. Then, she trusted me outside and I proved to her that I was O.K.
Really, though... you're parents just want to protect you from the sick people in the world, these days. And believe me, there are WAY MORE murderers, rapists, and sex offenders now, than there ever were and these days, it IS dangerous to even step out your front door. You could get snatched right one the spot. Your parents care about you a LOT... enough to restrict you from everything in the cold world! You may not think this and you may not like the advice that I'm giving you, but it's the truth. You can ASK for your freedom and tell the that you are DEFINITLY old enough to walk around out front, even by yourself.
Tell them that you know everything... the defenses and stuff. They don't have to reat you this way. Tell them how you feel and with passion. Say you are 14 and should be able to ACT like a 14 year old girl, not some lonely prisoner trapped! You should be able to see the world and meet new friends and no matter what, you're parents cannot restrict you from your social life.
Sometimes, parents can mess up their kids by cooking them up in a house all day, not letting them play, talk, or socialize. They get mad and some of those people are killers today!
You just have to know these things and you have to tell your parents them! They should understand! If they don't, try explaining to them and pleading them to TRUST you a least bit!
If you need to talk to me, feel free to email me a x_pink_x109@yahoo.com anytime you want! You know I'm here for you if you want more advice!
You can also drop one in my inbox, if you want!
I can help you! Just don't be afraid to ask me anything!
You know you can!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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i'm sure your dad is just kidding. but it is good to wait until your 16. guys are asses anyways.
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Did it ever occur to you that your parents might just be kidding about making you bring your dad and uncle along on your dates? Because no normal parent does things like that. Sneaking around with boys behind your parents back is a bad idea and when you eventually get caught at it, you probably won't be allowed to date for even longer. I agree with the person before me who said you should wait until you're 16 to date/have a boyfriend. I was allowed to date before I was 16 (I am 16 now.. I'l be 17 in November), and dating was just plain lame until the guy who wants to take you out can actually come pick you up in a car that his parents aren't in. It's much easier once one party has a drivers liscense. You probably won't like what I had to say, but take it from someone who's been there, REAL dating is worth the wait.
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You ARE only 14. I'm sorry, because TRUST ME, I know how much you hate hearing that, I still hear it & I'm going to be 16 in less than 5 months. But you need to prove that you're responsible. Technically there's not much you can do until you're 18, but if you show them that you can handle more responsibility, they may give you more freedom. Good luck!
♥ Melissa
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