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my mother...
my mom is always saying im ugly. last sunday for church, i let my hair dry into natural curl/waves and she said it was ugly and i should brush it (badddd idea) and wear some makeup because my face looked "bad". i didnt wear earrings & she always says i look bad when i dont wear them. when i do wear makeup for other occasions she says i look like a prostitute. i dont know what to do anymore! i cant always be best dressed and miss cheerful like she was when she was my age. shes always telling me how thin she was and how everyone liked her figure just to rub it in my face that i have no womanly shape. my dad says i look ok because he sees what it does to my self esteem. everytime i get the slightest blemish, shes the first to point it out. i hate it! someone please help me! any advice will help! ill rate 5s...
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Well I think your mom is stuck in the past and just wants you to be just like her when she was your age. It's not about wat ur mom thinks about you or anybody else it's all about what you think about yourself self-confidence thats what you need. But just tell your mom you don't like how she is treating ou and not to critisize how you look. Then see where it goes from there.
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Dude, your mom is just degrading.. ignore her and turn to your friends...
the chances are, that shes old and wishing that she was still young and healthy like you... so she tries to insult you and bring you down by just saying mean stuff... it sounds immature coming from a mom.. but hey, its true!!
ignore her... and turn to your friends!! like i said before
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OMG I'm so sorry. Tell your mom next time this happens say ' Mom I don't care what you think how I look I think I look nice so I'm going out like this your my mum ur suppose care for me not make me sombody I'm not. I don't want to be like dirt so stop.' if she doesn't ask a freind or faimly member near by if you can stay with them for awhile and tell y hope i helped
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wow i feel bad for you. dont listen to her. maybe i dont know how you look in real life but you are buetiful. try to stand up to her tell her "im not you. youre my mom and you need some help. do you know how much it hurts when you ares saying all this bs to me." n i could go on n on but ima stop. it isnt right for her to walk over you like that. y dont you move in with a famy member for a while tell them y you want to move in. i hope i helped
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dont mind what your mother say... i mean you can check out on the things your mother say.. but dont let her comments put you so down.. dress the way you are.. i mean dress the way you like.. but make sure not to break any laws you have in your family.. and dress properly for the occasion.. hope i helped..
extraordinary girl..
but not perfect..
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Aw that is soo sad, and horrible!! Thats really messed up. Well, what you should do is tell your mother that she needs to stop. That you dont want her opinion about your looks anymore. And that not everyone is perfect like her. And that its your life. You can look how you want to look. Dont try to impress her anymore and dont listen to how she tells you to look. Do your own thing.
♥ nicole
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Hey. I'm sorry about your mom saying that all about you. That is just terrible of her to say that. She must have no consideration for your feelings or self-esteem at all. Don't let her get to you, do what you like and what you think looks good on yourself and stick with it. Don't let her affect how you think you look or how you want to look. Be yourself and stand firm to who you are and don't take any crap from your mom because your mom is heartless to even try and bring you down like that. Best of luck to you and hope this helps.
I will pray for you.
-Ryan
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Sorry your mom treats you like that. Tell her how it damages your self esteem, and that it hurts, but be serious. She might not know that she is hurting you. Also, have your dad back you up since he knows that it damages your self esteem.
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Awwww. I'm sorry that your mother talks to you like that. It shouldn't be that way AT ALL. It doesn't matter what you look like, expecially not to your mother! I would kill to have natural waves/curls in my hair, it takes over 2 hours for me to curl my hair AT ALL!! Feel lucky, don't worry about what your mother says! She's wrong because EVERYBODY is gorgeous in their own way. Just because your mother says things like that doesn't mean anything. Maybe she is trying to live vicariously through you; just don't let it get to you! I hope you feel better hun!
♥ Melissa
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im sorry. Just ignore her. If she tells you to brush it or wear earings dont. Do just the oppisite. Just wear make up and you know do you hair and stuff, look good. Let her say what she wants, shes obviously very opinionated and has no respect for you,her own daughter. You are your own person. hope i helped<3
p.s never let what someone says get to the best of you<3
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Seriously.. your mom is being really iggnorant and she shouldnt be treating you like that. Even though she says all those things your mother still loves you. I`m sure you look gorgeous no matter what your mom says. The next time she says something like that you need to stand up to her. Just say " Look mom! I'm not like you , I'm never going to be like you! Stop treating me like dirt. If you dont like the way I look thats just too bad. You're supposed to be my mother not here to judge me on my looks!" She seems to care a lot about that. Just stand up to her and she has to get it to her head!
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Your mom isn't being a very good mother. (If she weren't your mother I'd be tempted to call her a bitch) This behavoir is completely out of line and you should not take it.
She is doing this to make herself feel better, and it is disgusting that she is competing with her daughter. You are not her, the same things aren't important to you, and thats a good thing too, since what is important to her seems to be terribly shallow.
You sound like you've tried to talk to her and tell her how much this hurts. Unless she has improved after a good talking to, step it up a notch, when she starts belittling you, walk away, ignore her, even laugh at her. She needs to know that those sort of opinions don't deserve any respect, and at the very least, she should keep them to herself.
Call me a sinner, but I don't believe in honoring your parents if they are hell bent on hurting you.
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Tell your mom that you are not her and that her remarks are hurting you and your self esteem. While it's normal for parents to be concerned about you and offer advice, making hurtful remarks is not the way to help. Your mom needs to realize that you are a completely different person than you and what worked for her may not work for you.
If you can't talk to your mom yourself, talk to your dad and have him talk to your mom. It's obvious that he sees what your mom's remarks are doing to you.
Good luck. I hope this works out for you.
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it sounds to me like your mother cares a little bit too much about looks. obviously she thinks having perfect makeup and hair lead to a perfect life. you need to tell her that it makes you feel bad when she says your ugly, and you would really appreciate it if she would stop. you just need to be upfront about it. i think its nice looks arent top priority for you cause you can bet they arent for me! i never wear makeup! it sounds like shes trying to relive her perfect childhood through you and you should let her know this bugs you and would she please just not talk about looks, cause there are more important things in life
i hope i helped!
<3<3 anne givings
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You will have to learn to ignore her comments. Her idea of what looks good and what doesn't may not be the same as yours. You need to fix your hair, makeup etc. to suit yourself ( and the times) and not what looked good when she was your age. She may be feeling that shes getting old and and wants to feel young by trying to be your friend instead of acting like a mom. You should tell her that while you appreciate the fact that she thinks she is helping....she isn't. She is hurting your self esteem instead. If all else fails just ignore her. :)
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thats horrible!! aww im sorry. You kno what you need to tell your mom to shut up and that not everyone is perfect and that just because she was however she was wen she was young that you dont have to be like her to. Im sure your beatful and maybe ur mom is just afraid that all the guys are gonna come after you so shes tryin to put you down which is not good at all. aww im sorry i know how you feel because all my mom does is tell me im fat and then everyone else is like what is she smokeing ur not fat so she makes me feel so fat.its so annoying. feel better dont let her get to you.
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thats horrible!! aww im sorry. You kno what you need to tell your mom to shut up and that not everyone is perfect and that just because she was however she was wen she was young that you dont have to be like her to. Im sure your beatful and maybe ur mom is just afraid that all the guys are gonna come after you so shes tryin to put you down which is not good at all. aww im sorry i know how you feel because all my mom does is tell me im fat and then everyone else is like what is she smokeing ur not fat so she makes me feel so fat.its so annoying. feel better dont let her get to you.
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what your mom is doing is absolutley awful. Next time she does that, say politely "Mom, while I appreciate and respect your opinion, I have confidence in myself and the way I look, and what your saying to me really hurts my feelings" Just be honest and open, never hide what your feeling. I really hope i helped, drop one in my inbox and let me know how everything turns out<3 best of luck
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thats terrible!! the next time she says something to you like that be like you know what just because i wasnt perfect (which i bet she wasnt when she was your age) like you when you were my age doesnt mean you have to rub it in my face
also unless youve seen pix do you really know or not that she was this great looking person or something because if shes not that can a ton of things one being shes trying to push you into something she never was
good luck!!*
-kara
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