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for college i want to get a mac. can you use microsoft word on there or is there something similar that i could use? i've never owned a mac so im just curious.

if you buy a mac the people selling it will probably give you the option of buying iworks for around $50
it has a program pages (so much better than microsoft word) and keynote (like powerpoint) and numbers (similar to excel)

however they do have the actual microsoft products for the mac
i think its just a bit more expensive

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hello. i am struggling very much with a big problem. it's almost like i've lost hope and i don't even know what to do anymore. let me first give you some background information. i use to be a little chubby, not like an obese person... but just a little chubby. about a year ago, i lost a lot of weight. but, to the point where i became anorexic and bullemic. i just became so obsessed. i just wanted to keep losing and losing.... and i just became super obsessed. i ended up weighing like 85 pounds. well, i have gained weight and now i have reached about 100 pounds. but, through my recovery i did a lot of binge eating... because of all the things my body was lacking. but, it's like, lately, i can't stop. and i don't want to get any fatter, because i'm really short. i'm like 5 feet. but, the thing is like, i have no self-control. i use to have so much self control and never ate anything i wanted. and now, it's like i have no self control. i really want to stop.... and i just can't. it's like when i feel like i've wasted my diet... i just want to eat a balanced meal every day. and i'ts just so hard, because i've lost conception of what is normal. and it's like one day i overeat and then the next day i don't eat at all, or at least barely. and its like when i binge, it's really hard to stop. and then, i feel so guilty after. i feel so bad and i'm so scared to talk to anyone about it because i'm afraid they will judge me. and the thing is that i work out... a lot. i work out really hard. but, then i feel like it goes to waste when something like this happens. if any of you have ever been through something like this, please please talk to me. i will even be willing to give you my phone number if you have anything that you want to tell me personally, or if you feel that i will benefit from having a conversation with you. if not, then just answer my question here, if you prefer. whatever you would like works for me. any help is appreciated. my prom is on saturday, and i really wanna look slim and nice. please give me some advice. thank you and God bless you.

i am going through the exact same thing as you.
you literally just wrote what my the past 8 months have been for me, anorexia, bullimia, attempting recovery, etc.



i used to be able to not care at all if i didnt eat the things i wanted
and now i lose control completely, thinking well my body needs this anyways... etc etc

unfortunately, i haven't quite figured this out for myself yet
but after a peanut butter binge at midnight
waking up the next morning and the feeling of regret

basically in the middle of a binge
you just need to realize what youre doing
and think "is this what i really want?"

thats what i've been trying to do anyways.

if you need to talk, let me know.
im also struggling greatly with this

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http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog_name=FOREVER21&category_name=top_casual&product_id=2061106407&Page=2#

I jsut bought a shirt kinda like that where the back is kinda open and I was just wondering what to wear with that...what would look best under it? I dont really know if i should wear a tank top under it or not...help please!

this girl seems to be wearing a shirt that looks pretty close i think

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hopefully that helps you a little (:

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ok i'm a figure skater and i have skates about like 3 years old and im supposed to be getting new ones but i cant them yet. my feet are KILLING me in these skates! i cant stand the pain anymore. does anyone have any suggestions of what i can do or buy to keep my feet from being hurt. also my feet get really cold and that just makes the pain worse so any ideas at keeping them warm would help alot too. thanks,
love livvvyyyyyyyyyy

ive been figure skating for 8 years so i know your pain lol

you didn't mention blisters, but those are usually a common problem with breaking in skates
if i were you id definitely purchase a pair of these
http://www.bungapads.com/store.cfm/ses_/details.cfm,list,x,8,0,AS,x,x,x/Ankle%2FShin%20Protection/Bunga%20Ankle%20Sleeve/
and with that, you slide them farther down so they cover more of your heel/inside of your foot

as for breaking them in faster,
get a pair of hard guards
http://www.usaskates.com/figureaccessories/al2066tl.html
(they look like that)
put those on the blade
then wear your skates around the house for about 15 minutes a day
it makes the breaking in process a lot faster

for keeping your feet warm, they have toe warmers you could also try


good luck!
feel free to ask anything else

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I need an eyeliner that won't smear at ALL.
I know theres gottta be one out there. Price doesn't matter. I just want it to stay on perfectly all day. Oh and it needs to be a pencil, I dont like liquid.

Loreal Hip Crayon

http://www.prnewswire.com/mnr/loreal/30447/images/30447-hi-Crayon.jpg


looks like that, comes in a bunch of different colors.
it NEVER smears, most amazing thing ever

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So, a couple week's ago, I was reading in Seventeen about a girl who had a mental disability, and in the corner of the next page, theres a little red box that said " Could you have a hidden disorder?"( This is the February 2008 issue, the one with Vanessa Hudgens on the cover.) One of the disorders is Social Anxiety Disorder...where you have continious fear of being judged, watched, humiliated, or embarresed, and it makes it hard for you to get through day to day activities. As soon as I read it, I felt that i may have this disorder...Heres what made me feel like I may have it....

When I'm walking through the halls at school, what's always on my mind is what all the people around me are thinking of me...what there thinking of my skin, my hair, my clothes, my body...weather they think im fat or gross, or my clothes are ugly, and I HATE walking through the hall's. Even when I'm walking out in public, and I pass a complete stranger, I cant help but think, when they looked at me, what they were thinking...weather im ugly, fat, what they thought of just...me. It's sometimes even hard for me to eat in public, cause I think that everyone is watching me eat.

I tend to get embarresed easily. It seems like everything that I do I get embaressed doing it. I get embarresed walking into a room. Weather it's at school, church, with my family, my boyfriends family, my friends house. Anywhere.

I seem very very....self concious...I guess...I dont like to show my body much cause I'm afraid of what people will think..weather something on me is to big, or if my skin is too light, stuff like that. When I'm swimming, I get so embarresed when I strip down to my swim suit, and when im walking, I put my hands in front of my sthomach, I try to cover my thighs,any part of my body that I'm not comfortable with, I try to cover it up. It even makes me skip out on going swimming sometimes. A couple weeks ago my boyfriend invited me to go swimming with his family,and I told him that I didnt want to go. He didnt understand why,and i didnt want him to think that i was fishing for compliments on my body,so i just told him it was my monthly time. Everytime that I walk, and i look at my legs, all i see is the fat on them, everytime i look at my sthomach, all i see is the fat. and im afraid of what people would think, so i try to cover it up with my clothes. I dont like living like this. I know that teens are suppost to be a little self concious...but is it suppost to be this bad?

could I really have this disorder?
I'm sorry if it's super long

thanks for all your help

14/f

i agree with the other person that answered with how people are so quick to diagnose themselves. my friend once went around telling people she had BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) she told everyone that for about a week, then dropped it. it was completely for attention and the rest of it.

however you dont want the attention, you want it off of you. i think to an extent, everyone has "social anxiety disorder". its just how you present yourself with it. as your get older you tend to realize that people aren't as concerned with looks and whatnot, so you begin not to care as much, having more confidence within yourself. which is really the trick to overcoming this. all you need is some confidence, people will eventually look up to for you having it. its really the best solution. you need to realize all the GOOD and positive things about yourself. dont say there are none, your boyfriend, family, and friends obviously know there are, so all you need to do is recognize them

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im very close to getting a female boston terrior puppy. shes absolutely adorable and i've fallen in love with her already but i need names.

any ideas?

http://www.dog-names.us/girl-dog-names/index.html


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This summer I'm trying to find really adorable sun dresses that are cheap and affordable. Does anyone know of any amazing stores online?! That would be wonderful.

www.forever21.com
www.wetseal.com

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There are so many other girls in my school that are really pretty, but i dont feel like im one of them, because I think that I am ugly...Heres some pictures of me, can you guys please tell me what I can to to improve my appearance?
PS. please dont say that i should be happy the way I look, or that I should look in magazines or whatever, I just really want some tips..ANYTHING, and PLEASE be brutally honest :)
Thanks

http://s298.photobucket.com/albums/mm268/crazii-skittles/?action=view¤t=RandomPics883.jpg

http://s298.photobucket.com/albums/mm268/crazii-skittles/?action=view¤t=RandomPics209.jpg

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you have amazing eyes, so work with those to make them pop.
mascara is definitely something to look into.

also try getting your eyebrows shaped, its subtle, but can make a big difference

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what are some other sayings for "smoking weed"

no one mentioned this one
"blazing"
or being blazed

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What is the best advice anyone has ever given you in life? (mantras are great)

"everything will be okay in the end.
if its not okay, its not the end"

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Hi! this is kind of an odd question but, I'm a 15yo female and I was wondering do guys mind pubic hair?

Like, is it normal to shave it all off down there? Do guys prefer that? Or does it not matter. I'm kinda worried cause if I'm ever in a situation, i wouldn't want the guy to be grossed out by tons of hair!? Thanks in advance!

ultimately, your choice.
however most guys would prefer shaved.
doesn't have to be perfect, but thats probably better.

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to anyone who likes alterative music :


what are some good meaningful songs . favorite bands?



I like bands like mayday parade&all time low btw


thanks

to laugh out loud, i was within 5 feet of derek (from maydayparade) at warped tour. he did an acoustic set. most amazing thing ever.

and i got dropped on my head crowd surfing at all time low!
woo that was fun.

here are some meaningful songs i guess you could say
the phrase that pays - the academy is...
gone so young - amber pacific
jumper - bedlight for blue eyes (cover)
take care - a change of pace
take me for granted - a day away
you had me at hello - a day to remember
antonia - the motion city soundtrack
time - nevertheless
maybe misery - quietdrive
rumors of my demise - rise against
ready & willing - self against city
drink of poison - so they say
stay inside - sound the alaram

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Hey I'm 14 years old and in july i have an 2 weddings to go to and i have no idea what to wear. I'm a very informal dresser, dressing up for my is rock consert clothes. I want to have something nice to wear but not look really girly because thats ust not me, have you got any ideas of what i can wear?

Thank You!
XXX

you sound exactly like me.
anything that isnt an oversized warpedtour hoodie or something of the sort is unnatural.

weddings are usually formal-ish, but check the card to make sure.
you should try getting a dress, just to show respect
look at the hot topic website and you might find a decent, not too over the top dress. either that or forever 21 for something simple.

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ok well my bf and i broke up because he doesnt have time for a gf and im moving in a little over a month. its been really painful for me and i dont know what to do. i dont really care about dating him anymore but hes my best friend too and we have been best friends for a while. he knows everything about me but now he doesnt even have time to call me-seriously. he never calls and when he( or i) finally calls he is like im really busy i cant talk now sry we can talk later. i dont know what to do and last sunday he was flirting with me A LOT and we ended up kissing a couple times because we still kinda like each other but its really confusing. the thing that i cant handle is i've never had a friend who didnt even have time to talk to me! we go to different schools and now he never has time to hang out so we barely see each other except at church and youth group. please help me!! he doesnt have time but he means so much to me and i am leaving soon!!! thank you so much and i will rate :)

i would say you definitely need to sit down and have a talk with him
now how would you go about doing this considering he doesnt have time to talk?
i would say text/instant message or even call and say i have something really important that we need to talk about

then from there say that you just want to know where you stand with him, considering he never makes time for you and the fact that youre moving

if you say its important, but he still doesnt make time for it, then you shouldnt make time for him.

and on the bright side, if you are moving, then that is a whole new opportunity for new best friends, it'll be hard letting go, but in the end everything will be okay. if its not okay, its not the end.

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is there a website that will show me how to do a bunch of cool stuff with photoshop. cause i got it and i don't know how to do very much.

www.photoshopstar.com

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Ok,i am a 14/f and i sort of have a moustache. In the winter the hair gets very dark and you can tell i have one very easily, especially in the light. When i go to school, every once and a while i will hear someone say "you have a moustache" and just look at me. I think this is why i havent had a boyfriend in so long and no guy wants to kiss or go out with a girl that has some hair on her upper lip. I cant do anything to it because my family said that it will just get worse if i do. I dont want to say anything about it to anyone because it is very uncomfortable to talk about. If you can help me, thanks alot!

you definitely want to take care of it, kids can be cruel
if youre ever at a place such as a CVS, or any kind of typical drug store
get yourself so bleach excess hair creme
(itll say something like lightens dark unwanted hair)
there are instructions within the box
its pretty easy, and itll solve your problem completely.

if you cant get somewhere and buy it by yourself
say something to your mom, or a female in the family you feel closest to.
it shouldnt be too bad, just like if theyre going to like a target and they say oh do you need anything
and then you say ^^^

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My sister is 3 years older than i am and is always saying myspace sucks and i should get a facebook. She says schools look at myspace and you could get suspended if you have pics of doing stuff at the school? Is this true? and is facebook REALLY so much better than myspace? Any opinion is appreciated!

i agree with thelaura

it also depends on what you do with it
as said before, if you post pictures drinking, smoking, and add random people who you dont know, what do you think is going to happen?
and its the same thing with facebook

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Hey, I am 14/f and currently in grade 9.

When i made the transition from middle school to high school, i hardly knew anyone. Now, i know more people, and more comfortable. I am a really niice girl, smart and pretty. It took me a whole to realise it but i finally did. I'm pretty, but not like other girls. I have a huge nose, which takes up most my face. The other girls look so perfect. I have learned to work with it, and try to beautify myself more. Now, i do look pretty but not the way guys would want. And another thing. Im different. I am not like the other girls at my school. I am really smart, respectful to everyone and all the teachers, and i do not have a rep as a whore or anything. I seem like a nerd to people, and whatever i am fine with that, but these people cant accept me being different. I choose to stand out and not to drugs and be slutty. I choose not to give adtitude to my teacher and ive grown up to be respectful to everyone. But really, i seem like your average girl, i dress normally, i look normal, and i act like any other teenage girl. I just really need help though. The guys at my school make me feel ugly. They make me feel like I'm lower then them. They make me feel like waste, like im not "cool" enough. Just because I am not the skinnest, preetiest girl (in their eyes) they make me feel invisible. An example would be today. We were in class and a girl was sitting in front of me, talking to me. This guy that im somewhat close with, was leaving so he was bye and kissed her (RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE) and then turned to me, and patted me on the head. I was so frustrated over that because he made me feel so disgusting. Also, i like starting conversations with people and talking to them, so i usually strike up a convo with some cute guys in my class, and they usually just walk out of the conversation when saying one word or just act like they dont have time to talk to me or anything. It makes me feel useless, but i know im not. This is really irritating because i know i have something to offer, but the guys just look at the other (PRETTIER) girls and make me feel like crap. I know, this is only grade 9 and guys will change, but its lowering my self-esteem right now. I am smart and i've learned to only pay attention to those who matter, and mean something to me in my life but this has just gone too far. Please if anyone has ANY advice to share, it will be GREATLY appreciated.

going from middle school to high school is a lot harder than most people would think. but your doing great if your sticking to being yourself. your absolutely right not go be slutty or druggies. however, people are so incredibly obnoxious these days, its incredible.
if you want people to respect you more, or for guys to be nicer, you have to show that your confident (not conceited, just that your happy with yourself,even if they leave you in conversations)
you also cant let people realize that what they do is getting to you
unfortunately kids todays will do anything for a laugh, even if that is hurting other people, when they realize it doesnt bother you, then its nothing funny, hence them stopping

good luck

and if its any consolation, just think in like 10 years all the obnoxious people who are sluts, druggies and the rest of them will wish they could work for you

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my hair is very long, thick, and straight. in other wods, asian hair lol. my problem is that it always splits down the middle no matter how much i try to put it to the side. i tried blow drying it to the side but it doesn't work either. one reason why i never got bangs, especially side bangs if because it would always slipt down the middle. any help on how to make it stay to the side? thanks.

when your hair is wet (like after you showered and towel dried)
flip your head over and put some kind of hair gel throughout it
unflip your head, part it to the side you want and hair spray it

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