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could i have a disorder?
So, a couple week's ago, I was reading in Seventeen about a girl who had a mental disability, and in the corner of the next page, theres a little red box that said " Could you have a hidden disorder?"( This is the February 2008 issue, the one with Vanessa Hudgens on the cover.) One of the disorders is Social Anxiety Disorder...where you have continious fear of being judged, watched, humiliated, or embarresed, and it makes it hard for you to get through day to day activities. As soon as I read it, I felt that i may have this disorder...Heres what made me feel like I may have it....
When I'm walking through the halls at school, what's always on my mind is what all the people around me are thinking of me...what there thinking of my skin, my hair, my clothes, my body...weather they think im fat or gross, or my clothes are ugly, and I HATE walking through the hall's. Even when I'm walking out in public, and I pass a complete stranger, I cant help but think, when they looked at me, what they were thinking...weather im ugly, fat, what they thought of just...me. It's sometimes even hard for me to eat in public, cause I think that everyone is watching me eat.
I tend to get embarresed easily. It seems like everything that I do I get embaressed doing it. I get embarresed walking into a room. Weather it's at school, church, with my family, my boyfriends family, my friends house. Anywhere.
I seem very very....self concious...I guess...I dont like to show my body much cause I'm afraid of what people will think..weather something on me is to big, or if my skin is too light, stuff like that. When I'm swimming, I get so embarresed when I strip down to my swim suit, and when im walking, I put my hands in front of my sthomach, I try to cover my thighs,any part of my body that I'm not comfortable with, I try to cover it up. It even makes me skip out on going swimming sometimes. A couple weeks ago my boyfriend invited me to go swimming with his family,and I told him that I didnt want to go. He didnt understand why,and i didnt want him to think that i was fishing for compliments on my body,so i just told him it was my monthly time. Everytime that I walk, and i look at my legs, all i see is the fat on them, everytime i look at my sthomach, all i see is the fat. and im afraid of what people would think, so i try to cover it up with my clothes. I dont like living like this. I know that teens are suppost to be a little self concious...but is it suppost to be this bad?
could I really have this disorder?
I'm sorry if it's super long
thanks for all your help
14/f
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Everyone has come across situations that
make them uneasy or embarrassed. Its normal.
Its not a problem, they overcome their fear
and get on with things. A certain amount of
anxiety isn't a bad thing. It keeps us out
of trouble sometimes.
It actually becomes a disorder that needs
medical treatment when it keeps you from
doing things. The fear of being in public
is so terrifying that you just cannot
function well.
You go out to school, visit friends, have a
boyfriend, go shopping & visit the boyfriends
parents. You are fine. Probably some social
anxiety, which is normal. Nothing that is
really a "disorder". :)
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i agree with the other person that answered with how people are so quick to diagnose themselves. my friend once went around telling people she had BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) she told everyone that for about a week, then dropped it. it was completely for attention and the rest of it.
however you dont want the attention, you want it off of you. i think to an extent, everyone has "social anxiety disorder". its just how you present yourself with it. as your get older you tend to realize that people aren't as concerned with looks and whatnot, so you begin not to care as much, having more confidence within yourself. which is really the trick to overcoming this. all you need is some confidence, people will eventually look up to for you having it. its really the best solution. you need to realize all the GOOD and positive things about yourself. dont say there are none, your boyfriend, family, and friends obviously know there are, so all you need to do is recognize them
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Dude, you just have to chill. Honestly, this disorder sounds like a lot of bull. Everyone gets self concious and a lot of people care about what others think about them (a lot of my friends only think about what others think). You just need to relax and know that most people arn't thinking what you think they're thinking.
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hi, ok well i just want to point out that in this country, as great as it is, EVERYTHING that isn't perfect can be "made into a disease or disorder." what i mean is that people are deciding they have disorders before actually deciphering what there problem is because it's easier to say "i have a disorder, get me professional help" rather than "i have a concious issue and i need to work it through" sorry for the ramble
I GET SELF CONCIOUS ALL THE TIME!! most people do. there are extremes ofcourse which are disorders, however it doesn't mean you're one of them. You have to figure out what it is about you that makes you feel this way. hair, skin, stomach, legs, whatever. then you have to realistically look at yourself and decide whether or not you are trully looking at yourself correctly.
Also, the more you "try to cover up" and feel self concious, the more people will notice you trying to hide something which will make them curious to see what it is. For instance, girls who continuosly look in the mirror and fix something like their hair or make up just brings attention to themselves that they are not looking their best.
also, about the boyfriend/bathing suit thing. you're with him because you like him right? well he's with you...HE CHOSE YOU TO BE WITH. understand that, it means he wants to be with you and it doesn't matter what you look like.
as for strangers... are you ever gonna see them again in your life? the one moment they pass you by, would they really remember for the rest of their lives of one girl who passed them? i highly doubt that. most people are mainly concerned with themselves and aren't worrying about whether or not your skin is too light or if your clothes aren't correct.
please please please don't jump to the conclusion that you have a disorder. it's a serious thing, and one more question for you to answer...would the thought of having a disorder popped into your mind if you weren't reading that magazing?
if you need to talk im me
xxes25
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