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Don't want a replay of last time.
18/M About 6 months ago i was burned bigtime by a girl that i liked. In retrospect i went overboard with planing out every miniscule detail. Now a new girl has found her way into my life. She likes the same things as me and shares the same musical interest, BUT the problem is that i am also good friends with her parents and im not sure if they would let her date yet. What would be a good way to get the parents approval. (The parents own a local coffee shop that I frequent)
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Try meeting them trough coffee or dinner. Bring a dish u made. Tell them about yourself be open and honest. If you really like her then give it a try. What have you go to lose and if the parent don't like you or the fact that you two wanna go out then why not stay as friends. Whatever you do take it slow. Good luck.
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It sounds to me that if you were friends with her parents, it would make it easier. They know you, they trust you, it should be fairly easy to get them to aprove. How old is the girl? If she's too young, i suggest you remain friends but don't get involved in a relationship. The likelyhood that she'd feel the same way when she's older and able to make a move is low. I'd just keep on the low side for a while and play it slow. There's no rush.
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First of all, don't rush things. Get to really know her parents and get them to trust you. Kinda try to introduce them to the idea of y'all dating. Act respectful and polite and i doubt they could turn you away!!! Hope i helped!!!
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Ok i am only 14 and everything but my parents and my Aunt's parents are like that you know strict. so here is what you can do to get on good side..
1. refer to them as Sir, Mam.
for example, No mam, Yes Sir
2. always call them with Mr..., Mrs...
3. Talk about your future plan, so they know that you actually care about your future and you will have decent job or something, and throw in some good grade talk (like you got A or something but try not to sound like know it all)
4. Compliment about that girl's mom about her cooking (if she cooked it of course)
5. compliment about the house, like if they are chiristianity and there is like chiristianity decoration.
6. Talk about what was on the News. for dad.
7. and DONT EVER EVER LIE!(i know you can make a little white lie if you are in panic but it may backfire trust me)
and if you need more to impress them, then ask me anytime
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Well, I would have to say start off slow. Get to be with her more. DO more things with her, and include things with her family. Get them to KNOW you are a great guy, and that they can TRUST you with her. That is a huge issue, and if they see that in you, they might even suggest she date you. Its worked for me, and it can work for you. If this is really what you want, then you should do what is possible to go for it. Also, as a side note. I wouldnt plan out a relationship. Where is the fun in whats to come, if you already know. Let things go, and see what turns out. The greatest things in life, are unexpected. If it is meant to be, then it shall. You cant plan it all out. Anyway.
I hope I helped!
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If her parents like you they probably wouldn't mind your dating their daughter. You don't give her age but if she is not much younger it should all work out. You won't know until you try so go for it. :)
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Already knowing her parents puts you ahead in a lot of ways, especially if you're friends with her parents. That should mean that they trust you already, and would hopefully trust you with their daughter. If you need to, let them know that they'd be in better hands trusting their daughter with you than with some guy that they don't know, and don't know his intentions.
Just explain to them that their daughter is safe with you and that they don't need to worry about anything, and hopefully they'll find it a good sign that you came to them and asked them first before you asked her.
And remember, the more social and open the event and the closer it is to daytime, the better.
Any more questions or comments, feel free to inbox me.
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Talk to her, and make sure that she would be interested in dating you. Then talk to her parents. If you're good friends with them it shouldn't be TOO uncomfortable. Just talk with them, and explain that you're trying to be responsible and mature because you care about their daughter as well as their approval. Good luck! ;]
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I enjoy the vocabulary, this is a very refreshing read.
I'd talk to the girl about it, and see if her parents do have a problem with it. Explain to her that you have enough respect for her and her family that you wouldn't want to put any stress on your relationship right off the bat. I don't want to go as far as to say disinvolve her parents completely - however I don't see how putting yourself in an unneeded and somewhat akward position is going to help at all.
If her parents won't let her date, then I suggest you just hang around with her for awhile - just in her parents prescence more often. Try to go to the coffee shop with her now and again in a friendship setting. If you are a frequent customer, and they are familliar with you, they may bring up the situation when you are alone there one time, which will definitely take a lot of the weight off of your shoulders. Going with their conversation is much easier than trying your own.
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Since her parents know you, you already have one major hurdle out of the way. You haven't said how old this girl is but I assume she's younger than 18 if she needs her parents approval to go on a date.
I would suggest asking her parents first and suggesting a date that would not put their daughter in a uncomfortable situation. Something to the effect of "Mr. and Mrs. Jones, I met your daughter and I would like to get to know her and spend time with her. I was wondering if it would be okay for me to ask her to go to a concert (or whatever) with me on Friday night. I can have her home by 11 (or whatever time you think they'll go for best)."
Her parents will probably appreciate your maturity in asking them first rather than trying to go around them. A day date may make them feel more comfortable so you can also try that.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
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