Um hi. I'm just an average girl.. i draw a lot, i play piano, i play soccer, i get A's in school... etc. I know a lot about guys (due to a certain friend... she always has crisis to deal with.), and general life questions. Hope to hear from you :D
Website: Knotty Panda
E-mail: LDStarz@adelphia.net
Gender: Female
Location: US
Occupation: Student
Age: 14
AIM: KnottyPanda
Member Since: December 5, 2004
Answers: 34
Last Update: August 14, 2005
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I have been nevous about going back to school since July. school is gonna start next monday (yea early) and i'm scared about i guess everything ( classes, new friends, teachers, friends, friends, and enemies). How can i get over my school gitters by Monday?
Please help
Thanks
10th grader in da house. (link)
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Is it a new school? If it is, just blend in the first day or two, and then you'll start recognizing people, learning your way around, and making new friends naturally by working with them in your classes. Enemies? Pshaw. You don't have to have enimies, but chances are, you'll inherit the ones your new friends have lol. To get over your gitters, go out shopping and get some new clothes to build some confidence, make sure you're really prepared, know your schedule. I know my school hands out notebooks that have maps of the school in it. Map your course through the school so you know where you're going. Be sure to plan in locker-stops if need be. It'll be natural within the first month. Don't worry about it. Teachers are really helpful for new students. Don't be afradi to ask questions.
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Unless there's something wrong, you probably won't need any of that. The worst you'll have to do is pee in a cup. At least that's all i had to do. But then again, i'd rather get shots then figure out how to pee in a cup without getting it all over my hand x.x one disadvantage to being a girl.
But no, lol, don't worry about it. Things should run smoothely
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what are some cute hand made things you can make your boyfriend for just any occasion. be really creative! (link)
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Collages are fun :D mash a collection of your favorite photos of you and him and magazine clip outs representing some fond memories. Perhaps have the collage in the shape of a heart?
That's my favorite craft for friends =) or boyfriends lol.
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i'm 13 and my mom won't let me get pierced ears. the problem is....earrings are my favorite jewelry & i'm obsessed with looking at them & buying them (except i can't because i can't wear them!!). so i have to wear clip-ons and they don't have a big variety and they come off easily or break easily, etc... i really want pierced ears, i think i'm probably the only 13 year old girl i've ever met who has no pierced ears (except ones that didn't want them, and i've only met one girl like that). i know i shouldn't give in to peer pressure but ever since i was really little, i saw this woman wearing earrings & i wanted to wear those SO badly! my mom says i'm not responsible or w/e. we have a housekeeper & i did chores FOR her and proved i was responsible and i have contacts and hamster and i clean my room a lot and EVERYTHING but she still won't let me have one! sometimes i tend to be somewhat irresponsible like every normal girl but then she points it out AND IGNORES ALL THE RESPONSIBLE THINGS I DO! idk what to do, anyway i could convince my mom about pierced ears or somehow do it at home??? thanks i rate (link)
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The best way to prove to your mom that you're responsible is by proving your knowledge on the subject. Become an expert on ear peircings; keeping them clean, how long they take to heal, different types of metal that can be damaging to sensative pericings, etc. If youc an show her that you're absolutely sure about anything and everything that could go wrong and how to prevent it, how can she say no?
First of, know that you can't go wearing all those fancy dangly pretty earings right of the bat. Chances are, you'll start of with small studs that you'll have to wear for 6 months to a year before the hole is completely healed over. It's okay to switch the earings after the first month or two, but you still need to clean the peircings regularly and whenever you put new peircings in, clean the posts in the solution you're provided with when you get them peirced. All this sanitation prevents infection and will help your ears heal better. Certain kinds of metal can be bad to put in your ear when it's still healing. Getting a silver, high-quality peircing stud is your best bet.
Good luck!
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Hey,
Im a 14/m and i babysit. Im NOT gay!!! i have a gf (were pretty steady) and everything. But babysitting is fun bc i like to b with lil kids and im getting payd 4 it. its easy money. Do the parnets whos kid im babysitting think im gay? bc ive gotten a lot of ppl who think im gay. (link)
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Well screw them.
It's wonderful that you're having fun with the kids and making good money, and you have a steady girlfriend... things seem pretty well off for you. Just because you babysit doesn't mean you're gay. I mean, i play guys soccer, i street roller blade, i do typical "guy" stuff like belch loud in public and i don't have a very feminine walk but it doesn't mean i'm gay. Not that there's anything wrong with being gay, but if you're not, then well, you're not. And certainly, liking children is not gayness. How do you think all those loving fathers out there do it? A lot of people thinking your gay is simply a lack of judgement and extreme narrow-mindedness on their part. Don't let it get to you. They'll see how wrong they are in time i'm sure. They'll probably grow out of it. People that age tend to be very immature.
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Why do atheists believe there is no God? I hear a lot of arguments against organized religion but I don’t hear many actual ‘reasons’ that there is not or cannot possibly be a God? So what are thier reasons? (link)
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Well, i think it has something to do with how illogical there is. There's no real PROOF, physical, tangible, proof that there really is a God. That's really what faith is though. Not needing proof. But if they do need proof, that may be why they don't beleive in it. Anything is possible, so there very well may be some form of higher being, but it's really how you interpret the idea. Personally i beleive that there are many Gods, or moreso, spirts, of everything around us, and that is is not strictly one God who created us all. (I think that's a little bit narrow-minded) but really, God is just a form of hope or strength for some people, and i think that whatever is helpful to an individual, they should continue that practice. Athiests may not beleive in God for many reasons, but the simplest thing is, that they don't. And there's no real reason why they should or shouldn't, they just don't. And there's nothing wrong with that.
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18/M About 6 months ago i was burned bigtime by a girl that i liked. In retrospect i went overboard with planing out every miniscule detail. Now a new girl has found her way into my life. She likes the same things as me and shares the same musical interest, BUT the problem is that i am also good friends with her parents and im not sure if they would let her date yet. What would be a good way to get the parents approval. (The parents own a local coffee shop that I frequent) (link)
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It sounds to me that if you were friends with her parents, it would make it easier. They know you, they trust you, it should be fairly easy to get them to aprove. How old is the girl? If she's too young, i suggest you remain friends but don't get involved in a relationship. The likelyhood that she'd feel the same way when she's older and able to make a move is low. I'd just keep on the low side for a while and play it slow. There's no rush.
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sometimes i seriously just cant sleep...is it bad for an almost 15 yr old to use sleeping pills?
any suggestions on what type (if its not bad)? (link)
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Generally, i tell everyone one under 18 to stay away from pills if possible. It's best to talk to your doctor about it if it's really an issue though. Maybe you're just stressed or restless. Try reading or something befroe you go to bed to get you drowsy. Is there anything going on in life that would make you nervous or uneasy? I wouldn't jump into it straight away. Talk to your parents, talk to your doctor, and together you can decide if it's really a problem.
I don't know any kinds of pills, i'm afraid. But like i said, discuss it with trust adults (as cheeseball as it may sound, they really do know what's best at this point.)
Sleep tight,
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okay so I'm just starting to use tampons more - i've always felt like i can feel them and stuff - but i think it's because i try and use them when my flow is really light... i've tried using them on a more heavy flow this time - ive pushed it in as far as it will go but i can like feel the string when i clench my muscles - is this norm? just something you get used to after a while? cuz right now it feels super weird i thought you arn't meant to feel them at all... (link)
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Make sure you put it in real straight and as far as you can. Really, you only have nerves the first few inches in so you may feel the string but you get used to it. Depending on how heavy your flow is, every 5-9 hours should do the trick, but if you're swimming, probably sooner. The water tends to inflate the tampon as well.
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my boyfriend of 7 months got drunk the other night and planned on hiding it from me. i found out from someone else who was there. my boyfriend always promised & swore that he would never drink and how stupid he was. he ended up getting drunk with his friend and when i found out, i gave my boyfriend soooo many chances to confess and tell me the truth and he didnt. later he finally admitted it and i was so outraged that i broke up with him and told him i never want to see him again, and i hung up. he hasnt tried to call me or fix things up. my friends called him and said he was crying and too afraid to talk to me. i dont want to call him first...but should i forgive him? he broke my trust. (link)
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Is drinking a serious problem for him? has he done this before? is he an alcoholic? Wait a bit longer i think for him to apologize again and try to patch things up. Perhaps set a consequence or something for if he does it again. Or maybe you should just let things be. If it's a serious problem, help him thruogh it, but that isn't to say you should go out with again. Do you know why he got drunk? does he have family issues or problems in his life right now? it could be he just made a mistake. I'm not there, so i'm not really one to say, but i think i'd give it a little mroe thought before severing all ties.
Good luck
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do you know what lo on laguna beach last name is?
i will rate high if u know
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To be honest, i haven't watched the show... and this really isn't an advice question. One of the girls last name is Schuler, though i'm unsure which one. Lo is short for Lauren, she's 18, from Mi casa, California, and is a libra.
Sorry that's all i've got =\
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okay well ill be 16 in less than a month, and already my family and friends are asking what i want... i have no idea... so i need some help on what to get for a 16 year old girl... i really want a car... but i doubt my parents will do that, and i was thinkin a tiffanys neckalce and one of those sequin purses... but what else is there?!! please help!! (link)
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Well personally, i'm fourteen, and i think you should get a job if you don't already have one. Offer to pay for half the price of a car, or a portion of the money, and have your parents pay for the other part.
You sound more trendy than i am lol. I don't where jewlery unless it's hemp i've made myself or earings.
A nice ring with your birthstone?
Laptop: always handy for school and college and other... erm..activities.
I'm not sure what else =\ Room decor is always fun lol.
Happy birthday!
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well this guy i work with likes me a lot and i only like him as a friend and i told him that a lot of times and i thought he understood that...so i act mean to him at work but i just be playin with him...and he takes it seriously and i just be like okay whatever...well he calls me sometimes i dont answer because i dont have my phone with me...but when i do answer he asks me to the movies and i said i cant because i have to work and then i gotta go out of town...and he didnt believe me that much but he accepted that...then he told me on the phone how he thinks about me and told me not to get mad...he said that he thought i was a dyke because i kept being mean to him and that im a virgin because i act so grouchy and i dont i just act mean cause im either tired or im just playin around with him...and he said a bunch of other stuff and it pissed me off so what should i do cause i dont wanna have to face him at work...another thing he said is if im gonna marry me my cousin when i get older because everytime im always talkin to my cousins or over their house and thats cause we're really cool...sorry this is so long but i dont know what to do and i dont know how to face him!! (link)
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I find what works best is just pretending nothing happened. You don't have to get all cozy and friendly, afterall, that was pretty rude. But don't make a scene (especially not at work!) Ask him why he likes you so much if he thinks you're such a dyke. He sounds immature and unworthy, to me. Just treat him as though he were just another person on the street. Indifference is a fabulous tactic. It keeps your nerves under control and confuses your...erm... "enemy". Don't get too worked up over it. And the whole marrying thing? i doubt you'll marry your cousin XD i'm sure you'll find someone far better than that low-life and will laugh about this later.
Keep your chin up, =)
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i have a problem this guy will not go out withme untill i get a b/f 4 my friend and he wants me to get my brother to go out with her but he only likes her as a friend wat should i dooooo???
PLZZZZZZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!! (link)
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If he will only date you if you hook someone else up, than he obvious doesn't like you enough to begin with. Don't jump into relationships; it's far too desparate. If he will only go out with you under certain circumstances, then it's not worth it. He should love you uncondtionally, like a puppy =). He doesn't have enough respect for you to give you a proper response. He's using you as a tool. Don't do it. Move on >.< i know it's probably not what you want to hear, but i think it's for the best.
Good luck
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O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!
I rate high!
Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17 (link)
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oh that's horrible. You absolutely have a right to be upest or even angry. Your sister is perfectly aware of what she's done and should understand why you don't forgive her. If she were sorry, she wouldn't have done it, unless some insane outside force intervened. The only thing you cna do is move on. You're going to college soon? you'll meet tons of new people and if he cheated on you, then he doesn't deserve you. You're better than that. Hold your head high, and over time you will forgive in forget. Perhaps not for a long time, but remember that once you realize that there are more men out there for the picking and that you are a perfectly capable and self-reliant, strong individual, you will pull yourself through.
Hang tough,
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hey...well i have a friend, well i should say bestfriend because i've known her since kindergarden and now we're going to be in 10th grade...we're totally drifing apart she seems to be getting newer friends to replace me and i dont know, i kinda miss her but sometimes she acts like shes better than me, it may be just me but thats how i feel so i think that shes just trying to make me jealous with all her new friends and she cant like, hang out with me anymore. we're totally different and we hang out with completly different groups so, its kinda hard since she doesnt really know my friends and i dont really know hers. i havent talked to her in forever and everytime we do like on the phone for example, its like really quiet and theres nothin much to talk about...what should i do? should i just move on and forget that we were ever friends?...it'll be really weird and hard because we still go to the same school and our parents and friends will be all confused why we dont really talk anymore...thanx and sry this was long...i rate... (link)
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*whistle* for a second there i thought you were my friend in disguise until you mentioneed the bit about the parents bdeing friends.
I think you need to ask yourself if you really do want to be friends with her. She seems like if she's trying to make you jealous that's not very friendly. It could just be you're both growing up and naturally drifting apart, developing different interests and preferences in friends. It's not necisarily a bad thing. Talk to her about it. If she agrees, perhaps you cuold come up with a regular dat e for you guys to go out to lunch or something, once or twice a week. If you think it's the best that you're no longer friends, don't leave on hard feelings. It's best to leave a friendship on good terms and still be friendly. Say hi in the hallways, keep in touch. Naturally you lose friendships, it cannot be prevented. Most people don't keep any of their highschool friends once they're off to college. That's only 3 years away. Time really does fly. If they do keep friends, it's only a few.
Don't worry, things will work out =)
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Everything about my mom annoys me!! When she eats a popsicle stick it looks like she's making out with it, she doesn't wax he bikini and its GROSS, she's so un hip (but thats typical in moms), and she's just weird. How can I learn to live with my mom? I'm only 13 so i have to live with her still!!! (link)
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Woo calm down. Everyone has to deal with disliking there parents. For instance, my dad is sexist and won't let me play co-ed soccer (i did anyways) makes me clean the house while my brother does yardwork, doesn't think i can handle myself just going to the mall when my brother, who just turned 13, can. I'm nearly 15. But i'm not the topic of conversation!
Perhaps tell your mom that she embarasses you and that you wish she could act more.. momly, and less... nerdy lol. Go shopping with her, pick out come clothes that suit her and get her looking more hip and less frumpy. Perhaps pick out a bathing suit with shorts or something so she doesn't have to worry about bikini line. (Personally i wear soccer shorts over my bikini XD Maybe i'm too un-hip to be giving advice!) but you have to remember she IS a mom. Lol maybe you could sign her up for a mom make over or something.
You'll only have to live with your mom for a few more years. It's best to get along. Wouldn't want to storm off to college with too hard feelings, would you?
Good luck with that =)
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Theres this guy that i've been talking to online for about a year. We eventually exchanged cell phone numbers and have talked on the phone. He is really nice and I find myself feeling in love with him. I know people probably think internet love is a bust but that's how I feel when I talk to him. He isn't one of the guys that wants to have cyber sex either, just to talk. He's always there when I need him and he's very sweet and he is always looking out for my best interests as well. I want to meet him but I don't know if I should. He lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on taking a train to visit me. I know there are some freaks out there, but I don't think he comes off as one of them and I also know to be careful and if I were to meet him I would bring a friend, of course. I don't know what to do, the train station is public but the town is small so not a whole bunch of people would be there. Please give me advice. (link)
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Did you tell him where you live? perhaps you could set up a place to meet that's busier and perhaps the next town over from where you live. A busy cafe or something. Bring a friend and don't rush into things. If at all he asks you to go someplace private, politely tell him you feel uncomfortable doing so and that you'd rather enjoy yourself out in town. Depart from wherever it is you met him, and make sure he goes back to the train station or wherever. Make sure he doesn't follow you. After a few more times of this, it may be safe to introduce him to your family. Make sure your parents meet him, as ludicris as it sounds. They really do know what's best. Make sure you are absolutely confident that he's not a sketchy character, too. Don't do anything you're uncertain of.
Be careful,
best wishes,
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i recently kissed one of my best mates ex boyfriends. they had only broke up about 2 weeks earlier and the reason they broke up was because he cheated on her. she was so upset when she found out he cheated, i was one of her shoulders to cry on. then a week later, whilst talking 2 her ex boy friend, he starts asking me if i would ever be with him. I must admit i did have feelings for him but i understood that i really shouldnt pursue it if i wanted 2 stay friends with my friend. he was emailing me and telling me that he thort he had feelings for me.. i wasnt really sure wat to do, i didnt want 2 lie and tell him that i had no feelings 4 him but at the same time i was constantly thinknig of my friend. then at a party that wknd i had a few drinks and me and this boy got rather close. he told me that if we hooked up we would keep it a secret and no one would ever know, at the time i thort that it would work and i wasnt thinknig clearly. i kissed him 4 about 2 minutes before realising that i would have 2 pay for my actions. we agreed 2 not tell anyone but naturally we both couldnt keep it 2 ourselves. My friend then confronted me and asked me about it, i didnt want 2 lie seeing i new taht would be worse in the long run. i told her the truth but didnt really get a chance 2 tell her all the details and appologise in fully. From that day on she has been avoiding me, we did have a brief talk about it and she said she didnt hate me she was jsut really really hurt, but deep down i no that i have ruined our friendship and taht it is my fault. i really want 2 talk it threw with her and get things back 2 normal but i understand that she needs time and may not ever want 2 forgive me. i really want 2 make up and i regret doing it so much, even tho i have very strong feelings for the boy. it was really stupid of me now thinking back, sacrificing such a good friend for a boy who cheats on his girlfriends and plays girls. i dont know how i could have been so stupid. please help me what do i do 2 not hurt her anymore and not hurt him? (link)
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I only read the title, but i say Best Mate. I've always stood by that good friends are more important than a boy. Unless you are madly in love (which, i'm assuming, you're at an age where you can't have found your "true love" yet) and your friend is being unreasonable. Most likely, your friend is looking out for you.
Then again, i probably should have read the whole paragraph. I'm far too lazy right now XD
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ok so im going to be a freshman and i want to dress really good this yr but i dont want peole to think im al self absorbed bc im not! i just want to look nice but not snobby bc i want to meet some new people
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HAHA. oh man, i'm probably not the one to be giving advice on this but i'll tell you what i do, and what ithink will work.
Personally, i'm kind of an outsider. I dress radically and eccentricly, but more importantly, i dress however i damn well like to. But, being and outsider is tons of fun and i have many awesome friends. (goths, punks, i have a football player friend, nerds, i have a few preppier friends... it doesn't matter) To be honest, i htink you should dress how you like. Decide one what you think you should dress like, and do it. If people don't like it, well then screw them. A better way to make friends is to join groups like band, drama, or sports teams. By "New people" do you mean the cool people? or do you mean good friends? if you want to dress cool, buy $70 jeans with rips in them, shirts that are tight and show your belly, highlight your hair and straighten it, and become anerexic. And cary around on brand label bags and clothing. But if you want to enjoy yourself, just have fun with it. For instance, i've worn tall black and pink striped sox, sketchers sneakers with rainbow laces, a red plaid pleated skirt, a green tshirt that says "i
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