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Internet "love"
13/f he is 14/m
Theres this guy that i've been talking to online for about a year. We eventually exchanged cell phone numbers and have talked on the phone. He is really nice and I find myself feeling in love with him. I know people probably think internet love is a bust but that's how I feel when I talk to him. He isn't one of the guys that wants to have cyber sex either, just to talk. He's always there when I need him and he's very sweet and he is always looking out for my best interests as well. I want to meet him but I don't know if I should. He lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on taking a train to visit me. I know there are some freaks out there, but I don't think he comes off as one of them and I also know to be careful and if I were to meet him I would bring a friend, of course. I don't know what to do, the train station is public but the town is small so not a whole bunch of people would be there. Please give me advice.
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bring your parents and go out to lunch with him and just hang out. i know it can be weird with parents around but just to be safe i would bring them.
modelkate11
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Well i know what you mean, falling in love is the best feeling ever, but just make sure you know him well enough, and if you ever do think of meeting him, DONT go alone, go with a couple of friends so that you are in a big crowd and you will feel safe, i hope it turns out good for you! Good LucK
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Definitely go for it. If he's willing to pay the train ticket and come to you, and he's never even tried to have cyber sex with you, and you've talked on the phone, it sounds sincere. There's always that chance that he's some freak, but it doesn't sound like he would go to so much trouble if he could just find some girl that he could hook up with more easily. Anyways, it's good that you're bringing a friend, just in case you need to make a quick escape, and it sounds like there will be enough people there if it's a train station; there's always the ones boarding and getting off, right? Anyways, you sound very mature for your age, hope this works out for you!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Did you tell him where you live? perhaps you could set up a place to meet that's busier and perhaps the next town over from where you live. A busy cafe or something. Bring a friend and don't rush into things. If at all he asks you to go someplace private, politely tell him you feel uncomfortable doing so and that you'd rather enjoy yourself out in town. Depart from wherever it is you met him, and make sure he goes back to the train station or wherever. Make sure he doesn't follow you. After a few more times of this, it may be safe to introduce him to your family. Make sure your parents meet him, as ludicris as it sounds. They really do know what's best. Make sure you are absolutely confident that he's not a sketchy character, too. Don't do anything you're uncertain of.
Be careful,
best wishes,
Panda
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Go for it. If you're really worried, bring a friend along with you or something.
But usually you can tell their age by their voice.
--Social Suicide
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theres nothing wrong with the internet thing it can come off weird but you shouldnt get to attached at first if you do go and meet him make sure you bring a friend just in case he may be more of a friend then a boyfriend u may be mistaking love for caring or maybe not who really knows the reason internet love can feel like a bust is after a while people become vulnerable and restless with a need for the other online relationships usually fail doesnt mean theres not hope for this! i think you should try to meet him and bring at least a friend if not 2
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I aggred with fcelcia..I think you should meet him!!So, you're not gonna be questioned for along time about him..And don't forget to bring your friend..LoL..Hope I helped!
-ViTaChaN-
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Okay... you haven't met this guy, right? You just know him from phone calls and internet, right?? And you believe in everything he says to you?? You're really sure that you want to meet him, but what about if he's not the one that you dream about??? You'll loose it. but I think you're a positive thinking one, so just go. Maybe you should ask for a friend to accompany you, you know that it's not save for a girl alone in a place.
FCeLciA
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i know what you're talking about. when you say that you have met someone on the internet and you really like him. but you should NOT meet him. that is a BIG no-no. i swear to God. i know someone who has been raped by a guy. she wasnt close to me but i always tell my friends not to even think about going out. i mean, its their choice if they do but i mean, come on. if you meet him in person, you might not think of him the same. but if you dont and you keep your relationship the same, things will stay good. DO NOT tell him where you live tho. but that is also your choice as well. you have no idea. if you havent, read the book Katie.com. its about the same thing. hope i help <33
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Give him a chance ^-^
but make sure your friend is by your side at all times~ good luck && hope i helped!
TORi
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If you think you love him then you should meet him. <3Brittany
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This is a pretty intresting question. You sound like a very smart person that knows what they're doing. Well since you have actually talked to him on the phone atleast you know that he isn't some 20 year old looking for love. However you would be a lot safer if you didn't meet but I don't know him like you do. The best I can say is follow your heart and things will work out just fine :) !!
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I use to do that whole internet and lon distance relationship thing. For some people its a soulmate finder for most its just a fake. I would never reccomending meeting someone from online EVER! I know you thik he's sweet but that's just online! He could be a molester or killer or anything. I don't care if you're bringing your whole school with you DON'T DO IT! I've seen people who have met their internet buddies and vanished. You gotta be smart and I can see that you are saying you would bring a friend but don't! DOn't put you or your friend in danger. please don't do it!
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That's not the smartest thing to do, but if you're set on doing it there are some things you should do.
-Bring a friend. Even if you think that would make it "awkward", bring one and don't let them leave you.
-HAVE A PHONE. I know that sounds stupid, but make SURE you have a phone with you. [It would be really smart to let him think you DON'T have it, because if he TRIES to do something, he'll think he has the upperhand.]
-Tell other friends what you're doing, and make some kind of word signal or something like that. If you call them saying a certain word or phrase, have them immediately call your parents.
-The smartest thing you could do is tell your parents what you're doing. Or at least that you're meeting somebody new, and bringing a friend, but if you call in trouble, they'll know why. Let them know what you're doing.
Just because you've talked to him on the phone and he doesn't SEEM weird, doesn't mean anything. A person can always be nice on the phone and internet, they can change in person. Just be super careful, and take WAY more precautions than you think you should.
♥ Melissa
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Doing this isn't the smartest thing to do. It seems to me like you already know this. If you were to meet him MAKE SURE you bring a friend. And don't let him/her leave your side. Make sure this friend is a trusted friend. Oh and it's best if he tells you what hes wearing or something that will make him stick out. Don't tell him what you are wearing so if he isn't the right guy he won't know it's you and you can leave without trouble.
-please be safe
~I hope it works out for the best~
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