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best mate or boy?
i recently kissed one of my best mates ex boyfriends. they had only broke up about 2 weeks earlier and the reason they broke up was because he cheated on her. she was so upset when she found out he cheated, i was one of her shoulders to cry on. then a week later, whilst talking 2 her ex boy friend, he starts asking me if i would ever be with him. I must admit i did have feelings for him but i understood that i really shouldnt pursue it if i wanted 2 stay friends with my friend. he was emailing me and telling me that he thort he had feelings for me.. i wasnt really sure wat to do, i didnt want 2 lie and tell him that i had no feelings 4 him but at the same time i was constantly thinknig of my friend. then at a party that wknd i had a few drinks and me and this boy got rather close. he told me that if we hooked up we would keep it a secret and no one would ever know, at the time i thort that it would work and i wasnt thinknig clearly. i kissed him 4 about 2 minutes before realising that i would have 2 pay for my actions. we agreed 2 not tell anyone but naturally we both couldnt keep it 2 ourselves. My friend then confronted me and asked me about it, i didnt want 2 lie seeing i new taht would be worse in the long run. i told her the truth but didnt really get a chance 2 tell her all the details and appologise in fully. From that day on she has been avoiding me, we did have a brief talk about it and she said she didnt hate me she was jsut really really hurt, but deep down i no that i have ruined our friendship and taht it is my fault. i really want 2 talk it threw with her and get things back 2 normal but i understand that she needs time and may not ever want 2 forgive me. i really want 2 make up and i regret doing it so much, even tho i have very strong feelings for the boy. it was really stupid of me now thinking back, sacrificing such a good friend for a boy who cheats on his girlfriends and plays girls. i dont know how i could have been so stupid. please help me what do i do 2 not hurt her anymore and not hurt him?
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well i think your friend is more inportant then the boy friend so id tell her that you were half drunk and you know how drunk people are? so id just say that you were sorry and tell her that you want her to stop ovioding you
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I only read the title, but i say Best Mate. I've always stood by that good friends are more important than a boy. Unless you are madly in love (which, i'm assuming, you're at an age where you can't have found your "true love" yet) and your friend is being unreasonable. Most likely, your friend is looking out for you.
Then again, i probably should have read the whole paragraph. I'm far too lazy right now XD
Panda
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Hm.. I dont think there is anything else that you can do. I mean you apologized to her and you didnt mean it. Why is she so hurt when they BROKE UP??? Thats what I dont get.. maybe she might have some feeling for him still but she needs to understand that they are OVER! Who ever he goes out with she will get mad and hate. Thats just how it is. You need to tell your friend once again that you didnt even relize what you were doing and that it just happens. Tell her she shouldnt be so mad because they arent even going out. It wont ruin your friendship. Its really up to her. If you guys dont talk again its her fault. Shes being stupid and she is mad because of basiclly nothing. Its not even a big deal and she needs to get over it. If she is going to throw away your friendship over that then that is just pathetic. I think you might want to just stay friends with that guy nothing more because if she got hurt over that little thing who knows what else might happen. You wont hurt him. Just explain to him what happened && even tho you like him a lot that you would rather be friends. Maybe if you still like each other in the future then you could go out but for now take it slow.
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you should have made a better descion and now you have to talk it out with your friend and stay away from that boy.. all he would do if you guys got 2gether would break your heart and that would not have been good! make a mense with your friend and say you will do wutever she wants(in terms of that boy)
i hope i helped and please keep me posted!
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kristin
p.s: if you need more specifics just tell me
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There's nothing you can do. It's good that you see that you're at fault, and you should talk to her and tell her that. But don't push your old frienship on her, she's going to need time to think and she may not want to be friends anymore. Talk to her and let her know.
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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that sounds so familliar in a situation ive been in before... and i was the girl where the guy liked my best friend and she made out with him while we were 'togehter with out the title' and told me 3 months later. i was so upset with her so i can see where ur friend is coming from, shes scared that you will hurt her again because she thought she could count on you but you went to the guy. well thats how i felt with my friend. just give her some time, tell her the complete truth on what happend and dont talk to that guy any more even if you have feelings for him. it will just make her think you would still do that again. well its just a idea so good luck
xo erica
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Who do you really care about? Your friend is always going to be here for you and a guy that cheats wont. Dont let this guy break your friendship like this. Your friend needs time to heal from both a heartache and friendship. If this guy cheated one your friend how can you feel this way about him? Does your feelings towards him feel stronger than the feelings towards your best friend. Try talking to your friend. Dont worry so much about hurting the guy because he needs to get hurt. He needs to know how it feels to be hurt. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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you need to ask her if you can just explain and untill she listens dont leave her alone finally when she does wich she should from being annoyed come around explain to her that everyone makes mistakes and that you are so sorry and that you will break up with him (if you want to) (if you already have say)that you have broke up with him and that if she will just please forgive you and if she doesnt then shes not really your friend because thats what friends do they forgive each other well hope i helped and if you have ne more question just drop em in my inbox
~kelly
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I wouldn't worry about hurting him any. His type don't have many feelings. He cheated on her...he will most likely cheat on you.
All you can do is try to talk to your friend. It will take time but you will be friends again. It seems you have a good head on your shoulders...just use caution with the guy because he will break your heart, I'm afraid. :)
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