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BF... or not?
O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!
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Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17
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oh that's horrible. You absolutely have a right to be upest or even angry. Your sister is perfectly aware of what she's done and should understand why you don't forgive her. If she were sorry, she wouldn't have done it, unless some insane outside force intervened. The only thing you cna do is move on. You're going to college soon? you'll meet tons of new people and if he cheated on you, then he doesn't deserve you. You're better than that. Hold your head high, and over time you will forgive in forget. Perhaps not for a long time, but remember that once you realize that there are more men out there for the picking and that you are a perfectly capable and self-reliant, strong individual, you will pull yourself through.
Hang tough,
Panda
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Omg thats crazy that your sister would do that to you!! But i think you deserve better and once a cheater alwayz a cheat espesually if hes done it to you twice!! Your in love with him but i dun think he feels the same way about you!! Not to be mean but i think you should dump his ass you deserve so much better!! Ok i hope i helped!! *~*MUAH*~*
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ok my friend liek everyone said once a cheater always a cheater but you really liked him so you thought he wouldn't do that. Don't worry somone will come soon. God knows what He is doing. So have faith in Him. Maybe you can aska freind to say hi to one of her cuz's ;) hoped I helped
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Alright~ well, first of all, you should've never forgiven him in the first place. There's this saying I like to go by : "Once a cheater, Always a cheater" Just don't accept his apologies && get him completely out of your life. It's hard to get him out of your head && heart, I know, cause it's happened to me before too. I forgived my ex-boyfriend just like you did. He didn't cheat on my sister the second time, but my best friend. I got him out of my life, i coudln't get him out of my head, He was always there. But i spent time with my other friends and they helped me feel better. They ended up dragging me out of my own house cause i was so depressed. You should try to hang out with your best friends too. Well, second of all, not talking to your sister && not forgiving her does you no good. You think it does, but it really doesn't. It hurts you && your sister more. Though she did something horrible, you should still talk to her && forgive her because one, she's your sister, and two you know you love her. You can get your boyfriend out, but you can't get your sister out of your life. Talk to you sister. Both of you should try to understand each other. Good luck && hope i helped.
TORi
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My philosophy for those who cheat on anything is "once a cheater, always a cheater". First thing you should do is completely get your boyfriend outta your life and even though it's obviously tearing you up inside.
Your sister obviously is sorry because if she wasn't then she would have stopped saying sorry. It sounds to me that she truly is sorry what she has done. Forgiveness is always the right path, no matter what and even if it doesn't seem the best route to go. Forgive your sister and work with her to make yourself get over your boyfriend. I'm sure it is just devastating on you but I'm sure you deserve better than a boyfriend who is willing (and has) cheated on you. You will find someone who will be all the things your old boyfriend was only better and without the cheating. Also try talking to your friends, because I've found nothing can comfort you more than your friends can at times like these.
I'm really very sorry for everything that is going on with you. If you need anything else drop something in my inbox or IM me at Alpha0mega345. I hope this advice helped and everything gets better for you.
Your in my prayers.
-Ryan
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If he was the 'one' he wouldn't have cheated on you the first time. In fact, he wouldn't have cheated at all. Going with the cliche, there are other fish in the sea.
As for your sister... I get jealous when my sister just likes my boyfriends... I don't know how you could stand that. But, if it were me, I probably wouldn't really trust my sister and my boyfriends alone together-- ever. Let her know you're mad at her, do whatever you have to do. Then be a nice person and forgive her. I'm not saying trust her, just forgive her.
As for yourself, don't get all depressed just because one guy has gone mental. Date, work, trust your sister, buy a book on getting over him, do whatever you have to to get over him.. eventually, you will.
If it makes you feel better, he chose you to be in an actual relationship with rather than your sister. This has to show something for your personal/physical qualities! He chose you over the other sluts! And some other guy will do the same thing, without the whole sleeping-with-your-sister-thing.
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What is it your wanting to do? Your wanting to forgive her, and your should take it from someone with the experince, my sister and mother stoled my boyfriend, (and you thought yours was weird.) Actually your not alone, these kind of problems happen all the time now, really in reality, they've always been happening, Jerry Springer just happen to make it known to the world. Truly I understand your pain, sisters are to stick together NO matter what. I know it hurts, but think about it, here you thought he was the "it" guy, well you should thank your sister for really showing you what a jerk he is that he would sleep with another relative of your's. She's sorry, so forgive her, but mke it clear you cant forget what she did and you will have to learn to trust her again. Like I said before hun..."sisters and bro's should stick together NO MATTER what, all you guys going to have is each other when you get older." Whatever you do dont let that jerk come back anywhere near the two of you! You shouldnt let guys come between sibs. hope this helps. GOOD LUCK, let me know how things go. GOD bLEss
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ok first things first...find out why in the world he would cheat on you. If he truly loved you he wouldn't cheat on you. Second of all not talking to your sister will help for a little while but after a while your gonna need her in your life. Now usually most guys really do feel like "he was the one" but you have to remember its just a guy and guys have feeling just like us. You might have already known this but still. Remember hes just a guy and really there is tons and tons more guys out there. You may not see it now but soon you will find a better guy. He may come crawling back to you and if you want a cheater in your life than take him back...!!
-this may not help but i tried my best.
~I hope it works out for the best~
- you WILL find someone perfect for you...
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Okay, first of all, your sister is your FAMILY. Remember that anybody could be gone at any time, you aren't guaranteed more time with ANYBODY. You need to let her know that you do love her, but you're really unhappy with her. If you choose not to talk to her, that's your choice but remember she might not always be there.
As for the guy, you're right, you DON'T need him in your life. Find another guy!! There's always another chance out there! Good luck & I hope you feel better!
♥ Melissa
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Your heart was broken. You were betrayed by two of the people you thought you could trust the most- the one you love and your sister. It's completely normal to feel angry and depressed. But try to focus on the better things in life. Talk to your sister. Tell her why it's so hard for you to forgive her, and ask her why she had to betray you. Although you probably knows, tell her it will take a while for you to trust her again. She is probably feeling as miserable as you are right now, so don't be too hard on her. Talk to your friends about what's going on. They will be able to talk to you, give you advice, and help you through this. Nearly everyone who's ever been in love has also been heart broken. Don't let this incident ruin your life. He obviously WASN'T the one for you, even though it felt that way. I'm not gonna tell you to move on, because that's something you can't force. Just remember, the scars will heal in time. Just give yourself a few months to spend solely with friends and family, and allow your mind and heart to heal and forgive. It's natural to feel like you will never forgive your sister, but, in time, you will come to realize that she is one of the few people in this world who love you the most, and when you need her, she will always be there for you. Good luck, and feel better. xo
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You are the same age as I am. You have MANY chances to find love again. Even though my b/f and I broke up and I loved him, I am okay now and trust that I can find love again. I don't know if you believe in God but if God can give everyone in the entire world, he can definitely forgive your sister and your boyfriend, and you can. I know you're hurt, I would be hurt too, but your sister will be your sister forever. No matter what boys come into your life. Boys come and go, but sisters and friends will last. You will find love again, trust me, and who knows, he could be the one, even though he did something really bad. Trust that it will all be okay in the long run. I'm so sorry this happened to you. But you'll be okay...you can't stay angry forever. But forgive them. You'll feel better, and don't just say it, do it for real. good luck.
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It is completely natural to feel angry and to not want to trust anyone right now. Don't try to bottle your emotions up inside. It will just get you down. If you have a trusted friend you can rant to, call them. Or keep a journal. Get your feelings out somehow.
If your sister tries to apologize again, tell her that you love her but right now you just need your space. What she did was wrong, but I think she sees that now. Once you get over some of your anger, you'll be able to look at her more favorably. Even though you will probably forgive her, it will take a while to build the trust again.
It takes time to get over having your love betrayed. I've been there myself a time or two. Just take it slow. Don't give up on guys. Not all of them are like that. If you let this experience color your thinking in future relationships, you may miss out on your Mr. Right. I almost let mine walk away because I was afraid to trust for the same reasons you feel that way. Think of it as a learning experience. Now you know what signs to look for.
It'll take time but your heart will heal. I know it doesn't feel like that now but it will. It just takes time. Take time to work through your emotions. Cry, yell, scream, do whatever helps.....these are natural emotions.
Once you get to the point where you feel you're ready to move on, take your time. Don't rush into another relationship. Make sure the guy is really the one for you.
Good luck. I wish you the best. Hugs.
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If a guy cheats on you and then cheats on you again with your SISTER he's not worth the tears and the depression. You should forget about him because eventually a guy who really cares about you will come along and won't cheat on you. Eventually I do believe you will forgive your sister but for now I think you just need to not worry about it and let things be as they are until you think your ready to forgive her. You can't just forgive her with a snap of the finger because its not that simple but she is your sister and eventually all will be forgiven. As for the guy, when you do find the guy that really cares about you and loves you, he will feel like an idiot for cheating on you in the first place. Try not to stress yourself out over it because he isn't worth it. Hope I helped and if you need anything else send me a message
<3 Blair
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There is really nothing you can do to cure a broken heart. You can talk to your sister. I didn't say forgive her. That is pretty dramatic. Tell her that you WANT to forgive her but this is TOO BAD and dramatic for you to forgive her.
Try it!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kay
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