Hey I'm Ari, and this is my advice column!! If you need help or advice or anything, leave a question for me. I'll answer it on this, and you can check back in a little bit. I'll try to answer any question ASAP. If you need any MORE help, IM me on AnGeL x0 253, or email me at abl13@optonline.net. ALSO- if YOU want to help someone who asks ME a question, email or IM me with your advice for them, and I'll post it [saying it's from you]. If I helped, rate me high!!! THANKS. G0OD LUCK!!! ♥ ARii
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when u first like start a my space and you put a email address in and all that.. well anyway if someone wants to add you as a friend and its all like they email the request. well is the request sent there? like to ur email..because i made a email up (link)
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it's sent to your email AND when you log onto myspace it shows up there.
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How can I get guys to like me....Im 13 and have never had a boyfirend...is that like abnormall? (link)
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Not at all!!! You're only 13!!! Don't worry about it. You've only been a teenager for a YEAR. You have plenty more time to get your first boyfriend. Don't let friends and peers pressure you into thinking you need to get a boyfriend- take your time, and soon you'll find a guy who's actually WORTH dating. X0-ARii-0X
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HEY..i CHANGED MY EMAiL AND NOW i CANT DELETE MY MYSPACE iS THERE ANYWAY i COULD DELETE iT WiTHOUT THE EMAiL i SiGNED UP WiTH? .. (link)
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go to "Account Settings" when you log in (with your old e-mail) and at the very top it says "Email Address". Just change it there!!!
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i have a problem.. see im gettin over this guy who i posted a lot about in my other questions.. but he had a gf so im gettin over him.. but i have a friend and hes been helping me alot with this.. hes been my shoulder to cry on and i think im startin to like him.. the thing is he is too.. BUT he recently told one of my best friends that he likes her.. now shes gettin clingy and there not even goin out and shes gettin obsessive! hes not sure wats hes gonna do bc hes not sure if he still likes her.. but he always tells me not to worry about it and how confused he is and stuff.. i talk to him for hours on the phone and today i was sitting in church and she was in between us and next to him was my other good friend ashley.. she turns to me and goes.. i dont like how ashley is with dan .. shes startin to get me madd..shes flirting with him soo much.. im like ashley has a bf.. but wat really bothered me was that she has noo idea wats going on! i dont want her to get hurt but i have a feelin he doesnt like her that much anymore and i dont know wat to do bc if she said that about ashley, wat would she say about me??? wat do i do??
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talk to your friend [the guy you like] about your best friend. ask him if he really still likes her, because you like him a lot and you don't want her to get hurt. then, talk to your best friend about it. tell her you like him very, very much, and you don't want to hurt her but you want to know if, should he ask you out and you said yes, she would be okay w/ the two of you dating. if she says no, remember, friends should come first, no matter how much you like this guy. before you and the boy do anything more than being friends, have him talk to her about everything, so she understands your feelings for each other. if she doesn't give the two of you her "blessings", maybe you should rethink your relationship w/ the boy AND her. you shouldn't have to decide between the two of them. tell them that no matter what happens you are going to remain friends with them both. good luck!!! X0-ARii-0X
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Well Lately people have been spreading rumours about me that I am easy and a slut and stuff. And then one of my really good friends called me easy and a slut and it really hurt meh! And I really hate rumours like this! it hurts meh really badly. And also lately my parents have been yelling at me about stupid phone bills! And my dad pushed my sister about it and it really scared meh! I used to be abused when I was little but my family got help and its ok now but when he pushed her it just brought back all the bad memorys! Also for about two yeaars up until around march I was suicidal but then I got the cops called on meh and they came to my house and it was really scary so I stopped cause I didnt want that to happen again! Also I was anerexic and balimic on and off for about 2 years also. Lately alot of things have been happening that have made me want to result back to cutting but I don`t want to and I find myself going into the bathroom alot staring at blades just thinking about it and wanting to but then I come in my room and stay here. Also Sense the rumours I have been feeling useless and like I`ll never find a guy that will treat meh good and Ive just felt like I wont ever be special to anyone and its been getting me really depressed. Wanting to work out heavely to make myself look prettyer. I dont know what to do! I Want to know ways to look prettyer and maybe get guys to like meh and I need advice on my cutting and all the other stuff I wrote about! please help
14/f
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love maddie (link)
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focus on all the positive things in your life. ask people WHY they're calling you a slut and easy.. there's no need to try to look prettier, because they're probably just jealous of you!!! talk to your parents about when your dad pushed your sister, and how it really scared you. basically, talk about your problems with someone who will understand. DON'T think about killing yourself, because there are still several good things in your life- when you start to feel like this surround yourself with people you love and trust and have a good time with. don't focus on the negative things that are happening around you [although you will want to talk about them w/ someone]. ignore the rumors and soon they'll stop. find friends, girls or guys, that understand you and what you're going through. do not let yourself slip back into your anorexic/bulemic, cutting, suicidal self- you're soo much more than that, and you have to let your true self shine thru, so the rumors will stop and the problems at home will be resolved. good luck, maddie. if you wanna talk- IM me on AnGeLx0253 or email me at abl13@optonline.net. X0-ARii-0X
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Omg school is coming up so soon!! I want to be in style like everyone else but i dunno what to wear!! I want the whole preppy look!!I really think its cute but i dunno if that is really in style this year??If so then like what should i wear to look preppy?? i mean like should i wear hooped earings and lil blue jean skirts with the lil holes in them?? i dunno pleaze help!! I want answers fast and i rate 5z!! (link)
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try shopping at stores like american eagle, abercrombie and fitch, hollister, and aeropostale. they all have slightly different looks but they're all preppy and cute. if you want a slightly less expensive preppy style, try stores like Deb and other discount stores
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Ok...
I LOVE swimming
I am a fast swimmer
I am a brunette
Any email address ideas? It's an easy 5 (link)
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brunetteswimminstar
if that's too long try, brunetswimminstar, [take away the t and e] swimmingbeauty , etc. GO0D LUCK!!! X0-ARii-0X
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alright i already asked this but I left out some important info...new info is in caps lock...
A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I BELIEVE SAM'S MOM INVITED CATHERINE'S WHOLE FAMILY, WHICH IS WHY I AM UNCOMFORTABLE. HER PARENTS ARE SORT OF "WILD" THEY DRINK A LOT AND ARE BASICALLY PARTY ANIMALS. THIS MAKES BOTH ME & MY MOM UNCOMFOTABLE. ALSO, MY DRIVING TEST IS SOON, AND I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO PRACTICE FOR THE WHOLE WEEK IF I GO. ALSO, MY SISTER & COUSINS ARE GOING FOR A FEW DAYS TO MY GRANDPARENTS HOUSE, WHICH I WOULD MISS OUT ON. I honestly don't know if I want to go anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I do have reasons (as noted above -more than one) of why it might not be the best idea to go, but I would also feel like sam would be upset if I didn't go. What should I do, and how do I talk to her (either way i need to talk to her). (link)
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Compromise with her. Tell her why you feel uncomfortable going, and what you would miss out on if you went w/ her. Maybe instead of going the whole week, you could go for only a few days. This way you could still practice for drivers test and go to your grandparents house, and you wouldn't let Sam down. Also, you would spend less days with Catherine, and if Sam knows you're only going to be with her for a FEW days, she might wanna spend even more time with you, which is a plus. GO0D LUCK!!! X0-ARii-0X
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LET ME HOLD YOU
And Introduce you to my world
And Introduce you to the better side of life that you aint been seeing girl
Ima show you where its at
And Ima show you how to get it
All you got do is be wit it and
LET ME HOLD YOU
Who sings this? is it a song? what is it called? thank you (link)
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Bow Wow feat. Omarion. "Let Me Hold You"
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Ok...my cuzin like loves me a lot and i love her too but she's like really attached to me...i mean shes fun to be around but sometimes shes really annoying....i dont wanna say that to her but wut do i do!?!?!? (link)
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Talk to her. Don't say "sometimes you're really annoying." Tell her that sometimes you just wanna be alone... ask her if she understands, and if she doesn't tell her you love her, but sometimes when you wanna do your own thing, she gets in the way. make sure she knows you'll still spend plenty of time with her, but you deserve your alone time too, and she should understand that. GO0D LUCK!! X0-ARii-0X ♥ ♥
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ok so there's this guy *Tim* and I have been talking to him alot on IMs but everytime we talk I somehow end up flashing him on my web cam. I mean I have dumps two of my boyfriends(now my exs). I really like this guy so don't tell me something like stop talking to him. I just wanna know if there is anything sneaky or something like that so that I don't end up flashing him!
I Really Need Some Help! (link)
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if you don't want him to see that, you probably shouldn't have it on your webcam. i don't REALLY understand the whole flashing part, but if he's ASKING you to flash him, maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he's doing that. if he happens to SEE that, maybe you should be more careful w/ your webcam and such. good luck!!! X0-ARii-0X ♥ ♥
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I know this might not sound like that big of a deal but it is for me!
Well my mom and me have been fighting a lot lately..........almost like every day. But its never my fault like i would say " Mom there's no more laundry detergent." the she would blow up and say " Of course we dont because you have to use so much" and then she would start yelling at me bacause i ask for so much stuff and that she has no money to spend and i hate! I really dont want to hear about her problems then when i say that i don't want to hear it then she starts yelling at me again! please help me and tell me what to do! im going to start school on tuesday, and i dont want this to mess with my head so please help ! (link)
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talk to her about it, and ask her if there's a reason why she keeps acting like that. if you don't talk to her, you'll never know what the real problem is. don't accuse her of anything, just tell her you want to know if she needs your help w/ anything or something like that. GO0D LUCK!!! X0-ARii-0X
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I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until im 14 or 15. is this fair? why? (link)
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Yes, it's technically fair, because your parents are just looking out for you. And, anyway, most young "couples" rarely go out and do anything at all, so it's probly better that you get to start dating at an age when you can go out and have fun instead of just being able to SAY you have a boyfriend. GO0D LUCK!!! ♥ -X0-ARii-0X-
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Hey, I'm going to blockbuster soon with my mom and everytime I go I can never find anything I want to watch. I'm a girl, and I like chick flicks, what can I say. Romantic Comedies are usually my style, but I feel like I've watched them allll. Can anyone reccomend any good movies, they can be older or recent..doesn't matter. Thanks, and PLEASE DON'T SAY 'THE NOTEBOOK'. Haha. (link)
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Try A Walk To Remember. It's really sweet. Also, In Good Company, Win A Date With Tad Hamilton, Hitch, Forrest Gump, and Simon Birch are good. Forrest Gump and Simon Birch are old, and aren't necessarily CHiCK FLiCKS, but I'm nearly CERTAiN you'll love them. Hitch isn't necessarily a chick flick, but it's still a good momvie, and both In Good Company and Win A Date with Tad Hamilton [both starring Topher Grace] are cute and good movies. A Walk To Remember is really sad and touching, but still one of my all-time fave movies. If you enjoy romance movies and aren't afraid to cry your eyes out, try that one. I don't know if you've already seen this one, but Guess Who? [w/ Ashton Kutcher] is an AWESOME movie!!! GO0D LUCK!!! X0-ARii-0X
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this year I want to dress more preppy. What are some styles that look preppy? I rate very high! (link)
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If you have a high budget, try shopping at stores like Abercrombie and Fitch/abercrombie [depending on your size] and Hollister Co., or www.abercrombie.com and www.hollisterco.com. If you have a lower budget, stores like Deb [in most malls, probably has a website] and even the Macy's junior department have some cute, preppy styles for less money. GO0D LUCK SHOPPiNG!!!
X0-ARii-0X
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I have a boyfriend but it is extremely hard to spend time with him since I am so busy in the summer, and have to spend time with family. I feel like we are growing apart from each other. Should I break up with him, or stay together? (link)
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if you really love him, and care about him, you should stay together. talk to him about this and ask him if he feels the same way you do. make sure you guys talk a few times a week, and try to spend time w/ him whenever possible. if you're worrying about this, it sounds like you really DO care about him, so don't break up w/ him just yet. if, when school starts again, you still feel distant from him, maybe it's time to end the relationship or take a break. GO0D LUCK!!! ♥
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how do you make these ♥ without copying them (link)
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type & hearts ; .. with NO spaces. but i don't know if the HTML is working, so I'll just show you- ♥
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O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!
I rate high!
Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17 (link)
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Your heart was broken. You were betrayed by two of the people you thought you could trust the most- the one you love and your sister. It's completely normal to feel angry and depressed. But try to focus on the better things in life. Talk to your sister. Tell her why it's so hard for you to forgive her, and ask her why she had to betray you. Although you probably knows, tell her it will take a while for you to trust her again. She is probably feeling as miserable as you are right now, so don't be too hard on her. Talk to your friends about what's going on. They will be able to talk to you, give you advice, and help you through this. Nearly everyone who's ever been in love has also been heart broken. Don't let this incident ruin your life. He obviously WASN'T the one for you, even though it felt that way. I'm not gonna tell you to move on, because that's something you can't force. Just remember, the scars will heal in time. Just give yourself a few months to spend solely with friends and family, and allow your mind and heart to heal and forgive. It's natural to feel like you will never forgive your sister, but, in time, you will come to realize that she is one of the few people in this world who love you the most, and when you need her, she will always be there for you. Good luck, and feel better. xo
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I like this guy, and I think he likes me back, but I'm not sure. He's hinted to me pretty strongly that he likes me, but I'm not sure. What should I do? Should I ask him if he likes me or just wait and see if he asks me out? By the way, I'm a girl and I'm 14. (link)
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Tell him you have a crush on him, and ask him if he likes you too. Don't pressure him, though- if he doesn't like you back, tell him you can still be friends. If he DOES like you back, ask him out. GO0d LUCK!! xo
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Ok I have this friend who is always calling me names like stupid and if I say something to her like o thats real smart(jokeing) shell hit me.I know she is kidding but everytime I tell her to stop she never does.How can I get her to stop calling me names and hitting me? (link)
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Wow. Talk to her. Tell her she has to stop, or she'll lose you as a friend. Make sure she knows what she did- you do NOT want to just ditch her and not tell her what went wrong. If she doesn't stop, say, "I warned you, and I was serious. I do not want to be friends with someone who constantly makes fun of me and hits me. I'm sorry." And walk away. Don't let anyone except you and her get involved. GO0D LUCK!! xo
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