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i have a problem.. see im gettin over this guy who i posted a lot about in my other questions.. but he had a gf so im gettin over him.. but i have a friend and hes been helping me alot with this.. hes been my shoulder to cry on and i think im startin to like him.. the thing is he is too.. BUT he recently told one of my best friends that he likes her.. now shes gettin clingy and there not even goin out and shes gettin obsessive! hes not sure wats hes gonna do bc hes not sure if he still likes her.. but he always tells me not to worry about it and how confused he is and stuff.. i talk to him for hours on the phone and today i was sitting in church and she was in between us and next to him was my other good friend ashley.. she turns to me and goes.. i dont like how ashley is with dan .. shes startin to get me madd..shes flirting with him soo much.. im like ashley has a bf.. but wat really bothered me was that she has noo idea wats going on! i dont want her to get hurt but i have a feelin he doesnt like her that much anymore and i dont know wat to do bc if she said that about ashley, wat would she say about me??? wat do i do??
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well what i would do is wait until everything cools down n situated so you know whats goin on before you act on anything n then regret it. Sounds like an MTV reality show to me lol. I dont think anyone else knows whats going on either. Just becareful n like i said i would wait .
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talk to your friend [the guy you like] about your best friend. ask him if he really still likes her, because you like him a lot and you don't want her to get hurt. then, talk to your best friend about it. tell her you like him very, very much, and you don't want to hurt her but you want to know if, should he ask you out and you said yes, she would be okay w/ the two of you dating. if she says no, remember, friends should come first, no matter how much you like this guy. before you and the boy do anything more than being friends, have him talk to her about everything, so she understands your feelings for each other. if she doesn't give the two of you her "blessings", maybe you should rethink your relationship w/ the boy AND her. you shouldn't have to decide between the two of them. tell them that no matter what happens you are going to remain friends with them both. good luck!!! X0-ARii-0X
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Allright, let me get this straight; you're starting to like your friend and he's starting to have the same feelings for you. You're friend thinks he likes her completely and is upset because she thinks that one of your friends is tryin to get close to Dan. But you know she isn't because she has a boyfriend. You're angry because she doesn't know what's going on and upset because you don't know what she'' say about you and Dan. Dan's friend likes you and you love him to death for being there for you also.
Ok, you and Dan like each other and he's not so sure he has feelings for you're friend anymore. Ashley doesn't know what's going on. You shouldn't let a guy destroy your friendship. I'm not sure how you feel about Dan's friend, but he'd probably understand. You might could explain things to your friend and his, shed some light on this mess. If a disagreement over a guy can tear you and your friend apart, then it seems you have reached a parting of the ways. You're at a crossroads, just try and make the best choice for yourself.
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i'm not sure if i get the whole picture, so i'm just going to tell you how i see it...
the situation sounds teribly complicated and sounds as if its going to explode pretty soon, a pretty HUGE fuckup.
sounds like dan is confused. the best thing for him would be to lie low for a while, start a zen garden and first sort himself out, else he is going to hurt people and himself, he needs a friend not a gf.
your best friend sounds insecure, i'd say she'll need to sort herself out too, she well on her way to getting hurt, i knew a person that acts the way you described her, hope she will but i don't think shes going to listen to reason.
I was in a situation...errr...in ways simular to this one and...errr...DO NOT TRY TO FIX IT, getting caught up in the middle of this will only get you blamed in the end.
you can only tell your friends how you see it. chances are great they won't like what you have say. after that take a step back, go out meet new people, let it hit the fan and help your friends pick up the pieces afterwards (if they will allow you).
Just take it easy.
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