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Depression
Well Lately people have been spreading rumours about me that I am easy and a slut and stuff. And then one of my really good friends called me easy and a slut and it really hurt meh! And I really hate rumours like this! it hurts meh really badly. And also lately my parents have been yelling at me about stupid phone bills! And my dad pushed my sister about it and it really scared meh! I used to be abused when I was little but my family got help and its ok now but when he pushed her it just brought back all the bad memorys! Also for about two yeaars up until around march I was suicidal but then I got the cops called on meh and they came to my house and it was really scary so I stopped cause I didnt want that to happen again! Also I was anerexic and balimic on and off for about 2 years also. Lately alot of things have been happening that have made me want to result back to cutting but I don`t want to and I find myself going into the bathroom alot staring at blades just thinking about it and wanting to but then I come in my room and stay here. Also Sense the rumours I have been feeling useless and like I`ll never find a guy that will treat meh good and Ive just felt like I wont ever be special to anyone and its been getting me really depressed. Wanting to work out heavely to make myself look prettyer. I dont know what to do! I Want to know ways to look prettyer and maybe get guys to like meh and I need advice on my cutting and all the other stuff I wrote about! please help
14/f
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love maddie
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well maddie, by the way i know alot of hot girls named maddie well okay sorry i just had to say that
ways to look prettier well i would say act prettier... don't make guys notice you LET guys notice you let your image speak for itself
i dont no much about fashion so i cant help ya there
but if at 14 there's any guy worth dating he's going to care alot about who you are inside
good luck
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I know you dont want to hear this, but you dont need any guy write now. It just causes more drama in life. Look your beautiful the way you are, and you dont need to change for anybody. Look i know a lot of bad things are going on rite now, but you need to be strong and focous on the good things in life. And about your parents, I kow being abused must have been terrifying for you, but things are better now. And even though the abuse wasn't your fault, try to stay on your father's safe side. for example dont run up the phone bills. about cutting yourself, maybe you should get professional help with that, becuase hurting yourself should never be the solution. I hope I helped and I hope everything gets better in your life.
~Everything happend for a reason~
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Maddie, To me it sounds like you need to sit down and just talk to someone like a therapist just to vent. Rumors are rumors in a couple weeks they'll die down so don't sweat it! Thats part of high school and about your friend calling you easy and a slut maybe she was just mad at you try talking to her about it I'm sure she regrets saying it. And when it comes to guys your 14 there are plenty og guys out there. And i garentuee theres a hot boy out there that wants you! You should try working out when i was under alot of stress working out made me forget everything and it seriously helped! Don't resort to cutting yourself its not healthy and in the long runit wont make you happy plus do you really want to deal with the scars? Its not worth it at all. And with your dad sometimes people just get really frusterated and dont know how to control there anger. If it scared you bad enough try talking to your mom about it. I'm sure he probably feels horrible about it.
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Well, rumours are rumours, don't let the words hurt you. And about bad memories, ever tried to write them down? When I write every thought that I have, it makes me calm. Just write every eavening, what you wanna tell you parents, your friends, how you feel, and everything that you're conserned about in the world. It also will help you with depression.
About looking prettier, I'm sure you're bueatiful as God made you. Just try to stay healthy, watch your wieght, watch over your skin, and heart. There is someone spiecial for everyone out there, you jsut have to find them. Just live, and try new things, trevel, and see the world, meet new people. Not everybody gonna backstab you.
Don't worry about guys. At this age, they are still soooo imature. lol ;)
And don't put too much trust into guys in high school, cuz some can lie to you, and be obsessed with sex.
And look forward to your futre, becouse a miracle may come, and your life will be changed forever.
I really hope this helps. :)
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first of all, that thesinger guy is a shit head, check that he has been telling other people. but he serves as a perfect example of how fucked up MOST people are.
Those rumours are there no matter who you are,
the sooner you start to ignore them the better.
You should hear the ones about me, if I actually started to take them to heart I'd also be staring at blades.
Most guys (i respect, and decent ones) I know don't like extremly skinny girls, they complain that those girls are too skinny and bony.
You really need to get to know yourself, guys are not the awnser to your happyness, you need to make yourself happy.
A healthy relationship is about two people who are capable of living on their own, but choose to be together.
Shit there are too many thing I want to tell you but I'll be going on for hours, PLEASE read "The road less traveled" by M. Scott Peck, thats the best advice I can give you.
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Fisrt off, don't worry about the rumours about you. That's what they are, rumors. If they aren't true, then don't worry about it. If they are (only if!) then, you should do something to change their minds. Like, don't go out or kiss multiple guys, or stuff like that. (I'm sure you don't do that!)
Next, please, PLEASE, don't think about death! If you think about it, cutting yourself won't make anything better. It'll just cause more problems. Also, being bulimic AND anerexic is a VERY bad combanation. If you want to get thinner, you really should work out. It'll get you healthier and you will feel better about yourself.
Next, you shouldn't worry about finding a guy that will take care of you. YOUR ONLY 14! You have so much more time to find the right man. You'll most likely find him later on in life.
Once again, please stop thinking about suicide. It makes me feel bad when young people, especially people younger than me (17, male) are dying because of bulimia, anerexia, and cutting.
I answerd this the best I could. If you have anymore problems, visit my column.
-Azngangsta
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focus on all the positive things in your life. ask people WHY they're calling you a slut and easy.. there's no need to try to look prettier, because they're probably just jealous of you!!! talk to your parents about when your dad pushed your sister, and how it really scared you. basically, talk about your problems with someone who will understand. DON'T think about killing yourself, because there are still several good things in your life- when you start to feel like this surround yourself with people you love and trust and have a good time with. don't focus on the negative things that are happening around you [although you will want to talk about them w/ someone]. ignore the rumors and soon they'll stop. find friends, girls or guys, that understand you and what you're going through. do not let yourself slip back into your anorexic/bulemic, cutting, suicidal self- you're soo much more than that, and you have to let your true self shine thru, so the rumors will stop and the problems at home will be resolved. good luck, maddie. if you wanna talk- IM me on AnGeLx0253 or email me at abl13@optonline.net. X0-ARii-0X
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