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Q: Hello im 13 and I got this HUGE crush on my step-dads friends son who came to TX for vacation. Hes 16 but were only 3 years apart when you think about it. It seems really far away now. Anyways he stayed over for a week and a half. We were hanging out watching TV, fishing, playing with the dogs thats stuff. And he just went back up to Cali. I fell in love with him and I cannot get him off my mind. I dream about him, think about him like a million times a day, ask my step-dad constantly when he'll visit again. Im in MAD love and I have no clue what to do.
How do I get him off my mind?

-Jessica

Oh, tell me how much it just is terrible (laugh out loud) I been in a simliar situtation before... Only I was on vacation at my aunts and uncles house in the MTS. of Penn. Anysways.. this boy and I hit it off really well ... like you and that boy. I left, it was hard and he was all I could think about, but I say let your self think about it b/c your never going to stop no matter how hard you try, just keep in check with reality that he's gone. After a year or 2 went by I happen to of seen that boy and we still clicked but it was reliefing to know that eachother was doing fine and happy with someone else... So dont ever stop thinking about him. and if u can call him, write him, you never know what might come out of it, in the mean time, start looking for someone else... you have right right to be happy in the present... I hope this helps, please let me know how it all goes, GOOD LUCK! GOd BleSs

Q: O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!

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Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17

What is it your wanting to do? Your wanting to forgive her, and your should take it from someone with the experince, my sister and mother stoled my boyfriend, (and you thought yours was weird.) Actually your not alone, these kind of problems happen all the time now, really in reality, they've always been happening, Jerry Springer just happen to make it known to the world. Truly I understand your pain, sisters are to stick together NO matter what. I know it hurts, but think about it, here you thought he was the "it" guy, well you should thank your sister for really showing you what a jerk he is that he would sleep with another relative of your's. She's sorry, so forgive her, but mke it clear you cant forget what she did and you will have to learn to trust her again. Like I said before hun..."sisters and bro's should stick together NO MATTER what, all you guys going to have is each other when you get older." Whatever you do dont let that jerk come back anywhere near the two of you! You shouldnt let guys come between sibs. hope this helps. GOOD LUCK, let me know how things go. GOD bLEss

Q: ok i am going to the mal on friday to meet up with a close guy friend of mine. he used to think i didnt like him but i did soemthing that convinced him i made a shout on the radio dedicating a song and sayin that i love him, but anyways i like this guy a lot i meet him by a friend of mine she gave him my sn and we have been talkin on the phone and online all the time but on fridau we r plannin to go to the movies my best friend going wit just in case but idk i dont really care about looks he tells me he has the cute face but he has an average body which doesnt bother me but he wants somethin to happenin in the movies except i DONT have to do anything i DONT want to do.. he thinks i can give realy good head because i noe a lot about doing but never have done it be4 i want to try it but then i dont. a friend of mine who is older then told me it taste nasty and has a lot of taste of salt.. is that true?? if so how can you change the taste?? we r not plannin to have sex in the theater we r arent even goin to have sex at all... bc i am a virgin but what should i do?? if i back out of doing it how can i tell without making him think i hate his dick or stuff like that.. thanks! and me and this close friend are plannin to hook up on friday!!

p.s.

can someone give me some tips on giving head/ blow jobs and not websites

HEY CONDOMS, USE THEM... THEY ARE YOUR FRIENDS, STDS AREN'T.... ADVICE .... RELAX AND DO WHAT COMES NATURAL..... OTHER ADVICE... IF HE DONT TAKE THE TRUTH WELL AND NO FOR AND ANSWER DITCH HIM AND MOVE ON HE ISNT WORTH YOUR TIME AND EFFORT. YOU DERSEVE BETTER....HOPE THAT HELPS, TAKE CARE, gOD bLEss

Q: Hey.
Alrighty my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting over the stupidest things such as whos right and whos wrong. He hates Green Day but i LOVE them and when i got my ticket for the concert he got pissed at me. But i KNOW he loves me and i love him so much i dont wanna lose this. Our 3 month "anniversary" is in 11 days and im so happy with the relationship. But i think his trust issue is getting in the way. And i dont mean for that to sound mean cuz im not TRYING to be. But i NEED him to know he can trust me. Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany then felt SOO bad for doing it. He has had a rough time growing up and feels like he cant trust many people. What can i do to help him know he can trust me...with ANYTHING?
Thanks for any and ALL advice!!
=)
-*-Hanny-*-

P.S. SOrry its so long.=/

You said..."Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany..QOUTE--- (then felt SOO bad for doing it.") Well have you cheated on him? IF not then , you should just be patenice with him but stress to him that if he loves you and cares to make this relationship to work out then he needs to take time to learn to trust you. Give him the under-insurance that in return your going to be patenice with him and that you'll show him your not cheating. As for fighting, STOP gee's.... discuss issues that arise into a relationship not battle them out, COMPROMISE... My bf and I have disagreements but we compromise, not fight. We discuse it out until its blue in our faces and reach one (laugh out loud) sometimes it can take a few days but its worth it. "When someone gets hurt and their sense of trust is buried deep, it takes awhile to surface again, you just have to be willing to take it on and do what you have to to help" As for the GREEN Day personally I lov'em and wish I had your tickets. You might want to explain to him hun I know your upset about the tickets, but We arent going to like everything the same, we both have to be individaul's. Maybe he could hang with his buddy's that night you are out. just remember... Honesty, Trust, Comunication, and Compromising is the 4 keys to a heathy relationship... (laugh out loud) at least from my opinion and experinces.

Q: sometimes i seriously just cant sleep...is it bad for an almost 15 yr old to use sleeping pills?
any suggestions on what type (if its not bad)?

Yes, a 15 year old should NOT be taking sleeping pills, exspecially not under a care of a doctor and superivison of a parent or guardian. You didnt mention much except that you are having trouble sleeping. Do you have a set time you go to bed and a set time you get up? Your body is like a clock, it needs at least 6-8 hrs a sleep a night. It is good to set a time to get to bed and to wake up, you should get plenty of excerise during the day so your body tells itself I'm tired, time for sleep. Watch what you are eatting and drinking after a certian time b/c sugar can keep you up, so does caffine. Ask your Doctor about making a Food plan for you and excerise plan to help you sleep. You also might to want to check into Sleep Apnee.... If you are waking up in the middle of the night, hour after hour, if you wake up in sweat and if you have a tendous to fall asleep off and on all day. Best thing you could do is talk to your doctor, in mean time stop taking the pills, taking the pills at the age of 15 could seriously hurt you down the road. Hope this help... please message me back, My mother was a nurse for 26 years... Take care, let me know how you doing, GOD BLESS !

Q: ive never been kissd...im worried it will be too akward

i guess i jut need confidence or something...

Okay, best advice from me to you,is wait, relax and have a good time. Defanitly let the guy kiss you, but make sure you are ready for it. If you want him to and he hasn't yet. Send some hints his way... u can stand really close infront of him... give him that special soft look... From experince, I've notice guys take a girl licking her lips as a sign... she wants a kiss.... looking into his eyes is another... But hey, why rush, Its better to just let it all happen, not worry how its going to be, turns out to be more special that way.... my first kiss was when I was 7. I didnt think the boy liked me. we chased eachother back and forth from school daily. one day he hide behind a tree when I walked passed. He said hey , I walked over and well he kissed me... (laugh out loud) Still the best kiss ever and I've had pretty good one's. Good luck and relax! God Bless and Take care

Q: my mom and my doctor want me on birth control, and its up to me what type to use..so i was wondering whats better, the patch -- or the pill..please help me make my decision!

hey, to anwser your qestion, I find that taking the pill work a lot better, from experince and my friends who have always taken BC they found that the patch is more High risk, but I strongly suggest seeing ur OBGYN for advice, dont be scared to ask all the silly question. I can tell u though that YASMIN and ORTHO_NOVUM are the two best I have tryed.... hope this help...