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Hey.
Alrighty my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting over the stupidest things such as whos right and whos wrong. He hates Green Day but i LOVE them and when i got my ticket for the concert he got pissed at me. But i KNOW he loves me and i love him so much i dont wanna lose this. Our 3 month "anniversary" is in 11 days and im so happy with the relationship. But i think his trust issue is getting in the way. And i dont mean for that to sound mean cuz im not TRYING to be. But i NEED him to know he can trust me. Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany then felt SOO bad for doing it. He has had a rough time growing up and feels like he cant trust many people. What can i do to help him know he can trust me...with ANYTHING?
Thanks for any and ALL advice!!
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-*-Hanny-*-
P.S. SOrry its so long.=/
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well jus explain to him that the whole trust thing is important n the more he doesnt trust you then the more itll push you away n tell him youve never done anything for him not to trust you so he has no worries
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its not that he may not trust you he just may be afraid to get too attached because hes been hurt in the past tell him your always there for him when he needs you re assure him that u want him alot of relationships about the time of 3 months get a little rocky for a week sometimes longer but once you work things out i promise you they will only get better my boyfriend is VERY similar he basically only has me so just be there for him thats all you can do and thats all he can expect from you
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Sit down and tlk with him about everything. let him know that you love him with all your heart and you will always be there for him like you said you would and tell him that you know he had a rough childhood, but you can prove that you're worth it. and that you will be there for him no matter what because you're commited
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Two people in a good relationship need to have their differences. It's not like you two are going to agree/like everthing the one does. I think you should both agree to disagree. Just say: Well, obviously we aren't exactly alike so can we just agree to have our own opinions?
In a perfect world he would kiss you and sweep you away and say, "not to worrry my love, I will follow you into a briar patch" Lol..
I think he really loves you so try not to get frustrated with him. He's a keeper.
Good Luck!
--Johanna
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I’m afraid there is very little one can do on this matter. He needs to trust you. From what you’ve told me, it sounds as if someone betrayed him sometime in his past; unfortunately such wounds heal very slowly. What you can do is tell him that you want to be open with him, you are not cheating on him (if that’s true), and that you care for him but feel hurt when he doesn’t trust you. Talking heals many damages of the soul. Learn why he has hard time trusting you (if you don’t know already). It will not be easy; most people hate to open up (especially Guys). The reward, however is a must have in any relationship, how can love happen there is no trust to channel it.
I wish you luck, I feel you will need it. I hope this help, and if I did, please drop a line telling me.
Best of luck and may you uncover the pain in your bf life.
~Teen Guru~
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If you haven't cheated on him, then you need to honestly confront him about his issue. Just try talking to him because if you haven't done anything wrong, there's no reason for him to act that way with you. Happy [early] anniversary!
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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You said..."Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany..QOUTE--- (then felt SOO bad for doing it.") Well have you cheated on him? IF not then , you should just be patenice with him but stress to him that if he loves you and cares to make this relationship to work out then he needs to take time to learn to trust you. Give him the under-insurance that in return your going to be patenice with him and that you'll show him your not cheating. As for fighting, STOP gee's.... discuss issues that arise into a relationship not battle them out, COMPROMISE... My bf and I have disagreements but we compromise, not fight. We discuse it out until its blue in our faces and reach one (laugh out loud) sometimes it can take a few days but its worth it. "When someone gets hurt and their sense of trust is buried deep, it takes awhile to surface again, you just have to be willing to take it on and do what you have to to help" As for the GREEN Day personally I lov'em and wish I had your tickets. You might want to explain to him hun I know your upset about the tickets, but We arent going to like everything the same, we both have to be individaul's. Maybe he could hang with his buddy's that night you are out. just remember... Honesty, Trust, Comunication, and Compromising is the 4 keys to a heathy relationship... (laugh out loud) at least from my opinion and experinces.
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YOU'RE LEARNING HOW TO DEAL FOR MARRIGE!!! its ok to argue about the stupidest things just be careful about what you say! you can get him to trust you by doing many things such as: show him that you know that you are responsible for your actions...be respectful...if you break someones trust its hard to regain.. you can also think of how you trust him!!!
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Well when you guys fight its only meaning that your learning what irritaes the other person so its kinda a learning exeriance if you know what i mean. this way youll know what not to bring up or talk about. and about the whole trust thing, well talk to him and tell him that you love him and have been with him for 3 months and would never even dream about cheating. its just wrong and he was wrong the last time he accused you. just remind him how you felt when you were accused and how bad he felt for doing it. dont rub it in his face to much though cuz that might just tick him off. also make sure to tell him your sorry about his past but it is the past and nothing can be done about it now. hakuna matata! good luck!
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just talk to ur friend
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