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bestfriends??....
hey...well i have a friend, well i should say bestfriend because i've known her since kindergarden and now we're going to be in 10th grade...we're totally drifing apart she seems to be getting newer friends to replace me and i dont know, i kinda miss her but sometimes she acts like shes better than me, it may be just me but thats how i feel so i think that shes just trying to make me jealous with all her new friends and she cant like, hang out with me anymore. we're totally different and we hang out with completly different groups so, its kinda hard since she doesnt really know my friends and i dont really know hers. i havent talked to her in forever and everytime we do like on the phone for example, its like really quiet and theres nothin much to talk about...what should i do? should i just move on and forget that we were ever friends?...it'll be really weird and hard because we still go to the same school and our parents and friends will be all confused why we dont really talk anymore...thanx and sry this was long...i rate...
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Talk to your friend. Tell her that you feel as though the two of you are drifting apart, and you really don't like it. Let her know that you really want to continue being her friend, and you don't want to lose everything you've ever had. Find out whether she's stressing over it too, and try to work everything out -- maybe there's something that happened that caused her to start drifting away from you. If that's true (and this probably won't be the case), apologize for it -- even if you don't think you're in the wrong. Make sure she knows that you love her and consider her to be your best friend, and you don't want to lose your friendship. If it doesn't go the way you planned, continue trying (but not in a stalker-ish way). It's better to be acquaintances (which is what it sounds like you've turned into) than not be friends at all. If worse comes to worst, DON'T forget that you were ever friends. Try to get more close friends, but never forget the close relationship you had with her.
♥ Hope I helped.
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*whistle* for a second there i thought you were my friend in disguise until you mentioneed the bit about the parents bdeing friends.
I think you need to ask yourself if you really do want to be friends with her. She seems like if she's trying to make you jealous that's not very friendly. It could just be you're both growing up and naturally drifting apart, developing different interests and preferences in friends. It's not necisarily a bad thing. Talk to her about it. If she agrees, perhaps you cuold come up with a regular dat e for you guys to go out to lunch or something, once or twice a week. If you think it's the best that you're no longer friends, don't leave on hard feelings. It's best to leave a friendship on good terms and still be friendly. Say hi in the hallways, keep in touch. Naturally you lose friendships, it cannot be prevented. Most people don't keep any of their highschool friends once they're off to college. That's only 3 years away. Time really does fly. If they do keep friends, it's only a few.
Don't worry, things will work out =)
panda
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Hey!
I really don't think you should just STOP being friends in all because you have been close and have known each other since KINDERGARTEN! You can't just throw friendships like that away! That just doesn't happen! You are in tenth grade and have known this girl since kindergarten!
It may be that you and her are drifting apart. You need to try to be her friend again, without telling her what's on your mind. See if, maybe, she can take a hint that you want to be closer to her. Ask her if she can do things on the weekend and hang out with you, more. Ask if she can go to the movies, double-date, go to an amusement park, ANYTHING! Act like you were never her friend and you are trying to start a BRAND NEW friendship. Don't throw it away over this!
She is going to get new firends and it is PERFECTLY normal for YOU to get jealous. That's life! It's happened in my life, it's happened in my sister's life, it happens in EVERYONE'S life at some point. There is nothing to worry about, though. This is normal for a person to make new friends and drift away from their old ones but you have to remind her that you guys are close and you love her, as a friend and you want that closness back.
You need to talk to her if she still pushes you away. Tell her that you guys have been in each other's lives forever, been through fights but survived, and have been close through the ups and downs. Tell her that you are not JEALOUS but you want to be close and you feel like she is not wanting that to happen. Tell her that you want the friendship that you had with her a long time ago to still go on and you don't want to throw this away because you have a VERY GOOD chance of being firneds with her until the day you die and that DOES happen to people.
You shouldn't give up on the people that you care about and love dearly. You should keep trying and not feel jealous every time she gets (a) new friend(s). It IS O.K to get insecure when you feel like she doesn't care about you but she does. She HAS to because you have been a part of her when she is sad, happy, excited, and everything else. You are now in high school and have been through a lot with her.
Yes, friends fight and have insecurities but you know what? You can do it if you try. Try to be close with her again, like I said.
You know you can email me anytime you want! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or you can drop one in my inbox if you have any more questions!
I'm here to take in ANY questions and ANY private questions, I do not delete. I answer ALL of them! I'm on every day so you can email me in my inbox anytime you like! :-)
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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This exact thing happened to me recently. i honestly think you should forget about it, i dont think shes replacing you.. i put this quote in my AIM info when this happened to me.. "i've learned to forget those who forgot about me."
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You don't have to forget that you two were ever friends but just accept that you don't get along as well as you used to. Don't try to force a friendship.
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this happened to me...first of all you should definately tell your friend about how you feel, tell her that you miss her and that you dont wanna loose her as a friend....wat you should do is maybe try introducing your new friends to her and have her introduce her friends to you....that way u guys can all hang out together.
if you really feel that you both have changed so much that you cant even be friends anymore than maybe it is time to let go...but talk it over with her....you dont wanna just let go of a friendship that has lasted for so long unless its wat you really want....i mean you dont really have to "end" the friendship if you guys just stop hangin out and drift its natural....you probably have just gotten into different things...and if your parents ask what happened just explain that you two drifted...you dont have to go into it all....you guys have such a past that you should feel comfortable confronting her with all this....hope this helps (sorry for it being so long)
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Okay, I would suggest that you talk to her before you make a decision. If neither of you wants to try to be friends, don't.
<b>♥</b> Melissa
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well all i have to say is she is probley not replacing you. And dont ferget that you guys weere ever friends just talk to her about how you feel and see what she says.
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