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Um... hi. I'm Holly, 17. Live in Denver but I'm from Virginia originally. I don't know what to say... haha. I like to hang out with my friends and such, watch TV and movies. I'm also into fitness and sports, and I'm one of those freaks that actually likes school. I also enjoy helping people out, which is why I'm here. I have advice on pretty much every topic, and I try to help in the best way I know how -- I'm not one for giving sarcastic answers to questions and such.

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so i start school on tuesday and im gonna be a freshman. im a girl im 4'9 i have brown hair and green eyes. i dont know very many people i know like 6 poeple in the whole entire school. is there any way i can make friends fast? any tips or anything? i will rate high.

Haha... you're short.
Sorry. Anyway... just smile a lot -- most of the time, people will come to you. And if they don't, sit with people at lunch... strike up a conversation. Or talk to people before/during/after class. Ask them what class they have next... maybe you can walk to class together & get to know each other!
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Aight, this sounds so much like Harry Potter #6, I'm just gonna call myself Harry, my friend Ron, and hi sister Ginny.
NOTE: I'm not taking anything except for names from the book, everything else is just a coincidence.

So, I've been Ron's friend for 6 years. Nothing wrong with that, we're best friends. Then he has a sister who's a year younger than him. I kinda like her, but not quite entirely. Plus, I'm telling myself that I can't like her, she's Ron's sister! I see her a lot, I go over to Ron's house frequently. She participates in a lot of the activities we do, be it Monopoly or GameCube. I really haven't cared until about two days ago, when I noticed, "Hey, I could spent the rest of my life with this girl!" Problem is, I went back again the following morning, and I realized that she can get kinda spazzy. Very spazzy. But, apart from that, I like her. What should I do, and by the way, don't say "Just go up to her and tell her the truth" or anything like that, I need specifics! How would I do that?

It's sad that your life is so much like Harry Potter's. Get help.
No, just kidding. On a serious note, here's what I think.
You need to first talk to "Ginny." Tell her that you like her, and want to give the 'us' thing a try. Let her know that you don't feel comfortable dating her unless it's okay with her brother, however. He's your best friend and you don't want to lose your friendship.
If "Ginny" likes you, then the two of you should approach "Ron" together. Tell him that you're interested in going out, but that you want to make sure it's okay with him first, because you don't want him to feel torn between his sister and his best friend. Let him know that you want him to be comfortable with it.
If "Ron" says he's okay with it, I say go for it. But if your friend isn't comfortable with the idea of you two in a relationship, I think you should just leave it alone. It's not worth losing your best friend over.
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what does "jocking" and "hot linking" mean on xanga icon sites?

Taking stuff that doesn't belong to you.
Don't do that.
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I'm really bored. A lot of my friends are at camp. What can I do besides watch TV. Anyone know any fun websites for quizzes, or games, or other fun stuff? Thanks!

http://www.quizilla.com
http://www.bored.com
http://www.newgrounds.com
http://www.snopes.com
http://www.illwillpress.com
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13/m hey i need advise on askin a girl out. im about to ask her out but then i get chicken. HELP!!! And i have never made-out with a girl and im 13. do most kids make out b4 13? And when will i no wen to kiss her?

Okay first of all, don't be in such a rush. You're young -- you don't have to rush into relationships or kissing or anything like that. Trust me. It leads to... well... nothing.
Before you ask any girl out, make sure your parents are okay with you dating. A lot of parents don't allow their kids to date until they're a certain age -- 14, 16, 35... yeah. So make sure that your parents are okay with the idea. You don't want to ask her out and then have to cancel because Dad said no!
Anyway, I think that the best way to ask this girl out is to just strike up a conversation with her. And then, somewhere in the conversation, say something like, "So, do you wanna go out sometime?" Maybe you could offer to take her to a movie or laser tag. Miniature golf is also fun. You get to talk and get to know each other -- and you can make fun of each other for missing a putt! =)
About kissing... well, like I said. Don't be in such a rush. You've got your whole life ahead of you. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with being 13 and not kissing anyone yet. And you're not "most kids" -- so don't worry about them. It doesn't matter what "most kids" have done.
As for when the right moment to kiss her will be... well, I don't know. I think that on the first date, you should try not to be too forward. Maybe at the end you could give her a hug, and if the date went REALLY well, kiss her on the cheek. Don't push her to do anything -- if she's comfortable kissing you, you'll know.
If you need anything else, drop one in my inbox.
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Hi, I was looking for a good columnist to give me advice on this, and when I read that you are into fitness, I was like, "Wow, that was easy." SO...I go running and I don't overeat. I usually don't eat junk food. I've been patient, but I've gained weight instead of losing it, and I know it's not muscle. I can tell I've actually gained fat. I am 15/f, 5'2 1/2" and 125 pounds. I'm not happy with my weight and I've been worrying about it since like 6th grade, but I've never been able to lose anything. It's like the only thing on my mind every day and it really upsets me and frustrates me.

First of all, nice to know you sent this to me personally. =) I love when people stick stuff in my inbox!
Anyway, basically, you need a great exercise and diet program. One of the ways you can get both of these is by going to a gym -- there are trainers and nutritionists that can help create a program just for you. However, it costs money at some gyms (which sucks).
You don't need to lose weight -- your height and weight are fairly average. What you need to do is continue exercising to tone your body and make yourself look and feel more fit. I'd also suggest modifying your diet -- just because you don't overeat or eat junk food doesn't mean that you're eating the right stuff!
Here are some websites to help you out.
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/fitness/tone_it.html
http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/
http://parentingteens.about.com/cs/recipesforkids/a/funsnack.htm
http://www.viva.org.uk/recipes/youth.html
If you need any more information, please feel free to drop one in my inbox.
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Last night i went to cousin's wedding. we were all having fun and stuff.(obeying all the rules)
but later into the night, I got risky but still being a good kid, I asked my dad if he thinks it is alright if I got some drinks. He said yes,i was now 15 and I could handle myself.
So... I drank a few glasses of wine with my parents and friends. my parents didn't object.
then I left with my friend's and got some beer.
My mom caught me drinking the beer and she got really vexxed. She said how I betrayed her trust and all sorts of crap like that.
I didn't tell her that dad said yes otherwise that would cause family disruption.
No I am in trouble for drinking 1 beer. 1!
and I want to know how I could apologize to my mom.

thanks for the tips.

You're right; it's probably a good idea not to tell your mom that your dad gave you permission to drink. I've been in your SAME situation, and I told my mom -- it ended in a huge fight. So in my opinion, you shouldn't tell your mom (if your dad decides to do so, that's his choice).
Sit down and have a talk with your mom. Even though you may not feel like you did anything wrong, try to at least ACT sorry. Tell her that you know you broke a rule and you know that you betrayed her trust (even if you feel you didn't). I'd say that you should probably just deal with whatever consequences she dishes out... considering that even one beer is illegal, and she's already upset, you probably shouldn't push her too close to the edge and cause her to punish you too severely, you know?
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How do I get my boyfriend to open up to me? Like as in tell me how he feels. Everytime I ask he always says "you know" I know I do but I just want to hear him say it and like how do I get him to be more I don't know umm....open about his feelings....problem is he has never been that way! Help please?!?!

Just tell him that you really want to hear him talk about his opinions and have discussions with him. Ask him how he feels more often, and if he says, "You know," then just say, "In a way I do, but I want you to tell me exactly how you feel about this." And you can't expect him to be completely open about everything -- he IS a guy. Be patient with him!
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I Started My Period Again Yesterday, Would I Be Off Of It By Thursday Morning. Cause I'm Going To The Pool Wit A *Guy* Friend?

It depends on how long your period usually lasts. If it's one of your first few, though, it's hard to tell. If you wear tampons, then you should be fine -- swimming is fine if you wear a tampon. If you use pads... well, you're screwed.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable?

Tell him that you don't feel comfortable with his touchy-feely ways this early in the relationship. Then, punch him really hard if he does it again. Or tell your dad -- dads hate that kind of stuff.
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OK, my hair is just about shoulder length, maybe a little bit longer. It's thick and reallyyyyy wavy and frizzy. If i straighten it at night, like right before i go to bed, shood i keep it up or down overnight? Which will help it stay straight?

Well, my cousin's hair is like that, and if she straightens it at night then she has to leave it down because the ponytail holder leaves a crimp in it.
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Ok...So, I go to conciling and im on Medication. But, I still don't feel happy. I'm always down and I never want to do anything. I like being alone, always. And I try to change myself but it just keeps getting worse. Yes, I cut, But im really not a bad person. My family is dieing to get me to change and be like one of my friends. They told me that they wished I was like her....Any advice on how to change my ways and make my parents proud??

First of all, you're not the one that needs to change. There's nothing wrong with you.
If you're on medication and you're seeing a counselor, and you still aren't feeling happy, you need to tell your counselor that. There could be a different medication or dosage that could help you.
Tell your family that you're not going to change, and that they need to accept you for who you are. You don't need to change -- you're fine just how you are. Trust me. I know these things.
Oh, and stop cutting. Take the advice from a former cutter: it won't get you anywhere.
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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!

I think you should go on the trip. Sam is your friend, and I think it would really hurt her if you decided not to go. And who cares if you don't know Catherine -- this gives you an opportunity to get to know her! And if she's Sam's friend, then you all probably have some common interests. I say go, and have fun.
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i just can't get the ladies off me. they wont leave me alone to tend to my own needs. they flock to me like sheep to a sheep herder and nothing will stop them. sometimes they even break into my house jsut to watch me make my cute little face when i sleep. what can i do to get the ladies off of me??

I don't see why they like you. You sound like a stuck-up jerk.
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SORRY ITS SO LONG.. BUT I'LL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.

ok so my ex ((james)) broke up with me in April and we had been going out for 4 months.. i really liked him alot.. he was probably the one guy i liked the most.. well i really missed him for a while and i would talk to him online and we'd be friends.. but then he started to become popular and snobby to me... then we were fighting and he called me a slut.. so i blocked him and he's been blocked.. and now its summer and i never see him or talk to him.. but i still have feelings for him.. i mean i don't like him as much as i used to but thinking of him makes me sad and i miss him.. i can't tell if i really still like him.. but i wanna hate him so badly!.. so then i have my other ex boyfriend ((pete)) who i broke up with in novemeber.. and he's still in love with me.. he really likes me a lot.. and he's such a sweet guy with a great personality and he always makes me laugh.. so here's the deal.. whenever i see pete.. i like him.. but then a few days after i see him im like.. well i don't know if i like him.. but he's like the perfect guy for me.. but there's not a big spark.. so my questions are.. do you think i still like my ex james??.. do you think i should give pete another chance and go out with him??.. and what can i do to get over james quicker?? sry its longg

First of all, James sounds like a jerk. Try to occupy your mind with other things because you deserve somebody better than that -- you know, someone who DOESN'T call you a slut.
Pete sounds like a nice guy. You didn't mention why you broke up with him, so I'm not completely sure what to tell you. I think that you should continue to hang out with Pete. Tell him that for now, you're only interested in being friends because you're not really sure how you feel about him. You guys may end up dating again, or you may not. Either way, you seem to get along well, so don't give up on being friends.
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it may be long not sure, but please do not delete this lol- ok i just moved to maine from florida and so yea i dont know very many people but i started going to church and so theres this boy i think is really cute seems soo nice and today i was there and we were sittin across from eachtoher on the couches and i was reading and looked up and he was looking right at me stayed there for about 1 min and lady goes you going to finish readin i looked down and its like i totally forgot how to read lol, i really want this boy to like notice me alot cause yea i really need a guy up here in maine, see we start school in september and we go to the same school and same grade. you think theres anyway i could get him to notice me a lil more before school starts? and if you think by what i typed if it seems like he notices me at all?? * kim

Well... it seems to me that he has already noticed you. Next time you see him, introduce yourself and strike up a conversation. Good luck!
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what exactly is a condom ,where do u put it, do girls where them, and what do they do? is there a certain age to buy them?

First of all, I hope you're not thinking of having sex. If you don't know what a condom is, then you don't need to be having sex.
Now. A condom is a latex device used to keep people safe from sexually transmitted diseases. It's also a preventive method against pregnancy. It goes on a man's penis before sex, so as to act as a sort of... barrier.
As far as I know, you don't have to be a certain age to buy them -- but then again, if you don't know what they are, then why are you asking in the first place?
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School pictures are coming up, and I don't know what I should wear. Does anyone have any ideas?

Well, as long as it's a regular yearbook picture, the bottom doesn't matter.
I'd say to steer clear of patterns or words on your top, as well as the color white (camera flashes react badly with white).
How about a nice camisole top and maybe a blazer (if it shows too much skin in your opinion). And you can add a cute necklace and such... and DON'T put your hair up. It always seems to look bad in pictures!
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Wow ok this sounds really stupid.. but, there is this kid i like and hes really really hott. He has braces , but hes still hott with them! So if i hooked-up with him would it like feel werid or just feel regular .. lols

Stupidly Confused

I've never made out with a guy with braces... but I can imagine it would probably be the same as it would without braces -- I mean... as far as I know, people don't make out with their teeth, right?
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HEY I WAS WONDERING.. WHAT IS LUST?? AND HOW IS IT DIFFERENT FROM LOVE? THANKS IN ADVANCE!

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Okay... in a nutshell, lust is sexual feelings. Like, "Oh God... please do me now." And love is more of a, "You're the most amazing person I've ever met and I want to spend the rest of my life with you."
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