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my ex =[
SORRY ITS SO LONG.. BUT I'LL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.
ok so my ex ((james)) broke up with me in April and we had been going out for 4 months.. i really liked him alot.. he was probably the one guy i liked the most.. well i really missed him for a while and i would talk to him online and we'd be friends.. but then he started to become popular and snobby to me... then we were fighting and he called me a slut.. so i blocked him and he's been blocked.. and now its summer and i never see him or talk to him.. but i still have feelings for him.. i mean i don't like him as much as i used to but thinking of him makes me sad and i miss him.. i can't tell if i really still like him.. but i wanna hate him so badly!.. so then i have my other ex boyfriend ((pete)) who i broke up with in novemeber.. and he's still in love with me.. he really likes me a lot.. and he's such a sweet guy with a great personality and he always makes me laugh.. so here's the deal.. whenever i see pete.. i like him.. but then a few days after i see him im like.. well i don't know if i like him.. but he's like the perfect guy for me.. but there's not a big spark.. so my questions are.. do you think i still like my ex james??.. do you think i should give pete another chance and go out with him??.. and what can i do to get over james quicker?? sry its longg
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There's no actual way to get over a guy weather its a crush or an exboyfriend. It's extreamly hard if its you first or if you've been going out for a while. There's nothing you can do to just get rid of someone from your thoughts, you'll just grow out of them but it takes time...alot of time. Pete sounds like a nice guy and if your both willing to give this another shot then do it but you really gotta think. Take some time and just talk to yourself or write it down on how you feel and in the end decided. And if things don't work out you two can always still be friends.
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First of all, James sounds like a jerk. Try to occupy your mind with other things because you deserve somebody better than that -- you know, someone who DOESN'T call you a slut.
Pete sounds like a nice guy. You didn't mention why you broke up with him, so I'm not completely sure what to tell you. I think that you should continue to hang out with Pete. Tell him that for now, you're only interested in being friends because you're not really sure how you feel about him. You guys may end up dating again, or you may not. Either way, you seem to get along well, so don't give up on being friends.
♥ Hope I helped.
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pit them against each other and have the children of whoever survives. really. [plz note sarcasam]
seriously, find some awsome other guy {bob? fred? janice?} that you really feel a big spark with.
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I apologize if you believe anything I say is harsh, but I strive for real answers:
No matter how much you start to miss James, remember he broke up with you for a reason. There's a reason you're all alone right now, and apparently, he found it. He found the reason to break your heart. Sounds like a great guy, doesn't he?
It doesn't matter whether or not you like James. You want to be with a guy who calls you a slut, and breaks your heart and treats you like crap? I didn't think so... get over James and find yourself a new guy who will worship the ground you walk on.
I didn't mean Pete!!
Ok, in my opinion, exes are the worst people you can date. There's a reason the relationships over, and I think, because of that reason, it should STAY over.
If you don't feel any sparks or chemistry with Pete, it's perfectly ok not to date him. No matter how perfect he is, if there's no spark, there's no spark. He may be perfect for some other girl, but apparently not for you. Don't just settle, it's a waste of time, I promise you.
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i think that there's always that one guy that we will always have feelings for. maybe you'll always have a thing for james.. but it's probably never going to happen, so just try moving on. this should be easy/easier considering that there's pete and he's sweet to you and he loves and he will treat you well. give him another chance, things might work out with him. good luck! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella
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Give pete another chance because he likes you and you still have something for him. Of course you still like James because it has only been a few months since you broke up with him, but you need to just block James out of your memory, he sounds like he doesn't even care about you anymore and you don't want a friend who is just going to fight with you and then call you a slut, that's just rude and disrespectful. Yeah I know it's probably going to be hard to block James out of your mind but maybe if you gave Pete another chance, your feelings for him might grow and you will lose track of James and eventually just forget about him. Time heals everything so if you don't decide to give pete another chance then sadly that is really the only thing that will help mend someone after a breakup. But if you go back out with Pete and that working together with time maybe help you get over James faster.
Hope this helps and you feel better.
-Ryan
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It seems like James has moved on...remember hes the one that broke up with you and then he became popular and called you a slut. Now that is not what a boyfriend or even a friend should do. You still have feelings for him and they cant just "go away" but to help the situation you should look into Pete and other guys.
Pete sounds like a really nice boy but remember no one is perfect. If you still have feelings for Pete then i think you should give him another chance, but if not then its time to move on.
Dont think about James as your ex boyfriend...think of him as the guy who called you a slut. If the choice was between James and Pete you should deff go with Pete. But dont forget to keep your options open to other guys too. A sexy guy just might come into your life.
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It would help to know a bit about your personality, because you're making a choice here. If you really like James, and your heart is in his relationship, you may want to go with him, but remember, he may not want to be with you as much as you want to be with him. He sounds like an asshole. Pete, on the other hand, he's not just the kind of guy who wants to love for the sake of someone being hot or just to do them. He loves you for who you are, and he's just an all-around great person.
Pete. Definitely Pete.
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james called you a slut after becoming popular...
pete is sweet, makes u laugh and has a great personality...
the first girlfriend i had was horrible to me, i haven't seen her in 6 years, but i still feel funky thinking about her (took me about a year or more to get over her), but thats also why i don't bother looking her up.
About the spark, thats not real love, thats mother natures way of telling us theres still space for a couple of more humans, and the spark always fades (great way to meet new people though). Love takes dedication and time and have a tendancy to grow.
You have to do whats best for yourself, but be fair to pete.
Do yourself a favor and read "the road less traveled" by m. scott peck.
I think that it should be a prescribed book in all schools.
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