I'm real easy to talk to, non-judgemental and very open minded. I'll do my very best to try & help you as best as I can, but wont try to force it down your throat.
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Met a really cute guy. We went out couple times. He is smart, cute and nice to me. However, I felt that I'm not into him as much he's into me........I don't want to hurt his feeling if somehow he asks me "the question" one day, but I don't want to pull apart either. What should I do to keep just friend with him? (link)
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The best thing that you could do so that you don't lead him on is hang out with him less frequently, but still keep in touch with him. Let him know that you think he is a great guy but that you are better suited as friends. If he truly does care about you, he will understand.
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13/f 8th grader. I've been becoming stressed out alot lately.. I don't ever get enough sleep(12:00am? - 6:00am), I'm trying my best to get my homework done and its hard, Trying my best to keep my grades up, also trying to keep doing good in basketball to make the high school team, I'm also trying to get this boy to date me but he is leading me on and everything..I always never get to listen during class cause i'm always trying to get my homework done for the next period! What should I do to help myself out a bit?.. Thanks in advance.. (link)
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It sounds like you need to organize your life into what is best for you. Set yourself some priorities, and then the rest will follow.
The best thing would be to start off with your school work. Focus on what is being taught right in whatever class you're in, then at the end of the day take all your homework and complete it. Don't hop on MSN or on the phone until you're done, once you have schoolwork out of the way you'll be able to focus on getting the boy's attention or practicing your basketball.
If you can prioritize school first, everything else will fall into place without too much struggle.
Good luck!
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I kinda told some of my friends that my boyfriend and I made out because we're known as the "goody two shoes" couple at school, so people don't expect us to do anything, but thats not how we are. One of them told their mom, and shes telling other moms! How do I make sure my mom doesn't find out, and if she does, what should I do? (link)
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The best thing that you can do is not say anything at all, and there will be less chance of your parents finding out.
You shouldn't feel compelled to tell anyone about your private life, that will just make a name for yourself and people will eventually think you can't keep secrets, that you can't keep anything private.
And just remember, knowing something that other people don't is satisfying. So just try and decide what kind of image you would like to have. If you want people to think you're cool right now and tell them what they want to know, go ahead. But remember, later on in life, it will come back to haunt you. If you do this too many times, a bad image of yourself will slowly but surely be created.
Good luck!
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i've performed oral sex on a guy and now i see bumps on my area down below and i am a female could i have an STD? (link)
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If it was only oral sex that you performed on him, and that he did not perform on you, if you have bumps on your vagina then he probably didn't give you an STD.
However, if he did perform oral sex on you without protection and he had an STD, this could mean that you've gotten one from him.
The best way to find out about this is to make an appointment with your doctor and talk to him/her about it. He/she will perform necessary steps in determining what is wrong (it could be nothing or it could be an STD) and then it will go from there.
Good luck~!
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ive been haveing sex with my boy for about 6 months and i dont think ive ever orgasmed..what could be wrong with me? we have tried different things but it hasnt worked...any suggestions? thanks (link)
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This is perfectly normal. Most girls in fact don't have an orgasm by sexual intercourse, although many girls do. There are a lot of factors that go into whether or not you will have an orgasm, it's more than just 'getting the job done', as they say.
First off, you have to be 100% relaxed and comfortable. Comfortable with yourself, with your partner and with what you are doing.
Don't concentrate solely on having the Big O, but rather concentrate on how things feel and how you feel when you're with each other.
Use foreplay, touching, caressing, kissing. Oral sex is often the best way for a woman to have an orgasm with her partner, and is a great way to 'get the party started'. But again, be comfortable and don't stress on having an orgasm. Take your time.
Try new things, and don't be afraid. Talk to each other, and together you'll figure out what you both like and the more you do this the better you'll feel, and in turn, the closer you'll get to that Big O.
Good luck & Have Fun~
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I'm worried sick.
My boyfriend has herpes and he has little red dots that look like pimples around his mouth and well I just found out he had herpes. I kisseddd him, many times! I went home and looked in the mirror and there was little red dots around my mouth. Is it herpes? How do I tell? AHH HELP PLEASE! I'm so scareed. Please hellp! Thankss. (link)
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Don't jump the gun and assume it's herpes, even though it's very likely. Make an appointment to see your doctor, and just talk to him/her about what has happened. They will take the necessary steps to determine whether or not it is Herpes, and then will prescribe what is best for you to use. While one person may take one prescription for it, you could have allergies to it so never take anything for it unless your doctor says it's okay.
You'll be fine, these types of things are getting to be more common. Unfortunately for you it doesn't sound like your boyfriend let you know that he had herpes from the get-go, and these are unfair consequences. Make sure you do the right thing if things don't work out with your boyfriend, by telling future sexual partners about this.
Good luck~
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I have horrible anxiety in many areas and im sure i have an anxiety disorder. i'll end up talking to a dr about this, but i was wondering; what medications can the prescribe someone under 18 for anxiety disorders? Like, i'm thinking valium and lots of drugs like that are for 18 and over. Anyone know what they prescribe to teens? (i'll be 17 next month) (link)
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I also suffer from anxiety, and this upsets me more than I care to admit. I am soon to be 24 years old, and had my first anxiety attack in May of 2006. I ended up in the hospital and they gave me Ativan.
When my doctor heard about this, he was strongly against the fact that they gave me Ativan or any drugs at all and advised me not to take any drugs for my anxiety as they are severely addictive, and are merely a replacement for what you're lacking in your life in which may cause anxiety.
You're only 16, almost 17, and while my doctor didn't want to prescribe me anything for my debilitating anxiety, I highly doubt that he will prescribe you a drug. Don't be disappointed, though, because luckily enough, with the right support system anxiety can be beaten. But you have to have the 'want' for it to be beaten. It's tough, but you can do it.
Good luck~
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15/F
My boyfriend of 11 months and I sometimes will makeout and stuff with just his boxers on and just my underwear.. I was wondering are there any risks of anything happen when we do this? (link)
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In the heat of the moment, those underwear and boxers could more than likely come off. This is perfectly okay if you are both okay with it, if you have the right means of protection (for you both). If not, and you have unprotected sex, there will probably be consequences to your actions: pregnancy, STD's, not to mention sec is a milestone in a relationship and does change things a fair amount.
Also, you don't have to jump into having intercourse. There are plenty of other things you two can do, such as mutual masturbation, foreplay, oral/genital sex (with protection, your choice).
Just keep all of this in mind for just in case those underwear come off. Remember to have "the sex talk", because otherwise your decisions could change the rest of your life.
If you can't talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it, I say.
Good luck~
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so lately i was hospitalized for o.d.ing on seroquel and now my friends dont trust me and are total assholes about the situation and i just want to move on with my life but they keep bringing it up. what should i do? i feel like im losing the ppl who are my everything (link)
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You are obviously going through a very rough time in your life, otherwise this would not have happened to you. What happens in these cases is often that the people who are pulling away from you had absolutely no idea of this rough time you were having, and are feeling threatenned by the fact they didn't allow themselves to be close enough to you to know this. They most likely don't know what to do to help you, and they are probably feeling scared that you will try it again before they figure out a way to help you.
Some of them, granted, are probably scared to know someone in your shoes and yes, some of them are probably just being assholes about it. You learn a lot about who your friends are in these situations, my advice is, keep the ones who are sticking around and value their friendship and loyalty. To those who are pulling away, let them know that you need them. If they still pull away from you, forget them, they aren't your real friends.
At a time like this you should be surrounded by positive people who just want to help you, you shouldn't have to face the strain of bad friendships. Lose them, and focus on 'the now' and worry about them later.
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You know that little piece of skin between you anus anus and your vagina? Well it burns when I urinate and it started bleeding. What should I do?!
*Scared* (link)
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Call your doctor and make an appointment to have him check it out. It could just be irritation from your laundry detergent on your underwear that is irritating your skin, or it could be a skin infection. The doctor would be able to prescribe something for you to ease the burning and stop the bleeding.
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How do i get rid of moles painless in my own home? (and it works fast) I can't find it online anywhere cause it always say to buy this book. Can you help me? (link)
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Moles are not something to mess with. The best thing that you can do for yourself is find a good dermatologist in your area and make an appointment. He or she will tell you what you can do and if you really do need to remove it or not. Ordinarily the process is relatively painless, so I wouldn't worry about it. Some moles if mistreated or played with can seriously harm your health and damage your skin. So, I would advise you to see a dermatologist rather than the at home do-it-yourself method anyday.
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Hi, I'm doing a speech on voting. I need a graph of how many people voted during previous election. Could anyone help me??! :/ (link)
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Perhaps doing a search on google for the area that you are writing a paragraph on. Be sure to include your resources, no matter how many of them you use. There are helpful websites that compare stats from previous elections--just do a search on Google or Yahoo! and you'll definetly find lots of useful info.
Good luck!
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Okay I am a female an I am 15 yrs old. I have always been rather skinny but I moved over a yr ago and since I moved I have gained a few pounds. I am still rather skinny, but now I have hips and I dont like it. I am about 5'6-5'7 and I way about 130lbs. My stomach is flat, and I have long legs, its just my hips. I am not comfortable with my body right now.I try and do sit ups and I walk and run alot but it doesnt seem to be helping much. I am really pretty, but I just want to lose a few pounds to feel better about myself. What is a good way to lose my hips and a few pounds? Does anyone kno of a good diet I could go on that does not involve too many calories. What do I do to lose weight? (link)
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You are just growing into your body, and I really don't see any need to worrying over having hips. Curvy women are often times the most attractive women out there. If you like media and popculture, look at the females that we often pin as "sexy". They all have hips, and they are all attractive.
But if you want to lose weight, schedule a meeting with a local dietitian at the hospital and they can give you helpful hints on a diet that would be perfect for you. Excercise and lots of water is always extremely important in a healthy and active lifestyle.
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Okay!Well since christmas is coming up I really want to get my best friend a really good gift for christmas. He is an amazing guy and we have been best friends for well over a year now. We have gotten really close and I have fallin in love with him. I dont want to just get him something cheap and ugly. I want to get him something that he will remember and really like.I have never really gotten a guy a gift for xmas. I honestly have no clue what to get him. I want him to really love his gift. What should I get him? (link)
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Perhaps a special photo of the two of you in a really nice frame, or you can make a mini scrapbook of different things the two of you went through in the past year or so. It's from the heart, and it will definetly go straight to his.
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i use to be really good friends with this gurl. but we dont talk anymore. we both said some really bad things about eachother. she wrote a note to when we were friends saying that we would be friends forever no matter what. I feel like she wants to fix things with me but im not sure. Should i talk to her. If i do what should i say? (link)
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Ask yourself if you can be friends for good reasons, or if you will only turn on each other again and talk trash about one another again. If there still is that hostility in you to say mean things, it's probably best that you keep away from being friends with her for a while yet.
If she really wants to fix things, hear her out. But if it's just a ploy, keep away. You don't have to waste your time playing mean games with each other.
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I worry for my fiance because she has reumatoid arthritis, which is very rare for someone her age. Well anyways the medicine they put her on always makes her feel horrible so she doesn't take it and deals with the pain. I'm just worried about the long term effects. I've talked to her about not taking it but she avoids the question. She's sick of seeing doctors so she won't get a second opinion on medicine. How can I help her? (link)
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You have to remain supportive for her during this time, I'm sure this is harder for her than it is for you. She needs to know you're there for her, and that you love her no matter what. Eventually, the pain will subside and she will find a medication that is right for her. Until then, love and prayers are just about all you can offer her. Don't lose patience.. it will get easier.
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Okay, I recently had sex and the next day I forgot to take my birth control. (We didn't use a condom and i've been using it for about 4 months) the day after that I forgot and for about the next week after that I didnt take it. Is there a good chance that I could be pregnet??
-Scared :( (link)
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Alright, hun. I don't want to scare you with this reply, but I do want to help make you aware of a few things. Though I doubt that you are pregnant, there still is a chance that you might be. It only takes one time to get pregnant, and even the Pill isn't 100% effective. A good friend of mine took her pills religiously, every day at the same time and never missed one. Right now she is in labor with her first baby. What I'm trying to say is that there is always a possibility, which is why even when taking the pill it isn't a bad idea to have your partner use a condom (if you aren't allergic to them) and this lessens the chances of pregnancy even more.
If you are really scared, and your period is questionably late, it would be a good idea to go and get a pregnancy test. You can buy them at your local drugstore/pharmacy, and take them the next morning the first time you pee.
Best of luck!! ~>
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In the last year my periods have been really irregular. I'm 17 and I started my periods when I was 9 and they used to be quite regular, as far as I can recall because I never used to pay much attention to them.
In Spring my period was 3 months late and so I took a pregnancy test which was negative. In June and July my period was normal but the it was nearly 3 months late again. I had my last period late in October.
Does anyone know what is going on? (link)
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Weight gain or loss and general weight fluctuation can cause lateness in your period. A drastic change or sometimes even a slight change in your diet can affect your cycle, as well as stress. But, having a period that is three months late is very questionable.
I would suggest contacting your doctor for an appointment, give him the details on how your period is fluctuating and ask him to do a papsmear. It's quick, and it's relatively painless. He'll have the results for you in a week or two, and an answer to why your period is acting strangely.
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Can you get pregnant from pre-cum? (link)
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Yes, you most certainly can. It may look like a small amount, but it still contains enough sperm to get you pregnant. Although the chances may be slightly low, the possibility is still there. No matter how small the possibility, you should always protect yourself from STD's and pregnancy.
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Hello guys, long time reader but first time writer here. I really need some advice.
I've had this best friend for about ten years now (ever since the second grade) and he knows all my secrets. He has been the friend I've been able to go to for all my problems for over half my life. He's always been a great guy, but lately he seems a little different.
He came up to me the other day and told me that he needed to talk to me after school, and of course I told him it was no big deal. Well, when I got to his house after school he called me back to his room. When I got back there he was completely naked and said that if I didn't suck him off then he would tell everyone about my issuses with my sexuality that I had confided in him. I didn't have any other choice, I can't let everyone now that I have impure thoughts about other men since I'm in a private Christian school, but I'm not attracted to him at all. He's really overweight and he has hair everywhere.
Now he's saying that I have to give him head everyday or he will tell everone about my secret desires, even my parents. I don't know what to do, he tastes horrible. I can't keep doing this. (link)
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It is perfectly okay for you to have these thoughts about other men, this is your sexuality and it does not make you a bad person at all. But your "friend" using your secrets and sexuality against you as blackmail is immoral and wrong, it is definetly not okay for him to do this to you.
You should not be doing this to yourself, forcing yourself to go down on him just so that your secrets will be kept. He is not a real friend for making you do this, and chances are he will tell someone if he hasn't already. No matter what, he will eventually say something to someone whether you are giving him head or not.
What you do with your own time outside of school is entirely your business, and since you are still discovering yourself sexually, this is a very harmful act upon yourself mentally. It will drag you down, and in the future you probably wont have great impressions on sex and you may even withdraw from school, friends and family.
Tell this guy that he can't use your sexuality as blackmail, he can't use you for his own pleasures and if it comes down to it, tell him that if he doesn't stop blackmailing you that YOU will tell everyone that he's been asking you for sex and using you to cover his own sexuality. Because, if he wants oral sex from you then he is also gay. No ifs, ands or buts about it. When a man wants oral sex from another man, whether he admits it or not, he is gay.
I hope this was helpful for you, and I really hope this guy leaves you alone. But you have to do something to stop this, because he has no right to treat you this way.
Best of luck~>
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