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trust issues
so lately i was hospitalized for o.d.ing on seroquel and now my friends dont trust me and are total assholes about the situation and i just want to move on with my life but they keep bringing it up. what should i do? i feel like im losing the ppl who are my everything
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They're just really worried. It's possible for anyone to lose someone's trust in a minute yet it takes even up to several years just to build that trust up again. You o.d.ed and that's life threatening and your friends are probably really worried that you might do that again.
I know that if my best friend o.d.ed and had to be hospitalized, I wouldn't trust him for a while until he's been drug free for at least a year and a half.
I suggest that you stop with the drugs, hang out with your friends more and if they bring it up, tell them that what's done is the past and that you want to move on instead of have everyone linger on it for centuries.
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maybe you should try to see if from your friends point of view. if they really are your true friends, they're probly worried that you'll do the same thing and end up dead this time. If they're just being snobs about the situation and going "Oh my God i can't believe you did that," than maybe you need some new friends. If they are really your friends and you don't want to lose them, tell them whats going on in your head. tell them that you're tired of bringing the subject up.Get everything out in the open and let them say how they feel and tell them how you feel then move on!!! If they can't get over it, that's there problem and not yours!!!
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You are obviously going through a very rough time in your life, otherwise this would not have happened to you. What happens in these cases is often that the people who are pulling away from you had absolutely no idea of this rough time you were having, and are feeling threatenned by the fact they didn't allow themselves to be close enough to you to know this. They most likely don't know what to do to help you, and they are probably feeling scared that you will try it again before they figure out a way to help you.
Some of them, granted, are probably scared to know someone in your shoes and yes, some of them are probably just being assholes about it. You learn a lot about who your friends are in these situations, my advice is, keep the ones who are sticking around and value their friendship and loyalty. To those who are pulling away, let them know that you need them. If they still pull away from you, forget them, they aren't your real friends.
At a time like this you should be surrounded by positive people who just want to help you, you shouldn't have to face the strain of bad friendships. Lose them, and focus on 'the now' and worry about them later.
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Your friends are just worried about you.
A lot of it is they probably feel a little guilty. They had no idea you were suicidal, or they did know and did nothing to get you help. They are mad at themselves and taking it out on you. You could have died. Big wake up call for them.
Even if it was an accidental OD it is the same deal.
Sit them down and talk to them about it. Tell them if they have any questions or concerns ask now because this is the last time you are going to discuss it with them. Do it with them all as a group or one on one.
They will get over it as you will. It will just take a little time. :)
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