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Hello guys, long time reader but first time writer here. I really need some advice.
I've had this best friend for about ten years now (ever since the second grade) and he knows all my secrets. He has been the friend I've been able to go to for all my problems for over half my life. He's always been a great guy, but lately he seems a little different.
He came up to me the other day and told me that he needed to talk to me after school, and of course I told him it was no big deal. Well, when I got to his house after school he called me back to his room. When I got back there he was completely naked and said that if I didn't suck him off then he would tell everyone about my issuses with my sexuality that I had confided in him. I didn't have any other choice, I can't let everyone now that I have impure thoughts about other men since I'm in a private Christian school, but I'm not attracted to him at all. He's really overweight and he has hair everywhere.
Now he's saying that I have to give him head everyday or he will tell everone about my secret desires, even my parents. I don't know what to do, he tastes horrible. I can't keep doing this.
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open a can of whoopass. turn the tables on him. when you go over there, take of a picture of him while he's naked. then tell him that if HE doesnt give YOU head, then youre gonna show all the people at school that he's a furry small-membered beast that can only get someone to pleasure him when he threatens them with blackmail. hope i helped. have a fantabulous day!
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Honey, you do not need to be going through this. You need to get help. Something has come over this kid and he needs some serious help. I am sorry you are going through this. Talk to either the cops or someone. Hell, talk to your parents.. but they will then know your secrets. Better off talk to the cops and they can put this boy inn his place. I hoped i helped you and good luck
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omg, what a fucking jerk. That is considered rape. What a basturd eh? Okay, if you don't want anyone to know about your secret desires, you can go to the cops, or maybe a therapist in your school that you can talk to where everything is confidential. But if you must risk everything, refuse him. And tell him what you think of him now since he started blackmailing you. It would destroy him, like he is destroying you. Whatever you do, good luck
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what you just described can be constituted as black mail and RAPE. You need to get help immediately. Your well being and your health should not be compromised because of secrets that you harbor. Whatever your secrets are-i bet it won't be as bad as having to give this guy head everyday for the next few years of your life. Anytime anyone forces you to do something sexual that you DO NOT want to do it is considered RAPE. You need to tell an adult ASAP if one isn't available then contact the cops-im sorry if im making this sound like its a big deal but IT IS and for your sake i really hope you get some help. He has to know that what he's doing is wrong.
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Well! I dont think that he is a really good friend to you. You can not be forced into doing anything sexual to someone, when you dont want too. I know that you have a lot of secret desires and you go to a christian school, but do you have an1 that you can confide in. Try and talk to a friend, or even an adult about this. You shouldnt be the one to get in trouble over it, your friend is. You should not do it anymore if you dont like him and if you dont want too. I hope that I helpe a lil and you get some help.
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ok listen hun... this same thing happened to me.. It was last year.. i was in the 8th grade and it was 1st pd. About 8:00 am
Okay well anyways... This kid i went out with all through elementary school.. he kept harrassing me.. i mean SEXUALLY harrassing me.. asking me for head.. hang jobs.. asked me to sleep with him... I went to him with all my problems.. he knows everythig about me.. I mean EVERYTHING.
Well he kept that up for about 1 1/2 weeks.. i went to my parents showed them all the notes he wrote me.. the AOL print out convo's. That went to the teachers at school the principals.. evry one. It worked out and we're still great friends.
So try talking to your parents and teachers.
I hope i helped.. if you need anymore help just let me know..
Christine
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It is perfectly okay for you to have these thoughts about other men, this is your sexuality and it does not make you a bad person at all. But your "friend" using your secrets and sexuality against you as blackmail is immoral and wrong, it is definetly not okay for him to do this to you.
You should not be doing this to yourself, forcing yourself to go down on him just so that your secrets will be kept. He is not a real friend for making you do this, and chances are he will tell someone if he hasn't already. No matter what, he will eventually say something to someone whether you are giving him head or not.
What you do with your own time outside of school is entirely your business, and since you are still discovering yourself sexually, this is a very harmful act upon yourself mentally. It will drag you down, and in the future you probably wont have great impressions on sex and you may even withdraw from school, friends and family.
Tell this guy that he can't use your sexuality as blackmail, he can't use you for his own pleasures and if it comes down to it, tell him that if he doesn't stop blackmailing you that YOU will tell everyone that he's been asking you for sex and using you to cover his own sexuality. Because, if he wants oral sex from you then he is also gay. No ifs, ands or buts about it. When a man wants oral sex from another man, whether he admits it or not, he is gay.
I hope this was helpful for you, and I really hope this guy leaves you alone. But you have to do something to stop this, because he has no right to treat you this way.
Best of luck~>
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You have got to tell some adult you trust that this has happened to you. It's called sexual assault, and it is wrong. It can make you feel bad for the rest of your life if you don't get help now. You don't have to do this alone. God forgives. And you need some counseling, and so does he. It's awful that he is using you to black mail you into something evil. Please stop doing this, you don't have to do it. He is in bigger trouble than you. Please know that I am praying for you.
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Lets get one thing straight... your friend is an asshole, no-one has the right to treat you this way.
Also you seem to be thinking that what you are thinking is wrong. Did you know that it is normal to have these thoughts at your age? That you could change and turn out to not be gay, and even if you are gay since when was that wrong?
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read this article and if you have any more arguments about why it is wrong then please enlighten me.
Okay also it seems that your friend also goes to the school surprise surprise. You have just as much power as he does. Did you know that YOU could reveal that he's been forcing you. That he likes and and more importantly you don't want to. I reckon he's more screwed then you are.
I also go to a very conservative private school and they are very strict on these kind of things- but they'd prefer me to do what I believe and feel whats right then go against it.
Then of course there is lying about it, tell someone you feel that he's forcing you to do something you don't want to- then when he comes out you can say that he's lying. People make lies rumours like this all the time. Not many people believe them if someone denies it. Why my friend was pregnant last term then she was frigid- quite amusing actually.
Good luck and hopes it turns out for you, he's a dick and no one should have that power over you. No-one- not to mention an ugly guy
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