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ive been haveing sex with my boy for about 6 months and i dont think ive ever orgasmed..what could be wrong with me? we have tried different things but it hasnt worked...any suggestions? thanks
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This is perfectly normal. Most girls in fact don't have an orgasm by sexual intercourse, although many girls do. There are a lot of factors that go into whether or not you will have an orgasm, it's more than just 'getting the job done', as they say.
First off, you have to be 100% relaxed and comfortable. Comfortable with yourself, with your partner and with what you are doing.
Don't concentrate solely on having the Big O, but rather concentrate on how things feel and how you feel when you're with each other.
Use foreplay, touching, caressing, kissing. Oral sex is often the best way for a woman to have an orgasm with her partner, and is a great way to 'get the party started'. But again, be comfortable and don't stress on having an orgasm. Take your time.
Try new things, and don't be afraid. Talk to each other, and together you'll figure out what you both like and the more you do this the better you'll feel, and in turn, the closer you'll get to that Big O.
Good luck & Have Fun~
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I want to start off here by saying that not being able to achieve orgasm through penetrative sex does NOT mean that you or your partner is 'bad at it' as someone has said.
Actually, only around 33% of the female population are able to achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. This is generally considered to be because the areas from which women experience the greatest sexual arousal are on the outside of the body, rather than the inside. However, some women are able to orgasm through sex alone as they are more sensitive inside. In addition to this, although there are ongoing studies into it, it is believed some women are able to achieve orgasm through penetration by stimulating the g-spot. This is a fairly elusive area inside the body which is about the size of a walnut and fairly rough to touch. Some women find it merely makes them feel like they need to urinate, some feel arousal when it is touched at all and others feel nothing from it. The best thing to do is to see if you and your partner can locate this area and see what your reaction to it is. If it works for you, try alternating your sexual positions to one that will stimulate the g-spot through penetration and you may find it easier to reach orgasm.
If, on the other hand, this does not work, you may need to (how can I put this delicately?!) lend a helping 'hand' during intercourse to stimulate the areas on the outside of the body. This should help you achieve orgasm. Remember to be patient and relax as well. If you work too hard on reaching orgasm, it will be much harder to do.
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It's extremely common to not orgasm while having sex. I know I can't, even though it's really easy for me to do on my own.
What works for me is to stimulate yourself while you're having sex. It's a great visual for the guy, and you get stimulated the way you need it!
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that just means the guy is bad at it. i have the same thing. i have had one before. but i have never had one with sex with this guy. but with the other one i was done fast. so he's just bad at it.
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Nothing is wrong with you! Different things turn on different people. It's probably the way that you're having sex. Try a new position. Try fantasizing. Try masturbating before hand.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) has a lot more info. Read it, you won't be sorry.
-B.
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