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to go or not to go
A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! The date is August 13th-20th. Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I am not sure if it is just her, or her entire family comeing (it is a very big house) so I don't know if it was like her mom who invited her or what. I honestly don't know if I want to go for a whole week anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I mean I still want to see the NJ shore & go to the beach & be with my friend, but it is just confusing now. Should I talk to her? If so what exactlu do I say? Sorry this is so long!
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I think you should go on the trip. Sam is your friend, and I think it would really hurt her if you decided not to go. And who cares if you don't know Catherine -- this gives you an opportunity to get to know her! And if she's Sam's friend, then you all probably have some common interests. I say go, and have fun.
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It's not silly for you to be upset, but you don't need to be. Obviosly, Sam thinks you're awesome and invited you. Then she found out Catherine was going so she called you to make sure that was okay. She may have thought you'd be uncomfortable- that's why she asked. It may be akward for the first couple days, but you both(you and catherine) already have something in common. You're friends with Sam! So, there's a very high chance you'd two get along. Sam wouldn't be friends with Catherine if she wasn't awesome or something. I wouldn't talk to her about it because I don't know what she could do for you. It sounds harsh, but suck it up! lol You're going to be meeting a lot of new people through friends. For all you may know you might become good friends with Catherine! Good luck!
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You should go to NJ......simply put. You said yourself that you want to. So...why not? <3Beth
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i can understand how your feeling upset a lil but you shouldnt let this ruin your trip. the three of you will have a blast and im sure your friend will do her best to make both of you feel like your getting attention..keep a positive mind because i bet what will end up happening is you and your friends friend will end up being cool and you two will click. have fun! dont pass this up because i know you will have fun!
-meliss
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Hey make the best of it, don't turn up going to NJ shore just because someone else is gonna be there! Make the best of it and try and have as much fun as you can, don't worry about Catherine being there, just makes the best of it and have fun! That is the absolute best advice I can give you.
Hope this helps and you enjoy your trip!
-Ryan
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if it was me i would go and try to make the best of things..as for the talking thing..just find out the things she likes and im sure you'll find that the both of you have more in common than you thought..you shouldnt give up an opportunity like that for something that you dont even know how its gonna go yet. so give it a try!
hope i helped
<3 brandi
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I can understand that, but take this as an opportunity to get to know her. It's a little silly just to consider not going anymore. I seriously don't think you should ruin a really good time just because someone else you don't know very well is going. Definitely talk to her, just bring up random things like movies and music, and see where the conversation goes. You don't have to be best friends with her, just get to know her before anything else.
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Just say "I thought it was just going to be me and you". If you're frind doesn't respond to that then I would just live with it. You may end up making a new friend! the Jersey shore is really nice and you are going during a good time so I would go! You'll have loads of fun even if someone else is there with you!
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I can understand that you want to have your friend all to yourself and her bringing someone else along is makeing you a big jelouse but look at it this way..maybe you will really get along with the other girl she is bringing and have a new friend to add to your circle.
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Get real. You said you don't even know this girl. To spend a week with this girl would obviously provide the opportunity to get to know her. So what you really need to find out is why you REALLY don't like this girl. Don't lie to yourself. Is it b/c of Sam. If so , don't hate on her. If it's not Sam, then you really should go. Besides the fact that Catherine will be there, you have a week at the beach. GO. There are NEW PEOPLE that you meet at the beach. GUYS YOU KNOW. So go. Get to know her or just forget her and have fun. But I really don't think that you're being fair. To Catherine. I think that you don't need to judge her , or dislike her, when you haven't taken the time of day to get to know her. I know you met her once may 2,3 times, but it's not the same. If you're going to pass judgement on somebody, know who they really are and that takes time. Lying to yourself about that person won't help you gain knowledge about who that person is. I think that others would give you the same courtesy as well. You know what I think so have a nice trip. That is if you go.
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also, she is my best friend & it was very nice of her to invite me & I would feel bad saying no now...i just don't know!
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