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Q: 15/f

i'm 5'4 & weigh 124, but i'm not the skinniest girl . i want to get toned up abs, well enough that you'd be able to see them in a bathing suit, & my butt and thighs to get harder and bigger. i started going to the gym recently, but i dont feel what i'm doing is enough! can someone help me please!! i want to have the perfect bikini body by spring break .

Honestly the only thing that has ever worked for me is running. You can't just do crunches and lunges to look better when you have fat on top of your muscles...it's just not going to work. You first need to get rid of some of the fat on top before you start toning up.

Over the summer I ran on the trails behind me house which have some large hills and i would challenge myself to run up every hill. It worked wonders on my butt and abs! I know its winter but if you really want to get a better body i really think cardio is all you can go to get results fast.

Q: i am writing a story about 2 completely different teenagers falling in love at a summer camp. i need some cute ways that they could meet or cute things they could do to each other that would make sense at a summer camp. thankya

Well i have personal experience in the summer camp romance!

I met the first kid because a girl who had been going to the camp for a while introduced me to him. He thought I was cute so he began to seek me out.

I met another kid after canteen because i couldn't open my bag of rasinets.

A lot of couples at my camp are often seen kissing behind trees or under blankets near the pool. Things like that. Also, In the middle of the night, If a guy likes a girl he will sneak into her cabin, wake her up, and sneak out together to go make out or do other things on the upper field under the stars :]

Q: I'm 16, I'm 150, and I think 5 feet tall. Yes I am short.

I want to lose 25, or better yet, 30 pounds by summer. Why? I absolutely love clothes. I love fashion. But sadly, there isn't a lot of clothes that I am fond of that look very flattering on flabby/chubby people. And it's really hard to find 'on sale' clothes that come in medium-extra large. I also want to lose face flab :D.

However, the difficulty lies in doing so.
I have a threadmill, however, I think it's really boring, even with music. I'd much rather do cardio on an elliptical and do weights at the gym, but the problem in that lies in the fact of persuading my parents! (any advice on doing so would be help alot)

I don't really have a problem with eating, but when I'm stressed I like to eat 'Cadbury Milk Chocolate with Hazelnet/Fruits' which is calorie packed. Chocolate is also really compact so it fits in my bag and I can take pieces of it without the teacher seeing (ahaha) seeing as we're not allowed to eat in class. If anyone has a substitute food that I can eat/take to school, it would help a lot.

Thanks people who reply :P

I'm 4' 11"! You really need to get moving. Exercise is something you're going to have to get used to if you plan to lose weight. Maybe instead of long distance running you can try running really fast for short distances and then taking breathers. Its a lot more exciting than long distance running.

For the snacking issue...chocolate isn't going to get you anywhere missy :] You need to whip yourself into shape! Try chocolate flavored Quakers rice cakes. Theyre SOOOO yummy and youll be surprised at how filling they are. I always bring those to school and break pieces off of them in class. Theyre so perfect! Remember: To loose weight you're going to have to BURN more calories than you EAT. Keep that in mind.

Q: Okay, I'm short 4'11. My doctor said that my growth pattern went off track and that i won't get much taller. I want to be taller though cause I'm in sports like basketball and volleyball. So now my doctor wants me to get Steroid Growth Shots but i dont know if i shoud get them... any ever have them? please help, i need to make a decision soon. But then i'm also afraid of shots.. i don't know what to do.

I'm 4'11" as well and had the same exact situation two years ago. I went to an endocrinologist and they explained these growth hormone shots to me. It sounded soooo nice i mean come on i could GROW! But there are side effects to these shots that are undiscovered and I decided that it wasn't worth messing with mother nature. Especially when i could be perfectly healthy without it. Theres just a little too much risk. Honestly, I am perfectly fine with my height. I have learned to embrace it and I know that I would be a different person if I was taller :] I suggest that you don't use them. Being petite is beautiful and I absolutely LOVE it. I play sports and I'm fine! Field hockey and pole vaulting are my thing. And being short has NOTHING to do with my successes.

Q: I need the song name and band of this song. i know it's a guy singing and it's a slow rocky type of song. helllllp please!!!!
I only remember this...

"such a lonely day, and it's mine.
the day I survived"

thats

Lonely Day by System of a Down

Q: i m looking for a digital camera w sound on the video setting. not too expensive but not cheap. anyone know a good one? please get back!!!

Canon powershots are excellent cameras and have sound on the video setting. They're definitely worth checking out. I love mine and have other friends who love theirs too! They're very reliable.

Q: okay , so i've been going out with this guy for almost 4 months now. i really like him a lot and he likes me too . he was my first kiss. and he doesnt know that. but i can tell that i wasnt his , and he is wayyy more experienced than i am. he's madeout with a bunch of girls and everything , and i'm going with him to sixflags on this weekend . and he was asking me all these things like "will you makeout or kiss me me on 'blahahah' ride ?? and i was like 'yeahhh ,,'
but the thing is , im ready to makeout , but i dont know how . will it just come naturally? or do i need to know how? i know im ready though . i really like him . i just dont know how to . advice please?

Don't even try worrying about it because then that will make the whole experience horrible! Just go with the flow and copy what he does and just feel around with your tounge. Breathe out of your nose and swallow once and a while (if its a really long kiss). That part is kindof natural. Just don't worry and live for the moment.

Q:
so i was at work, my friend came to visit, and i started talking about the boy i like. next thing i know, i go into the main part of the store and his mother is standing there. of course i was humiliated, but she seemed really nice and everything and my friend was positive she didn't here us talking about him. however, his mom was at my work again today when i arrived (she was picking something up) and my boss said she mentioned that she did here me talking about him. i pretty much assumed that, but my boss says the way she knew was because i mentioned he was a twin...now i am freaking out that she may have heard me say that the boy i like was cuter then his twin brother (and that his twin was sort of weird looking). i have no idea if she heard me saying that, but i can't think of anything else i said that had to do with him being a twin. i am so mortified and i don't know what to do. before i saw his mother the 2nd time, this boy basically admitted to me he liked me so i am not worried about that, but i feel awful if his mother heard me say that about her other son. i don't know if i should just forget about it and let the whole thing be, but i still feel like crap if she heard that. i feel humiliated as it is that she heard me talking about her son...i probably sounded like a creep. WHAT SHOULD I DO! just leave it, or mention something to him?

Wow! Sounds like something I would do! Yeah that does sound pretty embarassing, but i suggest just forgetting about it. Humans make mistakes and you made an honest mistake. Something like this isn't worth your breath and in the scheme of things its not that big of a deal. There are so many worse things she could've overheard.

Q: Okay, so my school is having a talent show thing and I really love singing, but I have really bad stage fright. But I want to sing so bad, nobody has ever heard me, except for my closest friend. So what should I do to get over this stage fright? Also what would be an easy, yet nice song to sing? (preferably rock, or soft rock, but nothing R&B or hip hope, PLEASE)

Girl Put Your Records On by Corrine Bailey Rae

A girl sang it in our talent show and had the whole school singing it the next day

Q: 15/f
I'm moving out of my moms house and into my grandmas. I've pretty much swiched back and forth from moms to grandmas for two years and my mom is moving to a different state and I'm moving into my grandmas for good.
I'm re-arranging my room and need good tips.
(web sites would be a good help also.)
My bed set is light blue, brown and white. I'm thinking about painting my room. My grandma wants it to match the bed set but I really don't like those colors to begin with and really really don't want to paint my room that color and getting a new set is out of the question. I've already asked. I pretty much know where I want my furniture to go but I really want my room to look more teenager-y but my grandma is trying to make it more adult/elderly like. Any tips on how to make it look more right for my age? & the paint issue? Thanks for the help.

I have found things for my room in the most random places. When you go shopping, just keep your eyes peeled for things you like! The Container Store, Target, Bed Bath and Beyond have all had (surprisingly) stuff that i used in my room. You can also try PB teen if you can spend more money.

Why dont you paint your room light blue? Its such an easy color to spruce up and its a color in your bed set. My room is light blue and I like it because its not TOO TOO noticable, so that the things in my room get all the attention.

To give your room a "teenagery" look put pictures of your friends up everywhere! I bought a vera bradley bulletin board and magnetic bulletic boards from the Container store and went wild with it! Buy some band posers off ebay. Ebay is the best place to buy them for cheap.

If you have any further questions just drop one in my inbox :]

Q: I'm going to a resort im 2 weeks- but I'm on a strict diet (i stay between 1200-1700 cals a day) And I always gain weight when I go on vacations. I want to be able to enjoy the food there- but I also don't want to gain weight.

I'm going to keep exercising there in the fitness room- but I just don't know what to do about the food.

any suggestions appreciated.

You can still maintain you diet on vacation!

1) Keep excercising in the fitness room and I suggest taking walks around the resort after dinner. It will be gorgeous where you're statying and since youll most likely be eating later than usually, these walks will help digestion.

2) When you recieve you're dinner analyze it and make portions that you should eat. Try to eat a portion of meat the size of your open palm and plan on eating as much vegetables as there are provided on the plate. DONT EAT THE WHOLE THING!

3) When ordering food, try to order a dish with as much "plant food" as possible because it is healthier. Try to eat only one serving of bread a day. Other carbs aren't as bad as bread is.

Q: I need help. I am 13/f and I'm having trouble finding bathing suits. I'm small so when ever I look at bathing suits that fit, they are kiddish. I am a 10 in tops and bottoms. If you can help, please do so.

Thanks in advance.

I went through that phase once and it is a tough one! My little sister who is 11 just got a cute bikini at PacSun. Their styles are so skimpy that they fit girls with little bodies. She also just got one from target in the juniors section. Just make sure you take the pads out! It may also be necessary to use a hair band to tie the bottoms because you are so tiny. It sounds like it looks stupid but it really doesn't! If you don't like that idea, bring it to a tailor and they can bring in the bottoms for you.

Q: I have an awesome boyfriend and we're totally good together blah blah blah but his family is goin through a rough time with money and he keeps mentioning it and it makes me feel akward cuz he's always like ya we're poor right now and we haven't bought groceries in like 3 weeks and stuff like that and I feel akward when he says it...is there anything I can do ? Without making him mad or anything.

Whever he mentions his familys money troubles either:

-remind him that you'll always care about him no matter how much money he has
-remind him that youll always be there for him in his times of need.
-give hiim a huge hug
-assure him that everything will get better eventually

DONT try and change the subject because he will notice that and may start to get pissed and think you don't care enough to talk about it.

Q: Okay, so, a lot of girls like to put up magazine pages on their walls that have like cute clothes and stuff like that and I wanted to do that but I'm not sure what to put them up with. I tried those little tacks that have the big circle top but it looks really tacky (lol pun), and so do thumbtacks. I can't do glue or tape or sticky tack because my wall has those little bumpy things on it. So I was wondering if anyone could tell me how I can get these magazine pages on my wall so that it looks good and everything.

Thanks so much!

I can think of a couple ways you could do that.

I know you said you can't glue or tape things but have you tried using adhesive things on it? At craft shops they sell strips of velcro. You just peel off the backing and stick it onto things. Your pictures will be attached to your wall with velcro which of course is temporary. That way you can reaarrange the pictures as much as you'd like.

Another idea. At the Container Store, they sell these magnetic metal strips. They come in all sorts of really cute colors (i have them in lime green). They come with a set of magnets. You can buy a couple of them and line them up around your wall (you need to nail them in, but its really easily done) and put all your pictures on them. I have them as I said and love them.

Why don't you buy a bulletin board? They don't have to be all ugly! You can even make one yourself. Just buy a square of corkboard and paint it whatever color you want. I know its kind of similar to the approach you started with though, but this way it won't look like you just stuck a tack in the wall.

If you need more ideas just send me a message I'm sure I could think of some more.

Q: Wel, I have been dating this girl for 2 wks now, and we havent kist yet. and it will be my first time kissing, same as hers. i dont know when to do it or where. i dont know if my lips should be dry or wet. i dont know if t shoold be long kiss or short. plz help me.

Try giving her a peck on the lips the first time just because both of you aren't that experienced and then after she's ok with that go for the real kissing. Your lips don't need to be wet parsay...just soft. So put chapstick on that day to make sure of that. Kiss her when you're saying goodbye after hanging out. Try it at night outside when its nice and dark out.

Good luck!

Q: I'm fat in ONLY my stomache and its driving me INSANE! how can i loose fat in ONLY my stomache?

As the other answers state, its pretty hard to lose weight in one spot and my advice...SIT UPS DONT HELP! if you do situps you will develop muscle underneath your fat and you won't see a difference. First, you need to lose the fat and THEN do situps.

The best way to lose it is to go running. It will feel tiring at first but after a while you will start to feel better and more energized. Remember it will take 2 months to see results from this!! Other suggestions:
-a cardio class at a local gym
-swimming
-jump roping
-any cardio excercise will help you here

And make sure you are eating well too :]

Q: Hey, I really need Ideas for dance. I have to make up a 16-8 count dance between four people for a choreography grade in my class. Our theme is Hip-hop and I am an alright dancer. I really dont know any good dance moves and music to dance to. We also want to add a step dance to our performance. We need music where it glides smoothly into another song, like - walk it out, snap yo fingers, this is why im hot, ya know some good songs that are popular. If ANYONE has any GOOD ideas on what I can do that would be great! This dance is due in the begining of Feburary.
Thanks, Keosha (Columnist)

I was at the studio today and i overheard a really awesome mix it was all about control

so they started out with

loose control- missy elliott
blended into
control myself- ll cool j

i didn't stay for the rest but it sounded REALLY good so if you could think of other songs along that line.

Q: Basically, I have a pretty big nose. There is not a bump, however it's just very wide.
I was wondering if anyone knew how to apply make up so that I can make it look smaller?
I will send a pic to whoever thinks they can help me.

Find an eyeshadow that is two shades lighter than your skin tone. Apply that eyshadow to both sides of your nose and it will look longer and straighter.

Try it! It may work for you or it may not.

Q: why do people kiss when the ball drops??
haha random but yeah thanks

Its like opening a whole new year of possibilites

Q: do girls like classical or rock musicians?

and i'm confused,cause i hear girls say that they love musicians,but

1)is it based on skill.exp:the better the guitaring is.the more the girl likes the guy?
does skill affect?or do girls just don't care if he is a sucky guitarist or a pro,they will still like the guitarist as long as he plays guitar??

2)is it also based on looks,?or do girls love great drummers and vocals even through they don't look good? so which one would a girl choose? a kickass drummer with average looks or a sucky drummer with model looks?

thanks for answering,anyways,if you girls like any other type of guys besides musicians....like bikers,car racers or skaters...just feel free to say what talent you would love in a guy.although i hear that most girls are not really into guys that race,but more to guys that are musically or sports inclined,it that true???

Yeah...musicians are hot

1. Of course skill matters. If you're an idiot who "plays the guitar" and in reality just strums like a crazy freak...that does nothing.

2. Its not really based on looks its based on talent because a talented drummer has dedication. He practices and truly cares about becoming better. Its that that makes great musicians so hot.

Also if a guy's really good at sports thats cute too because they practice hard to get that good.