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Ok...So, I go to conciling and im on Medication. But, I still don't feel happy. I'm always down and I never want to do anything. I like being alone, always. And I try to change myself but it just keeps getting worse. Yes, I cut, But im really not a bad person. My family is dieing to get me to change and be like one of my friends. They told me that they wished I was like her....Any advice on how to change my ways and make my parents proud??
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First of all, you're not the one that needs to change. There's nothing wrong with you.
If you're on medication and you're seeing a counselor, and you still aren't feeling happy, you need to tell your counselor that. There could be a different medication or dosage that could help you.
Tell your family that you're not going to change, and that they need to accept you for who you are. You don't need to change -- you're fine just how you are. Trust me. I know these things.
Oh, and stop cutting. Take the advice from a former cutter: it won't get you anywhere.
♥ Hope I helped.
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The best thing you can do is let your doctor know that even with med you are still not feeling good about things. Your dosage and/or the med can be changed. Your doctor won't know it isn't working unless you say something so be very vocal about it. Be sure and tell your counselor everything. It will get better. Good luck. :)
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First off, don't do what your parents want, they want you to be someone your not. They want you to change who you are to be like someone else, and that isn't right. Next you need to stop cutting yourself, because that is going to only lead to worse things. Yeah it is probably going to be hard but you can do it if you really apply yourself. As to make yourself happy, do the things you used to like to do, even if you don't like to do them anymore, and try and build happiness from doing the things you once were happy to do. Don't change yourself for anyone but you, be who you are and let everyone know that is who you are, you.
I hope this helps and you feel better.
I will pray for you.
-Ryan
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You've made a fundamental mistake - you're assuming that the problem is *you*, and your personality. Here's the giveaway:
"Any advice on how to change my ways..."
It's not your ways that are the problem. That implies that you have some choice over how you feel. The truth is, if you're being medicated, you are obviously dealing with neurochemical issues. That's a real illess, as real as a broken bone, and it's not something that you can "think" away. It's not because you're a bad person.
Now, the problem with psychiatric diseases is that to other people, they don't LOOK like "real" illnesses. Break a leg or get cancer, and everyone can look at you and see the problem. But when you're clinically depressed or have other neurochemical issues, they automatically assume that for some reason you DECIDED to be that way.
That's just wrong. You know that better than anyone. NO ONE wants to suffer through that sort of thing. And no one would chose to feel that way.
I'm sorry to say it, but this is something that you can only fix by working together with your doctor. If your current treatment and medication aren't doing the job, you need to talk to your therapist and prescribing psychiatrist (assuming that they're not the same person), and let them know that you need more help. It's not always easy or quick to find the combination of medication and therapy that can give you a better life, but it CAN be done for most patients.
Unfortunately you sometimes have to fight for that. Our medical insurance system really doesn't know how to deal with psychiatric issues properly. It's terribly unfair, but many patients get minimal care, enough to shut them up, but not enough to give them their lives back.
I'm not saying that's what is happening in your case, because I don't know. But I AM saying that you can't "think" yourself better or "change your ways" - because if you could, you already WOULD have. That's not to say that you shouldn't try to improve yourself, but if you go into it with the assumption that it's all on you, that you have to go it alone and fix it yourself, the odds are stacked way against you.
Sorry to have gone on for so long, but this is an issue I've dealt with before, and I feel pretty strongly about it. Talk to your doctor and therapist. They really need to help you more.
You shouldn't have to live like this. And you don't.
Good luck!
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First off, your family is wrong for wanting you to be like somebody else. Your family should be happy for who you are. You do, however, need to stop cutting yourself. If you thought about it, cutting yourself didn't make you feel any better, right? You should be who you want to be. But it probably would be good for you to become active. It would also be good to express yourself, such as art, or music. Also, if you feel bad, you should watch stand up comedy (Comedy Central, on Friday nights.) That always make me feel better. Hope you feel better!
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aweee!! sounds like some one ii know!! dont listen to what your parents said, dont try to be more like your friend be who you want to be not what they wanna see! & instead of cutting yourself you could try to do something else to take your mind off of your problems & try to be around more people even if you reallii like to be alone just try it it wont hurt hope i helped xoxo Dzana
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