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Uncomfortable
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable?
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Ifd you feel uncomfortable then your probably not ready to move to second base yet. Talk to him but if he trys to do it again break up with him because obviously he just wants to get some and play you.
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Tell him that you don't feel comfortable with his touchy-feely ways this early in the relationship. Then, punch him really hard if he does it again. Or tell your dad -- dads hate that kind of stuff.
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I'm apologizing for being harsh right about.. now:
He should've been "really sorry" after the first time he tried it. Don't forgive and forget that your boyfriend tried to grope you!
Not only did he put himself before your morals, he also showed that he has no respect for you.
How so? He doesn't listen to you. He wants something in a relationship that you feel is a long way off. He trampled your morals and will keep doing so, it seems. Forgive and forget the first time, but after that, drop the nymph.
I'm serious, don't be with a guy that doesn't care about your morals and has no respect for them (or you)... it'll just be a waste of time you wish you could forget.
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Feeling uncomfortable when someone is trying to put the moves on you and you don't want them to is perfectly natural.
If you don't like it you need to tell him and make sure he understands it. Talk to him before it even gets to that point. A simple, I am not ready for you to touch me in an intimate way should be enough. If he continues to try after that, then that is a total lack of respect for your feelings. If that happens you will have to decide if this is really a boy you want to spend your time with. NEVER be pressured to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. :)
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NO!! If he makes you feel really uncomfortable, tell him, confront him. If it continuse after you have strongly told him to stop, you may be a victim of sexual harrasment. Dump his ego-static ass immediately.
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You should tell him that you don't want him doin that. If he really cares about you then he won't do that, but if he does care then he's not worth the time.
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I think you were right. It's only been two weeks. He's truly sorry; you really don't need to feel weird around him. Just tell him that you don't want to do that right now in your relationship. A guy that cares about you will understand and respect how you feel.
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I'm a dude and I agree with you. He is moving WAY too fast! If he does it again, smack him. Smack him hard! (Nah just kidding, don't do that!) You should say that he's moving too fast and that you arn't comfortable with him. If he cares about you, then he'll get the point and he'll stop. Good luck. Hope I helped.
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Hey! Considering he told you he's sorry then I suppose he will try to make you feel more comfortable and stop trying to feel you up. So hang out with him and have fun but if he tries it again and it make you uncomfortable then I say dump him. Because he obviously doesnt respect you and how you feel. I know it may hurt but if a guy trully wants to be with you and loves you then he wont force you to do anything you dont want to. Hope i helped! xO Marlene =)
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wwhat you do so you arent caught in a situation where he tries this again...is you tell him before you start messing around that your not comfortable with him going up your shirt and you dont want him trying it until you either tell him or place his hand therre..make it extremely clear. if he tries to touch you again, then there is a problem.
should you feel uncomfortable? yes ..if you dont want him up your shirt and he tries it anyway then i would feel uncomfortable as well. people move at different paces..and its perfectly fine if you dont want him up your shirt
i hope this helped
-meliss
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if it makes you feel uncomfortable then it is NOT okay-- its not even a month into the relationship and he expects that much from you then i would be a little worried-- the next time he does it just be like "ya im not okay with that so it needs to STOP" dont yell or anything but he should get the picture-- and if he doesnt or he dumps you then he was just using you and you deserve WAY better!
<3<3 anne givings
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You were completely right in this situation. You guys have only been going out for 2 weeks. Tell him next time he tries, that that's a little fast for you, and you just enjoy kissing him. If he tries still, pull his hand down/off and he'll get the message you mean no. Also, if he continues, don't kiss him. Hope it all works out.
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