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Q: I`m single and ready to mingle but there is a fiew problems. I get really nervous around guys and they tend to try and use meh (I dont let them) I`d really like to get a steady boyfriend cause I`m going to be going into highschool and its like a fresh start. This past year i had 6 boyfriends and none of them were steady. Also I am trying to get a job to help out my family. But I get nervous around people I dont know.. Any tips?
14/f

I'm very familiar wit being nervous around the opposite sex. My tips are to just stand up and start talkin wit people. Find common interests with people and you can talk about that stuff with them, especially if it's current stuff, so there is a lot of room for conversation. It's good that you don't let guys use you, and you will find a guy that will be steady...it might just take time. Just watch out for the playa type guys. Hope I helped.

BD

Q: How can i be more affectionate with my bf. He thinks i dont like him as much as I do so yeah what kind of stuff can i do to make him more convinced? (nothing that involves taking off clothes) I RATE REALLY GOOD! So please give good advice.

First off...jus tell him your feelings for him and how much you like him. Second, jus do more touching, such as hugs and kisses. No special occasion or anything, jus randomly hug or kiss him or let him hold you...stuff like that. Hope I helped.

BD

Q: Would it be possible if a 14 yearold boy would like a 12 year old girl? She's sorta developed for her age. Or is it a waste of time?

Friend wanted to know

"Age ain't nothin but a number", haha. Wit that said, yeah that's all good. Only two years, that's no big deal at all.

BD

Q: Is it abnormal for a guy to like Full House? Like, from the first season to the end, having seen nearly every episode? I've only seen one other guy who watches it, so I don't know whether it's something to discuss... thanks. And if the answer is no, please don't me a smartass about it. I know that I may be metro. I don't care.

haha, naw it's cool if you like Full House. I watch that show too. I've seen all the episodes...some more than others. It's a classic, how can you not like it.

Q: I've met this really great guy. We have so much in common and we became really good friends right off the bat, and we've been partying together ever since then. I'd totally date him, but he's 4 inches shorter than me!!! Do you guys think that he's still worth my time, or just dump the idea of hooking up with a shorty? (I'm 16 and he's 18, so he's not growing anymore either)

Don't base who you like off of height. I guess that's easy for me to say cause I'm 6 foot 1, so most girls are shorter than me. If you like him then be with him. Don't dump him for something stupid like height.

Q: OKay I know there's a lot of questions like these, but I really need your absolute HONEST opinion about what I should do.

Me & this kid named Joshua met in May, and we've been very close since, we started dating the day we met because we had a lot in common, and we straight off the bat liked each other. We dated for about two months, until he broke up with me because he had feelings towards another girl. Which I was okay with, because I knew he'd come to me, our relationship was just too strong to be friends. We dated, again - I took him back because I just really liked him (not loved.)

In about July I started having extreme feelings for Joshua, he made me so happy, I thought maybe I was falling in love? I was really unsure, so we were still dating, & he broke up with me again, and he didn't tell me why. Then we dated AGAIN & I broke up with him because I thought I felt feelings towards my best guy friend. Now we're just pretty good friends, we talk a lot, & I just found out that while we were dating, he was telling his best girl - friend that he loved her, and calling her baby. That makes me extremely mad, because he's hurt me so much & I've never done anything like this to him before.

My question is: Should I still remain friends with him?? I don't think I'd ever be able to date him again. But he hurt me so many times in the past, I'm just unsure. If you were in my situation would you be friends with him, or would you never talk to him, again?

Thanks =)
I'll rate you a five just for answering my question. Sorry it's forever and a day long.

I think you should keep talking to him. Like you said, you prolly won't and shouldn't date him again, but you should still be somewhat friends wit him. It would prolly be extremely hard to just stop talking to him anyways. If you forgive him just know not to fall into that kinda trap again. Hope I helped

BD

Q: i want to learn how to grind, can you give me some steps on how to do it?

Listen to "Back That Thang Up" by Juvenile. That'll explain it, lol.

Q: ok..you know how 143=love? ok how does that come out to love?, because it's really been bugging me for awhile! why 143=love?

thanks!!

The other answers are right. 143 does not mean love...it means I love you. Which like everyone else said is...

1=I
4=love
3=you

Q: There's this guy I really want to get to know. He's new to out school, he's cute, he's shy, and sits alone at lunch. He barely ever talks.

The bad thing is, that I'm shy, too. I'd love to get to know him, but my shyness is holding me back. How can I get over this?

It's not exactly something you can get over. You need to find out if you have any common interests, and then talk to him and stuff. You can also ask him if he wants to hang out wit your friends and stuff if he hasn't already found a group to hang wit.

Q: hello...
the other night i went to my friends b-day party and the girls(and guys) triple dog dared me to call up this guy (hes kinda a nerd) and ask him out just to see what he would say...
so i called him (not thinking of what i was getting into) and he said yes. so anyway i saw him at the coffee shop the next day and told him what my friends dared me to do...and BIG MISTAKE i told him who dared me. now he is "plotting revenge" against them...
do i tell my friends what is going to happen to them or not?

BTW: im 13/f and dont tell me that i was retarded for doing that because i already know that. WILL RATE enless its a smartass answer.

I think you need to tell the person that he is "plotting revenge" against, so that he has some warning...jus in case this "nerd" is some sorta psycho or somethin.

Q: well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much!

Well, if you know his favorite place to go you could take him there or something. Also, if your hangin out throughout the day give him his favorite food for dinner...he'd like that. Lastly, jus hangin out wit him will show him that you really care about him...because you know that if he likes you like he says he does then all that will matter to him on his b-day is being wit you.

Q: I've been friends with this guy for about 2 years now, and a few months ago he confessed to me that he really likes me. i told him i wasn't sure about my feelings (beyond friendship) and that i didn't want to rush anything, and he was okay with it. we don't see each other too often, but i enjoy the time we spend together. i'd be ready to take the relationship further because we really are a good match personality-wise and i do like him a lot, but the only thing that bothers me about him are his looks. i hate admitting that to myself and i'm ashamed that i let it stand in my way. he's a really great guy, but physically he's like a 3 on 10! i know i should be able to, well, look past his looks, but it's hard to imagine being more than friends with someone you aren't really attracted to. i'm just so angry with myself...but i can't help it...i can't see myself being able to introduce him to people as my boyfriend or kissing him. it drives me up the wall being unsure of what i want just because he's far from good-looking! i've never thought of myself as shallow; i've been with other guys who couldn't have been considered that cute and it didn't bother me because i liked them for their personality, but this guy is just so far from even that...what's worse is that recently i met another guy who's really cute and who seems interested in me, and even though i don't feel nearly as much of a connection with him as i feel with my other friend, i'm tempted by him because he's just...so much more tempting!! i don't want to hurt anyone and i don't want to make the wrong choice because something stupid is holding me back. sorry for this being so long, but if anyone has any advice i'd appreciate it VERY much!

Aight, everyone says that it matters how the person is...not their looks, but that's lying. Unless you meet someone on the internet wit out pics then the first thing that attracts a person is look. People don't go over to ugly people to start talkin when lookin for a relationship, they go to the one they think is cute or hot. If you don't have that attraction to him then don't go out with him, especially if you're gonna be embarassed to do stuff like that wit him...and that's not your fault, so don't worry about that. I don't mean to sound mean, but that's the truth...and sometimes the truth hurts. Hope I helped a lil.

BD

Q: okay so tomorow im going to this girls house, we have liked eachother for 3 yrs and are going out, i am gonna get there at like early in the morning while she is still asleep, i was going to make her breakfast in bed but she doesnt realy eat breakfast cuz she has a weak stomach. I really want to do something sweet so she wakes up to a wonderful surprise and realizes how much i care about her, any great suggestions would be nice...thank you!

Aight, this is the thing that'll get her. Give her a SINGLE red rose in a vase. Maybe you could get her a thing of her favorite candy. Also, get her a card sayin how much you care about her and stuff. Hope I helped.

BD

Q: Okay, I'm 14 years old -female- and I need some advice. I got a job at this restuarant for the summer and theres this guy there that I like(16). He's just all over a really cool guy. He's really nice, and has a great personality, plus he's good looking, but I can't tell if he likes me back, and i don't know if I should give him my # or ask him to a movie or somethin. I do have this feeling that he likes me because of a few insidents such as: three days ago he was helpin me out with dishes (cuz it makes it alot easier to have 1 person loading and the other unloading) and I had gotten some tips from the servers(cuz im a hostess)and he said to me,"You have some money stickin out of your back pocket." I was just like "oh" and pushed it in some so it wouldn't fall out and then he said to me," It's Kinda sexy." I was shocked I didn't know what to say. So I picked up one of the buckets to wash it out and then I said," I see where your lookin." and he just laughed a little and said yeah. Plus he askes me about five times a day: Wazzup? or How's it goin? ( since I bus tables a lot and go in and out of the kitchen). I don't know what to do. I've had guys like me but I've never gone out with anyone, and I don't know how to act. Help me please. I need to know what to do, summers almost gone and my job will be over and i won't see him anymore.I need to let him know that i like him. I need help, badly.
Thanks a bunch,
Lioness

You should be straight up with the guy. He seems like he likes you, so ask him somewhere, and if he goes then afterward tell him you like him and see what happens from there. Hope I helped out.

BD

Q: what do you do wen your goin out wif a guy.. and your best guy friend who you really like and have always wanted to go out with him asks you out... i mean i rilly like the guy im going out with and i really like my best friend?? me and my b/f lets call him jon have been goin out for a couple weeks now and my best frind lets call him bob juz asked me out today?! i have always wanted to go out with bob but he never asked and now that im going out with jon , bob decides to ask me out! i dont want answers tht say well its up to you..i need advice..thnx!! i rate high!!!!!

This might sound mean, but if you've really liked this one guy for a long time, and the b/f you have happened to come along then I would break up wit the b/f you have. Three reasons for this...

1: The guy you really liked must like you if he asked you out.

2: The feelings for your b/f won't be as strong, and you won't have 100% toward him.

3: You can't try to make everyone else happy. You need to take your feelings and go wit them...and it sounds like this "Bob" guy is the one you been waitin for.

Hope I helped

BD

Q: im in need of a new screen name and i have no clue with ideas!i like the color pink..im in dance and poms..i have blonde hair and green eyes..im preppy and spoiled..i have a guy in my life im crazy about! well theres a few things about me! can you please help me!? thanks a bunches!

SpoiledDancer##

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Q: Okay. I like this boy and everything but he is like my best guy friend that I have! i like him so much. I'm not scared to tell anyone that I like them if I do. But I'm thinking about our relationship together. I don't want to ruin what we have right now. But I want more. I mean, if I told him and he didnt like me, it would be totally awkward!! Does anyone have any advice? I will rate high for GOOD advice!!

Aight, I was kinda in the same position, and lucky for me it didn't get awkward. You prolly should tell him you like him. He should be able to understand that being so close of a friend those feelings could easily come into play. I think you should be straight up because not telling him will get you no where. Yes, it is a big risk, but if it's good it could be the best thing ever. The bigger the risk, the bigger the reward.

BD

Q: ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
14/m

Keep hangin wit this girl and stuff, but give it a lil while longer. One thing is that you should make sure you're completely over your ex, second make sure this girl isn't jus someone you wanna pick up on the rebound, and third...you don't really want the rep as a playa or pimp, even though media makes it seem cool...it prolly wouldn't be good for your social life wit girls. Hope I helped.

BD

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable?

You should tell him that you don't want him doin that. If he really cares about you then he won't do that, but if he does care then he's not worth the time.

Q: I'm 15/f. There's this guy that I like, but I'm afraid to try to talk to him, b/c a friend started saying things about us that aren't true. So I don't know what he thinks about all of it, so it might be a little weird for me to talk to him. But I really like him. What should I do? I'll rate 5's for good advice.

First thing you should do is sit down wit him and clear up any rumors. Make sure he knows that your aren't starting the rumors and it's a friend. Hopefully that helps.

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