Hey im Marlene. Im your down to earth girl-next-door. Im 17 and 100% Polish. Im a virgo and completely match it. I always give my friends advice and 99% of the time it never fails. Im not perfect and I dont know everything but your welcome to ask me anything and I'll tell you my honest opinion and try to help! So bring on the questions. Always here -Marlene-
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This is going to be long or no one is going to understand my situation.
Basically I'm 16 & Female: I had this perfect boyfriend (or so it seemed) we dated constant, no breakups, for 17 months. He, too, was 16. We planned so much, we were even getting engaged, it was perfect. Near January of this year, things started getting a little rocky between him & I. See we go to different schools so we never really got to see eachother that often. We planned to meet eachother at the bowling alley, and that night we got in a fight. The fight wasn't really over anything big, he just got mad at me over something & hurt my arm. But I told him that he had anger problems & needed to resolve them. So basically, for the next 3 days he ignored me. He ignored my calls, my texts, my messages, my emails, & he never called me back, returned anything. Then I had gotten on the computer that day & he broke up with me. I was not only mad that it was through the computer, but I was furious because of everything he threw away. A week down the road, he comes back to me & asks for this thing he called "break-up sex" I knew it would have been a mistake for me to have done it, but I wanted him back & I wanted that feeling back. So I agreed to it. Later on, he tells me that he's "talking" to someone & doesn't want to ruin things with her, so he doesn't want to have this "sex." I was hurt. Basically because I still wanted him back. Friday night, I went to the basketball game at his school to meet up with a couple of my friends, and he was there. He wasn't with anyone like he told me he would have been. So he texts me & asks me to meet him outside. We ended up having sex in the backseat of his car. I don't really regret it, but last night he told me that he never would ever get back together with me & that friday night was an accident. What is your all's opinion on this situation? (link)
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He's an ignorant a**, hun! As much as I hate to say it, he used you for a good time because he knew you still had feelings for him. Its time for you to move on, and find a boy that likes you as much as you like him, that will respect you. =) GoodLuck lovey!
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For the past month or so I've been trying to eat healthier and trying to only have like one junk food a day. for example only eating 1 candy bar that day. or only eating 3 oroes a day. (just a little something sweet for the day but not too much) but friday i had so much junk food. but then saturday i went to the Y so i felt better but i told myself that i did a horrible thing and not to do it again. (hah) well today i just ate a little bit of a cake that my grandmother made for my brother and I. and now i just feel horrible. i can't stan it after i eat something bad but yet tasty super good i feel horrible i almost wanna kick myself int he head for doig it. but when i'm attcally eating it i'm lik oo its soo good i'm soo glad i at it. and then after i'm like stupid why the hell did you eat that?!
and i have no clue what to do to stop myself i hate that when i eat a little junk food i feel soo guilty when i'm eatier (i think) healthier than i've ever eaten. i just don't know what to do..
thanks for reading =] (link)
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Take it from a girl that LOVES candy, ice cream, cookies etc... You learn to balance this out. Don't be mad at yourself for eating junk food because that stresses you out and thats not good for your body. Eat well, and enjoy your junk food but keep it to a minimum. If you know a party is coming up and there will be lots of junk food there, cut down on sweets a few days before then, and pig out at the party. Remember eating some junk food once in a while doesnt hurt. And you said you exercise- that's great!! You have nothing to worry about! P.S Just stay away from FATTY foods (with Trans Fat) No No Good =)
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Hi,
My school prom is coming up soon and I have been told that a boy is going to ask me to go with him, this boy told me he liked me a few months ago and I told him I already have a boyfriend (but I don’t really) because I don’t like him in that way. After he told me, we stopped talking to each other because it was awkward, but recently we started talking again. Now, so soon after, he is going to ask me to the prom and I don’t know what to say. If I say yes I’m worried about what he will expect, for example do I have to stay with him the whole time and would I have to dance with him, because I would find that really awkward. Please could you help me with my decision.
Thanks (link)
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Go to prom with someone that you will enjoy being with 24/7. No you are NOT expected to stay with your date the whole time because you may want to dance with some other friends and he may as well, but do not just leave your date for the whole dance, that would just be rude. Wait and see maybe there is another boy you would LOVE to go to the prom with, if not then ask someone YOU would want to go to. Don't feel pressured into going with someone you feel it will be akward with. Remember its YOUR prom =)
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does anybody know where i can find realllyy cute ballet flats? just simple ones that cost less then like 25 dollars that i can just wear like shopping and stuff. nothing fancy, solids, prints anything simple comfy and cute. anddd not to explensive. thank you (link)
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I wanted a cute pair of flats and didnt really wanna go to Payless, but once I went there found an AMAZING pair that everyone to this day is jealous of. Check it out you may be suprised to find something great!
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Backround: My mom's best friend's son is the guy i love. His name is Matt. We went to the beach with him last August for a day. He is 15 years old and lives in Merrick, NY with his family.
Now, im 13/f and I totally fell for him. He's so funny and made me smile so much. He's not the hottest guy in the world but his personality elevates his hottness. My family only sees him once in a while as in every couple of months. I don't have his SN or e-mailaddress or anything! One night I missed him so much, that I searched on Myspace for an HOUR AND A HALF searching for him! He is so much like me! He is only going to be about 5 foot 2. I'm supposed to be 4 foot 11. Yes im tiny...hes tiny...PERFECT!! The thing is...we don't know eachother that well. I'm so shy around people I don't know well, so i just smiled. We talked a little bit, nothing interesting. Since we were at the beach, i was in a bathing suit. I chose to wear a one-piece because i didn't want to be a slut around him. What do I do? Don't tell me I don't know love...love is for all ages. As I said...i don't like him for his looks. I hope to get to know him but i need some tips for out next visit!!
Thanks for reading this long question...i'll rate honestly! (link)
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hey ! Well from what I read you REALLY have fallen for this guy. And I completely agree with you, love is for all ages. My friends parents started dating in the 8th grade and are still together to this day!! My 2nd point is that wearing a 2 piece bathing suit doesnt mean your slutty AT ALL, I think it just shows people your comfortable in your own skin, and dont feel the need to hide it. But anyways back to your question. Considering you rarely see the boy and dont have his number etc. I say ask your mom casually for Matt's parents phone number. Your mom wont object to that. Then call him up and be like "hey you! its me (fill in the blank) ! " He'll probably ask you how you've been etc. and then be like "I was just looking through pictures and I came across some of me and you, and we had a pretty good time! We should get together more often!" and then continue the conversation and ask for his screenname or something. You guys could become really close this way. Good luck to you, and tell me how it works out! xO =)
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I'm male, 17, and in high school.
Two of my friends, let's call them Enrique and Polly, went out for about nine months. Enrique is probably my best friend, and during this time, I became good friends with Polly as well. Recently (a few months ago or so), they broke up, and they've both gone through ups and downs, getting back together, breaking up again, dating other people, etc. Finally, it seems that they've really broken it off. I hang out with both of them a lot, but separately, because they feel awkward together. And I'm starting to get the impression that Polly likes me.
Now, the complicated part. I've had a purely physical (f-buddy) relationship with a girl I know, let's call her Edna, for the past month or so. We've made out many times and had sex once, and the tricky part is that we're both emotionally shy, and I'm not sure how she feels about me. She may want something more out of the relationship, and I'm confused as to whether she just wants an open thing going like we already have or if she would care if I dated someone else.
Unfortunately, long story short, Polly and I ended up making out. We got caught up in the moment and a lot of feelings came out, but now I'm in an unusual place. Polly feels that we need to tell Enrique. Enrique is going to be very upset when he hears this. As an added element, I'm worried about what Edna will think, since I'm not sure what she wants out of our relationship. I'm really confused as to what I should do here. (link)
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hey ! woah there, that was long. Okay well thats a really tough situation to be in, and I have to say its great that you dont want to end up hurting anyones feelings at the end. I say before you do anything else, talk to Edna about whats going on. I mean if you 2 are capable of having sex and hooking up then you're also capable of talking about whats to become of this relationship or "thing" that you 2 have. Id sit her down and be like listen I need to know how you feel about me, if im just going to be ur F*** buddy or anything more. With Polly I would first ask myself if the make out session with her was just a spur of the moment thing or do you really have something for her. If you dont then you move on and tell Polly that you really didnt mean 4 it to happen but you dont feel that way about her. If you DO have feelings for Polly and DO want to be with her, then get up the courage and talk to Enrique about this. If your his friend then you 2 wil somehow work this out. It won't be easy because he might feel hurt but you should also tell him that you'd rather tell him the truth and right now then later him finding it out on his own.
I hope I helped, and def. let me know how it works out okay ?
xO =)
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Okay, so I'm 14 (female). my friend (15 and female) and I are throwing a christmas/new years party (on new years) and there'll be boys and girls there. We're all 13-15 years old, so no college party stuff. but we dont know what to do. people are bringing b/f's and crushes, all though we dont want to do anything to extreme. does anyone have any good ideas of what to do for the partay??? (link)
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hey ! yay parties are always AMAZING ! Well i say, get some good Cd's or make a couple with some good remix's on them, so you could have them playing throughout the night. If people want to dance then that their choice, no pressure ya know ? 2. I say in one room let the TV play and have it turned to the channel where theyre counting down the hours/minutes/seconds till when the ball drops. That always is fun to look forward to for ppl who have a bf or a crush so at the strike of 12, kiss kiss. =) 3. Have lots of food. Nothing big but lil snacks like chips, pretzels, finger foods etc. 4. Theres also cool lil games you can play with everyone thats not boring but really fun for example.. twister ? thats always pretty interesting. 5. You have so many possibilities, so think outside the box and im sure you'll realize theres so many cool things for you guys to do !
xO hope i helped! =)
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13/f...there are two different schools in my town. i go to one, and my bf goes to another. lately hes been acting really weird and i think he's interested in someone else. How can i keep an eye on him if we're in different schools all day? and how am i supposed to know if hes flirting with other girls? please help, i rate good answers. (link)
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hey ! Well let me tell you 1st off that spying on your bf (or in your case keeping an eye on him) is never the right thing to do. In a relationship, the 2 people need space, they dont want another person on their back 24/7. I understand you being worried though because you do care about your bf and want to stay together. The best thing for you to do would be to confront him and ask him if everythings alright, and that you 2 are together for a reason- because you 2 are able to talk about everything together so if anythigns wrong he can tell you. If he refuses to tell you and keeps up the behavior dump him. Its not worth having a guy that doesnt respect you and maybe is fooling around with another girl, you deserve more then that.
xO hope i helped =)
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how can i stop careing about what people think of me (link)
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hey ! Well to tell you the truth. You'll ALWAYS care what people think of you. No matter how much someone says they dont care what others think about them, they do, TRUST me. But that also doesnt mean they take it to heart. People will always talk shit about others and every year you grow to be more mature about it and realize stuff they say you cant let bother you! Be strong, and think of all the GOOD qualities you have, the friends that love you, and the family you have. People talk about other people because they have nothing better to do with their time, so dont worry and move on with life =)
hope i helped, write back with what you think ! xO
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its kind of weird between me and my ex cause its like one moment he wants to be my friend and the next moment he cant stand then the next he is my friend allover again so we were on the phone the other day and we taled 4 an hour and some change he has a girlfriend that cant stand me but he wants to come see me knowing his girl dont like me but i didnt say no to him coming to see me cause i want to see him too but what do you think that means, he said hes gonna come alone i want to know what it means is he trying to be friendly or does he miss me what do you guys think? (link)
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Hey! okay well I think it might mean 2 things.
1. He may want to try and talk with you one on one to get closer with you and build a strong friendship with you because even though you 2 may not be dating, your important to him and he doesnt want to lose you as a friend.
2. He may want to use you, and makeout etc. with you. If he does though do whatever you want but a smart choice would be to warn him that he has a girlfriend, and his gf already dislikes you as it is so you cant do this, unless he's willing to break up with her and go back out with you, but that all depends on how you feel.
hope i helped xO
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I know everyone has heard of 'Pressure Points', but has anyone ever heard of 'PLEASURE Points'? I know for girls it's down by her lower region, but what about for guys? Anyone know what I'm talking about? (link)
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Hmm Ive read about that soemwhere. I know one spot is behind the ears, and then when you hug a guy you should hold tighlty.. hehe always works for me :) xO
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My skin has so much oil on it! I cleanse my face and everything, but then it gets grosley shiny. I also have a problem with blackheads. What should I do? I feel I'd be pretty if those things were gone! HELP! (link)
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Hey.. hmm thats a tough question. Id say to use Neutrogena or Clean And Clear acne scubs. I use this Neutrogena 60 Second scrub mask and it took out most of my blackheads ! If that doesnt work id recommend seeing a dermotologist cause theyre the only ones that will actually know whats wrong with your skin and maybe will prescribe something for you. =) good luck xO
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i want to ask this guy to like this spooky woods thing.. but im kinda scared.. (feeling like an idiot if he rejects me) we are friends, and i was thinking of like, on aim, i should be like "haha, your so cool we should hang out sometime." like that? then asking him tommarow :/ but idk. can you help me? (link)
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Hey ! Well i completely know what you mean Im always afraid of being rejected too but you know what its just a chance we all have to take. I mean if you dont do it now then maybe there wont be another chance ? And the spooky woods thing is a great thing to bring a guy too! Considering you 2 are friends also it shouldnt be hard at all to ask him. Id be like so what are your plans for this weekend ? he'd tell you bla bla bla or nothing, and he'll ask you what are yours ? and you say soemthing like "well i was gunna go to the spooky woods thing but my friends are going out of town, do you wanna go with me, i think its gunna be really fun" and i mean how can he say no to that lol. Well good luck, and I hope everything goes great ! xO
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when you delete something off the computer, it goes to the recylin bin but i dont think it reaally deletes it.. so what is something i can do so it PERMANENTLY deletes it? (link)
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Hey well yes it doesnt delete it completely, now you should go to the Recycle Bin and click ont he file you want to PERMANENTLY delete and on the left side it says Empty Recycle Bin and click that. =) hope i helped
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I`m on my period. I was just in the shower and I saw all the blood coming out. Now I feel really dizzy, my neck hurts badly, and I feel like I`m going to pass out. I have a major cramp and I also feel like I`m going to throw up. We don't have any Midol and I`m home alone so my mom can`t get me any. What should I Do? (link)
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aww hey sweetie.. I usually get that alot. I recommend if you have a heating pad put that on your stomach and lay down and watch some tv. If that doesnt help take a towel and put it in warm water. You should definatly lay down cause that will help you relax and take your mind off the pain =) hope you feel better !
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what should i get my boyfriend for his birthday? im 14 hes turning sixteen. (link)
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Depends on how LONG you've been dating and what he's INTO. If youve been dating for a short time then I say a DVD that he loves or something not too expencive but special. Like maybe the 1st movie you 2 saw together? If youve been dating for a while then I say a nice watch? cologne? xO good luck!
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This guy I met at camp seems to have a thing for me. While we were there he tried to pull me into a room by ourselves so we could talk. (I definitely know he was not trying to get some. I'm positive.) He also talked to me from his friend's house, and he flirted so much it was crazy. Seriously, every sentence he said alluded to the fact that he has a thing for me. So my question is how do I know if he really likes me or if he just flirts with everyone and wants me to fall for him? (link)
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I think you should get to know him. The REAL him. Go out somewhere like an amusement park or an ice skating rink and talk with him. Get to know his friends and see what they say about him and if he has ever had any relationships or just flirts. And hey if in a couple of weeks you like him and he still likes you then whata are you waiting for girl, tell him how you feel. =) hope i helped! xO marlene
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a short amount of two weeks, and only two weeks. Last time I saw him he tried to touch my chest as we were kissing and I pulled his hand away and I got extemely uncomfortable around him that night. He knew I was too. Here I am a week later and he tried to do the same thing again tonight. I let him for a second then just stopped kissing him and got very quiet after that and just continued to watch the movie. We kind of have this joke about how I don't like my stomach so he was laughing about it and he kind of pulled my shirt up just so you could see my stomach just a little bit. So I pulled my shirt back down, but he put his hand under it. I laughed cause he was tickleing me too, but then he moved his hand up. I pulled his hand out right away and luckily my mom came to pick me up after that happened.
I live off the moto- "forgive and forget" I'm forgiving him, but it makes me feel really degrated and small that he'd try that two weeks into this realationship. He's really sorry and he knows it made me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to act now. I want to show him it's alright, but I don't want him trying again... what do I do? Should I feel uncomfortable? (link)
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Hey! Considering he told you he's sorry then I suppose he will try to make you feel more comfortable and stop trying to feel you up. So hang out with him and have fun but if he tries it again and it make you uncomfortable then I say dump him. Because he obviously doesnt respect you and how you feel. I know it may hurt but if a guy trully wants to be with you and loves you then he wont force you to do anything you dont want to. Hope i helped! xO Marlene =)
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Okay. I like this boy and everything but he is like my best guy friend that I have! i like him so much. I'm not scared to tell anyone that I like them if I do. But I'm thinking about our relationship together. I don't want to ruin what we have right now. But I want more. I mean, if I told him and he didnt like me, it would be totally awkward!! Does anyone have any advice? I will rate high for GOOD advice!! (link)
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Hey I totally understand what your going through. I went through the same a couple of times but the other way around. You know what a good thing to do is? My guy friends always started up a conversation about who I'd date and who he would date, and then would ask "so what would you think if we went out?" It's a good ? because it breaks the ice and you'll know what he really thinks, and if he says soemthing like "That would totally be awkward" then im sorry but you have to move on sweetie. but if he says that would be kinda cool then you should tell him how YOU feel. hope i helped xO marlene =)
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ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
14/m (link)
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Dont, not yet. Just because this girl is cool now doesnt mean she'll be jsut as cool a couple of weeks from now. Because you JUST got out of a relationship means your looking for someone to share the feelings you had with your ex, so I think you should wait to see if your feelings develop for this new girl. hope i helped. xO marlene =)
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