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Hopelessly in love with a guy I barely know


Question Posted Sunday November 27 2005, 5:17 pm

Backround: My mom's best friend's son is the guy i love. His name is Matt. We went to the beach with him last August for a day. He is 15 years old and lives in Merrick, NY with his family.

Now, im 13/f and I totally fell for him. He's so funny and made me smile so much. He's not the hottest guy in the world but his personality elevates his hottness. My family only sees him once in a while as in every couple of months. I don't have his SN or e-mailaddress or anything! One night I missed him so much, that I searched on Myspace for an HOUR AND A HALF searching for him! He is so much like me! He is only going to be about 5 foot 2. I'm supposed to be 4 foot 11. Yes im tiny...hes tiny...PERFECT!! The thing is...we don't know eachother that well. I'm so shy around people I don't know well, so i just smiled. We talked a little bit, nothing interesting. Since we were at the beach, i was in a bathing suit. I chose to wear a one-piece because i didn't want to be a slut around him. What do I do? Don't tell me I don't know love...love is for all ages. As I said...i don't like him for his looks. I hope to get to know him but i need some tips for out next visit!!

Thanks for reading this long question...i'll rate honestly!


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IgIvEnGeTaDvIcEtOo answered Monday November 28 2005, 1:21 am:
you should think of some things you can talk about with him and in a way show him you like him but don't be too pushy i hope this is helpfull

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kailey answered Sunday November 27 2005, 10:39 pm:
This isn't what you want to hear, but you're going to get it anyways. You <b>don't</b> love him-- you don't even know him well enough to love him. You like him; you're infatuated with him; you don't love him. You're in love with the idea of being with him, with who you think he is, but you don't love him. You don't love someone because you're both short. That's absolutely ridiculous.

That said, get to know him! Ask your mom for his number & call & talk or ask for his screenname/email & become friends.

I'm afraid that at your age & in your situation, a long distance relationship is not going to be successful. Focus on being friends with the kid, & if things go from there, keep what I said (about the long distance thing) in mind.

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PolishLaska answered Sunday November 27 2005, 9:32 pm:
hey ! Well from what I read you REALLY have fallen for this guy. And I completely agree with you, love is for all ages. My friends parents started dating in the 8th grade and are still together to this day!! My 2nd point is that wearing a 2 piece bathing suit doesnt mean your slutty AT ALL, I think it just shows people your comfortable in your own skin, and dont feel the need to hide it. But anyways back to your question. Considering you rarely see the boy and dont have his number etc. I say ask your mom casually for Matt's parents phone number. Your mom wont object to that. Then call him up and be like "hey you! its me (fill in the blank) ! " He'll probably ask you how you've been etc. and then be like "I was just looking through pictures and I came across some of me and you, and we had a pretty good time! We should get together more often!" and then continue the conversation and ask for his screenname or something. You guys could become really close this way. Good luck to you, and tell me how it works out! xO =)

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helpachick answered Sunday November 27 2005, 8:29 pm:
hey hey! well hmmmm...lets see well next time you see him just be like HEY!! like a friend would do or something and then just start talking about things anyone would talk about.(movies, songs, sports) or you could talk about last time at the beach...blah blah blah whatever your favorite parts were of that trip. then after a while start dropping hints you like him. also- ASK HIM FOR HIS SN!! then be flirty! and after you go home, you will have his sn in your hand and be able to talk to him year round...yay!
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