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Your typical cliché love question.
This is going to be long or no one is going to understand my situation.
Basically I'm 16 & Female: I had this perfect boyfriend (or so it seemed) we dated constant, no breakups, for 17 months. He, too, was 16. We planned so much, we were even getting engaged, it was perfect. Near January of this year, things started getting a little rocky between him & I. See we go to different schools so we never really got to see eachother that often. We planned to meet eachother at the bowling alley, and that night we got in a fight. The fight wasn't really over anything big, he just got mad at me over something & hurt my arm. But I told him that he had anger problems & needed to resolve them. So basically, for the next 3 days he ignored me. He ignored my calls, my texts, my messages, my emails, & he never called me back, returned anything. Then I had gotten on the computer that day & he broke up with me. I was not only mad that it was through the computer, but I was furious because of everything he threw away. A week down the road, he comes back to me & asks for this thing he called "break-up sex" I knew it would have been a mistake for me to have done it, but I wanted him back & I wanted that feeling back. So I agreed to it. Later on, he tells me that he's "talking" to someone & doesn't want to ruin things with her, so he doesn't want to have this "sex." I was hurt. Basically because I still wanted him back. Friday night, I went to the basketball game at his school to meet up with a couple of my friends, and he was there. He wasn't with anyone like he told me he would have been. So he texts me & asks me to meet him outside. We ended up having sex in the backseat of his car. I don't really regret it, but last night he told me that he never would ever get back together with me & that friday night was an accident. What is your all's opinion on this situation?
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ok..my opinion is that you tried to get him back..he knows how you feel..now i wouldnt do anything until HE comes around. eenjoy time with your friends..maybe even date around a little..watch..he might realize how dumb he is being and he might come around. i know from experience
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my bestfriend is going through this same situation and i'll tell you what i tell her,
you just need to stop talking to him, period. it may be hard, but it's for the better. you are basically being used, and you are so much better than that. now i don't know you personally, but i know that you could find someone WAY better who would actually treat you right!
don't let this loser (who breaks up with you over the INTERNET) ruin your life anymore!
i know you can do better :D!
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Leave this guy!! Hes ruining your life and hes not worth it!! Get a better guy there are some out there trust me
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im so sorry hun. listen the same exact thin(except the hitting)happened to me and trust me DONT TALK TO HIM EVER AGAIN. he was just making up excuses to get in your pants and crap and he knew it wasnt a mistake. he knew he could take advantage of you cus you love him and hes an asshole. break all ties with him IGNORE HIM. you dont need to be hurt like this & you deserve way better.
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I.m sorry. I thought this was my friend... I thought she said this was her question.. or that she just wanted me to read it...sorry.
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I could honestly write a book telling you all of the reasons why you should never talk to this guy again, but I'm sure you know all of them, so I'll condense it a bit.
First of all, he hit you. Once a guy does that, there's a good chance he can do it again. If a guy hits you and you don't do anything about it, he knows he can do it again, and usually it gets worse. If someone is abusive, they not only want to be in control of the relationship, they want to be in control of you.
Second of all, he had sex with you while you were broken up. He knew that you wanted him back, and he took advantage of that.
Lastly, he's playing with your emotions. "Break-up sex?" Give me a break! How inconsiderate is that? Plus, he ignored you when you told him he had anger problems, and if he were that great of a guy, he would have apologized for hitting you and realized that what he did was wrong. He seems self-absorbed and you DEFINITELY deserve better. You're not here just to entertain him.
Your best bet? Cut all ties with him. Don't talk to him. If he tries to communicate with you in any way, ignore him. You need time to get over him and all that he's done to you, and staying away from him is the best way to do so. You don't deserve to be with a guy who is so abusive.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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Hey sweetie,
My opinion is that this guy is a total a**hole!
He's using you for sex, sex, and more sex.
But...he refuses to admit it.
You have to stay away from him, or he'll keep wanting to have sex, and then tell you that "it was an accident" over and over again. And you'll keep being hurt, hurt, and hurt again.
Stay away from him, hun! You deserve better!
Hope this helps, best of luck.
-Jam
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Come on.. seriously. People can be in love, but they have to understand when someone is using them for all the wrong reasons. He knows that it wasn't an accident. He just wants some a**. It's like a booty call. Don't be the one to give that to him. Your only 16 too, but having sex is your choice, so ok. Also, if he's even somewhat abusive you need to get out of that relationship all together, friends and everything. Get over him and go for someone who really cares about you and your feelings. Your just giving him what he wants and thats not good. Hope I helped and if you have any more questions ask me.
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He's an ignorant a**, hun! As much as I hate to say it, he used you for a good time because he knew you still had feelings for him. Its time for you to move on, and find a boy that likes you as much as you like him, that will respect you. =) GoodLuck lovey!
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I'm so sorry hunny your not gonna like this answer but i have to say it forget him and move on yes it will be difficult but he is USING you something must have hit his brain and decided it was over. Otherwise talk to him and try to work it out. You never know when a guy is talking bull**** so becareful and please understand your having sex at 16!
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In my opinion, this guy is using you for friends with benefits. If he gets you to have sex, and then makes up some excuse for you two not getting back together he is just using you for sex. You should try to look past him and look for someone that you truly love and that doesnt just get with you to have sex.
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