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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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ok... i am 15 and i am in love with this guy. and i wanna be with him forever and always... we have everything planned... we're going to try to emancipated together when i turn 16... could that work? even though my mom doesnt want me to... she doesnt think im ready... but im sick of living here... she has anger issues, theres so much stress, there emotional and sum physical abuse, and theres just so much problums. i feel that i can do better... and if emancipation doesnt work plan B was to have a baby... (im willing to do anything to be with him) could that work? if i had a baby or if im pregnant does that give me and him sum rights to be together?... and plan c was to get married at 16... does your guardian have to have a say in it?? i really need advice. Thank You!

I cannot say much more than Razhie and Zane already have. Emancipation is a legal remedy to extreme situations. To even ask the courts for emancipation requires legal documents prepared by a lawyer. I do not believe you will find a lawyer anywhere who will prepare those document for you. If the physical abuse is such that you need to get away from your mother you will be made a ward of the court and placed with Social Services and Foster care until your 18.

Getting pregnant will emancipate you in some states. This is not a plan B, it is selfish and stupid. To bring a child into this world for reason other than love is wrong. Then there are the responsibilities you owe to this child. How do you plan to Cloth, feed, house and care for the child's medical needs. Minimum wage jobs won't pay for the rent let alone other needs and usually do not come with health care plans. If your thinking about welfare payments you can just about forget them. Given the present mood of lawmakers you may not be able qualify for welfare in the not to distant future.

The problems you have written about can be resolved in other ways than running of and getting married and having a baby. Talk to a trusted teacher or school principal about your home life. There are procedures they must follow to help you.

We are both 17 about to be 18 and i'm not sure what he means. I have been friends with this guy since I was in second grade. He has always been like a brother to me, We have never dated or done anything. Hes always nice to me. He helps me when I'm in trouble, but i'm not a bad peron who gets into trouble either, so what did he mean he wanted to teach me about life?

You should just ask him for I would not want to put words into his mouth. But as a general statement when a guy says that to a girl he is usually saying he wants to teach her about sex.

My friend says Im naive and that I live a sheltered life, but I hang out with him all the time. I dont think Im spoiled either. What does he mean?

Generally when someone says a person is naive what they mean is that person will believe almost anything someone tells them be it true or false.

Living a sheltered life means that you are sheltered from the world around you. Generally this means your parents have kept the worlds events and social problems hidden from you. Some parents even go so far as to shelter their children to the point that their children have no social graces from the lack of true interaction with their peers.

One of the greatest areas of sheltering done by parents to a child is in the are of sexual knowledge. Some parent subscribe to the theory the less their children know about sex the less chance they can get into trouble over sex.

Other ways of sheltering children is keeping them focused on schoolwork and after school activities to the point they have no time to see the world around them as it is. This is generally how a person becomes sheltered an naive.

I'm a 13 yearold girl i'm a blond and blue eyed.A lot of guys ask me out.Anyway my boyfriend is 16 and he changed me into someone i'm not.When we started dating he told i should dress more “slutty”.Then i started waring “slutty” clothes. Our relationship started from a little kissing and making out to being in a sexual relationship.My friend saw the change of my personality, even i saw the change.i turned from a blond who did the right thing to a blond who is a slut and does anything right.i want to change but i don't want to end my relationship with my boyfriend.Please give me advice.i can't stop thinking about my situation.

You have for the most part answered your own question in what you have written to us.

You don't like what you have become. You know deep down your boyfriend is using you even if the conscious you does not want to recognize this. You , I am almost certain of this knows it is wrong at your age to be dating someone 3 years older than you.

If you agree with what I've written so far read on, if not stop here and move on to the next advisor.

Put the slutty clothes in a goodwill bag, you will out grow them soon enough anyway and get some proper clothes. Tell your boyfriend you are a better person than he wants you to be and he should date you for who you are and that the free sex train has reached the final stop. No more sex until you are older. If he really loves you he will stay with you. If he is just using you, as I feel he is, he will find away to dump you or he will beg you not to change.

A three year difference in age at your present age is a very big difference. To put it in perspective it is like the difference between New York and San Francisco. When your 21 a 3 year difference in age is the difference between one side of the street and the other.

IF you are having sex with your boyfriend I honestly feel he is using you to get what he can't get from someone his own age. There are two things wrong with this. First someone your age should not be having sex, your too young to truly understand all the responsibilities that go with having sex.

Secondly you can get a reputation you do not want. Teenage boys cannot and will not keep a secret, they all kiss and tell. He tells his best buddy telling him to keep it secret. The next thing you know the whole school knows and suddenly you are the most popular girl in school. Is what you want.

Don't worry about ending your relationship with your boyfriend you will have plenty of other boyfriends before you choose your life's mate. He is using you and you know it. Don't ever let anyone use you or make you into something that you are not. You are better than that.

I'm 15 years old, 105 lbs, 5"4, very active. 2 days ago around 1pm I started experiencing a severe throbbing pain in between my breasts (more towards the left) whenever I breathe in, eat something, swallow salivia, or just anything really! Or even when I'm just sitting on my couch watchiing tv I'll get a sharp pain. I honestly don't know what it could be! Since all this stated happening I have also been burping much more & it killllls. Any idea if what is going on? Help would be muchly appreciated before I consult a doctor :)

Chest pains are not something to be ignored. I'm not a doctor but I am a fire Fighter first responder. My advise is that you seek medical advise immediately.

If you cannot reach your doctor then go to the nearest hospital emergency room or call 911.

Ok well 15/f I have put this off long enough well we got a new male teacher at the beggining of the school year, and well like its an all girl class of about 10 people, and well sinse the first day he says innappropriate things like the first day talking about balls, another day bringing up dicks and yes the bad way, btw hes a young teacher not married no kids. Any way me and my friend Cali were like wow. Then the next day he came up to me in the hall way while i was on the way to the bathroom and walked biside me and he goes heyyy and i was like woah you scared me and he was like I get that a lot then he raised his eybrows up and down at me over and over, then he followed me all the way to the bathroom no joke not sayin anything then when I got to the bathroom a teacher walked out of a near by classrom and he saw the teacher and i gues feaked out cuz he made a weird face then turned around and left. Later on I told my friend about it and she was like wow this is really getting freaky, so then the next day we go to class and the teacher stared at me the whole time and sometimes smiles and my friend even noticed it to cuz she was like woah did you see him today and i was like yah lets add that to our list. Also he continues to do that everyday now for another really freaky thing the other day me and the teacher mr.(Hanson) were talkin and he randomly says to me I would give you a big hug but I canr because of teacher student realationships and then he winked at me and smiled and I was like...speechless than later that class period he came up and started messin with my hair like running his fingers through my hair and stuff and twirlin it, and kinda pattin my hair. Which was really freakky! now also the other day I was walkin to gym class with my friend and he was staring at me the whole time i walked by once again my friend even noticed it! and then yesterday when our class was just gettin done talking to him he looked at me and winked then smiled, he's done that so much now! now for one last thing soorry this is takin so long but Today I was playin the keyboard and well he came over and put his arms around me and was all up on me and I was like eeek what do I doooooo. Then like I was lookin to my side tryin to signal my friends Cali, mary,and Trailey and they finaly saw and there eyes got wide and one of them screamed MR. HANSON! and I sware he jumped up faster then lightnin when he saw they were lookin! Well he's done more but I don't wanna take up anymore of your time so I was just wonderin what to do its really freakin me out! the way he acts! do you agree he is acting inapproprite and harrasing? Please helpp! P.s. He also points out innapropriate things in songs too and says like why would they be doin that or makin jokes about it and smilin. Well thanks! please help!

Yes your teacher is being very inappropriate. You need to inform your school principal and your parents. I can't say if the teachers speaking manner is just him trying to be friendly and put himself at your level but it is entirely inappropriate for him to speak in this manner.

Touching you in the manner you described is not only inappropriate it is just plain wrong. Teachers are tot allowed to touch students period. The only time a teacher can touch a student is to administer first aid.

I'm 12 in a half and I lost all my virginity to my boyfriend, he's 15.My bestfriend said that losing my at my age is really bad.I don't think its that bad that i'm not a virgin anymore.Is it bad i'm not a virgin at 12.Most of the time I have sex with him. My friend says I should tell my parents i've had sex. Should I tell my parents?

I don't understand what the rush is to have sex especially at your age. I might be an old geezer in your eyes but when I was your age girls where still playing with dolls. So the answer to your first questions is; yes it was very wrong of you to have sex at your age for more reasons then I care to count. The most important one is what are you going to do if you get pregnant?

You should stop having sex NOW and WAIT until you are old enough to understand all the consequences that come with having sex and old enough to properly care for a baby. Also having sex at your age will give you a reputation you do not want. Like it or not teenage boys do kiss and tell.

I can't tell you if you should tell you parents; this is something you have to decide. I would think it is a good idea to do so since you are having sex. Short of putting you in a Chasity belt or locking you in your room there is not much mom or dad can do to stop you. What mom can do is take you to a doctor to get birth control pills since you are not old enough to get them on your own.

I will also say this: Moms are pretty smart. There will come a time in the not to distant future, if you continue to have sex, that she will realize you are sexually active. When she does you can expect her to go ballistic. She probably will anyway when and if you do tell her. It is only soften by the fact you are being honest and up front with her. Giving her the opportunity to council you and to protect you.

So the choice is your and yours alone. I've told you why I think you should but I cannot make the decision for you.

She does not want me to do it becuase the practices are everyday and for like an hour and a half. she thinks i wont be able to study and get good grades if i go. i have wrestling practice from 3:45 to 5:00 or somewhere around there. Do you guys have any suggestions of what i could do or make some kind of deal with her?

I have no idea what your GPA is today but what ever it is you will have to maintain it if you convince your mom to let you join the team.

I would suggest you start by offering the following deal. Tell mom that you will maintain your present GPA and if it should slip to something she finds unacceptable you will leave the team without an argument. The decision will be hers alone. Back this up with the fact that sports activities look good on college applications. Also if you are any good at wrestling one or more colleges may offer some scholarship money. The scholarship money is the key to your plea so emphasize this.

For your part understand everything you do comes with options and sometimes you may have to forfeit something in return. For you to join the wrestling team and maintain your grades you may have to forfeit some of your social life to do so. If your not prepared to forfeit something in return for the desire to join the wrestling team then you may want to rethink your request to do so.

About a year ago, I was hanging out with my aunts, one of their husbands, and one of their best friends, we'll call him B. They asked me to drive him home, so I did, and one thing led to another and after a few drinks we ended up sleeping together. Well we kept it quiet for almost a year, and I didn't see him. My nephew turned one this past summer and B was at the party. We couldn't hide our feelings, and one of my aunts saw us kissing, and they all started picking on him and asking him if he was into me. His ex cheated on him a while ago so he's still pretty upset about it and hurt and doesn't want to get into a relationship. Anyway my aunt (that he's close to) is a total b**** and she is really mean to me. She told both me and B that it was okay for us to date if we wanted, and then when we started to get close and hang out, she flipped out on him and told him he was an a-hole and to never talk to her again. Now he is really weird toward me and he won't touch me he won't be fun with me like he used to. He tells me it's because he doesn't wnat to get into a relationship because of his ex but I really think it's because of my aunt. What should I do?

I think your right. The problem her is B. He is using his ex as an excuse not to get into a relationship, which is real enough on its own. In this case I believe he is using it because he may value his relationship with your Aunt more than his relationship with you. The question is why. If you can find the answer to this question then you may be able to salvage the relationship.

To attack you aunt and tell her to stay out of your love life is a no win situation for you.Instead just steer clear of her in the future. when and if she asks about your love interest in the future just say something to the effect; "Aunt X I keep my social life very private, I hope you understand", and leave it at that.

Thanks, but for the advice but its to late. my bf forced me to have sex with him last week.i almost hate him.my mom took me to the hospital and they said there's a chance i might be pregnant.i'm so scared.i think i am pregnant, i just haven't been myself.i'm more tired then before and my period was very light.my bf is mad that he fucked me. what he does leave me. i'm super scared i can't have a baby at 12. what do i do?please help!!

It is not to late to file a rape charge. There is a five year statue of limitation on rape charges in most states. Meaning you have five years to file charges.

Did you call RAINN as I suggested? If not please do they can help you with this. Given that a week has. Gone by and some evidence may no longer be available the police will still investigate. If you have not washed your clothes, panties don't save them for the police.

I think your mom wants to save you the trauma of a trial. If your boyfriend is under 16 their is a good chance if he is charged he will be charged as a juvinile. Juvinile courts are different then adult courts in that his lawer will not be able to attach your credibility as he could in adult court. The judge won't allow it.

Call the police and call RAINN

I need help with an idea for a date with a girl i met at school. I'm 16, and she's the same age, she's very creative and likes to be in the outdoors, what should I do for a first date? P.S i want to make a good impression.

Being creative is a very opened situation as there are many ways to be creative. Unless you know for sure just what see is into I would suggest skipping that area.

Know for the outdoors this can be great fun. Find some nature trails you can hike and have a picnic lunch along the way. Be responsible and let an adult know where you will be hiking and when you intend to be off the trail and either at home or at you next place of interest. Take a cell phone with you and check in with that adult especially if you are running late. Of course it is understood this is a daytime activity.

Amusement parks, museums, Science centers, planetariums, Zoo's and things of this nature are all great day or evening places to visit and a great alternative to the movies.

hello, right now it's already midnight in my country. Sorry for my English if i am mistake. Almost on year ago my father died and i have to take care of my younger sister and younger brother. My mom did not live us right now. At first even though it's really difficult to handle this situation. Because one year ago my family is very big and i did not worried anything such as my family's expense, revenue, even i didn't worried my college tuition. But since this, only 3 of us live in a home and sometimes it's really lonely. But i want to grow my younger sister and brother well and be disciplined.

but right now i have a problem with my younger sister and brother. The sister is 10years old and brother is 12. They just become teen. And it's really hard to communicate them sometimes. Because they are really shy and always ask me when doing something. It's like permission. But want to grow them confident, brave, and intellegent people. THIS NIGHT I tell of my younger sister, even i hit her. I really regret it because they'are my life's meaning. If i had not my younger sister and brother i have no intention to live. i have to love them a lot instead of my father.

this night i become really angry and cant stop my anger. i think i just too worried everything. i have to work all day. i am 21 year old. Maybe it's too young to take care children.it's because of just my life's everything is suddenly changed.

and i dont have any person to tell my problem. I am afraid to tell my relative that hit my younger sister.

so please give a advice for how to communicate my younger sister and brother. Also give some advise about stay calm and some inspirational advice for life. I really want to your advice.

My condolences on the death of your father.

No knowing where you live I really can't advise on any legal obligations anyone has towards you or your siblings. I would think since your mother is still alive she would be the responsible person to raise you brother and sister. If you know where she is living and there is some type of child welfare service available I would contact the child welfare services and ask them to contact your mother. They would then most likely place you brother and sister back in her custody to raise.

It is honorable that you have taken this responsibility upon yourself. My feeling is if your mother is alive and capable of raising her children then it is her responsibility. At least that is how it is done in my country.

If for some reason you cannot find your mother then there is no shame in asking relatives for help. Parenting is not a job you can just jump into. It is an on the job learning experience that starts when you have your first child. To jump in to a parenting situation at your tender age and try and raise two teenagers is asking a lot of anyone.

One thing you may be able to do to help yourself is to take a parenting class. The Red Cross or Red Crescent may offer Parenting Classes in your country.

I dont care if this in the right thing or not I want to die. I was raped buy my boyfriend. I am only thirteen years old. And i don't want to have a baby and I don't want an abortion and I don't want adoption. But I want to grow up! I haven't done anything in my life yet. I want to try things and go to high school and everything i am only in 6th grade! Life hasn't even started yet! I told my mom but not that I was forced and I'm not telling her so don't even ask me too! I told her a week ago it has been three weeks into my pregnancy my mom won't talk to me. My dad is out of the picture. I'm not telling my boyfriend because I am done with him. I have nobody I can't even get a god damn doctors appointment. I just want to die! Their is no point of life anymore I'm going to be stuck with a kid that I don't even want! Please just somebody talk to
Me. I feel like I have no one. I just want someone to understand. And tell me what to do about my mom and if I should tell my boyfriend. Save me

The very first thing you need to do is call the following phone number 1-800-656-HOPE. This will connect you to an organization called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network.
This is a 24/7 hotline manned by volunteers who will help you and work with you to find people in you home town to help you make the right decisions and recover from this.

The next thing you need to do is tell you mother you were Raped. Your mother is not talking to you because she thinks you voluntarily had sex. Rape is not something anyone volunteers for. The people at RAINN will, I'm sure, help you in how to explain this to your mother.

Then either you and your mother and you and someone from RAINN need to contact the police. You don't say how old your boyfriend is and it really doesn't matter. What matters is he raped you. You can't pretend he didn't, it's not going to go away. What you can do is by reporting your rape to the police is save some other girl from being raped. He raped you he will rape again.

The people at RAIN can explain this a lot better than I can in the space I have here. What I can say is that it is important for you to get help for yourself and the people at RAINN can do that for you. You don't need moms' permission to call them. For your own best interest you need to report what has happened to the police to bring closure to this for your own peace of mind.

It is unfortunate that you have become pregnant from being raped. From one stand point that is not all that bad. The next girl he rapes may not be that fortunate and be physically harmed or worse. You can prevent this by reporting him to the police. I urge you to do this. I also urge you to please call RAINN.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 years. And we have a daughter together, along with a son who is on the way. We got together in December of 2007 but didn't have sex until the 26th. And it hasn't been painful from then till 2008ish. But since we've had our daughter we would have sex and as soon as I would orgasm it would start getting uncomfortable to continue, although I would always let him finish. After the sex was done, I would go to the bathroom and pee, and it would burn. We've tried lube and it would help a little, but it burns still. I haven't seen anyone about it, but I would imagine since I'm pregnant again, if they saw anything unusual or an std or something that I would be told because they test for that stuff when you're pregnant. I'm going to ask about it my next appointment, but what kind of things can I do to make it more comfortable? I am starting not to like sex anymore because I'm not looking forward to the pain afterwards.

I would suggest you say something to your OB/GYN. I'm not a doctor but, logic and common sense, tells me that something may have happened during delivery of your daughter or while the doctor was stitching you up that is causing you this pain. Just what may have occurred I can't say, but since you are about to deliver another child this is an opportunity for the doctor to correct anything that may have occurred during the delivery of your first child.

While it is possible that the problem was not caused by the delivery of your first child, again, common sense tells me this is probably not the case. Only your doctor can say for certain. So tell your doctor during your next prenatal visit and let the doctor start looking into it and take corrective action.

Also congratulations on the upcoming birth of your son.

18/f
i wish i could ask my mom this, but i can't.. so please anyone whos wiser or older, help!

I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months, but I've been friends with him for the longest time. He's funny, intelligent, and extremely good looking. I'm in love with him. I'm still a virgin, where as he definitely is not; however i am his first love.

I haven't had sex with him yet.

He's going away for school this year while i stay in town for school. We both agreed we can be with who ever we want while we're away, but he said when he comes back, he wants to be with ME. Now, don't get me wrong, i know he is in love with me. He was on a pursuit for my affection for a few months prior, and his friends tell me he's never acted this way with anyone else (and they are my close guy friends too). Anyway, what I'm trying to ask is, if he really did love me, would he be able to hook up with other people while he's away? Is this realistic, or are my expectations just too high? I'm scared. I don't know if I wanna have sex with him before he leaves which is in a few weeks. I mean, I want to, but I'm just scared.

You have really answered your own question here. If you are not sure you want to then you should not have sex with him, especially your first sexual experience. First time sex for a guy, which this isn't, is not the same as first time sex for a girl. I'm not talking about the pain and the bleeding, I'm talking about the emotional side of the act itself.

First time sex should be with someone you know loves you, not someone who wants to be with you then run off to school and be able to play the field. Who knows what will happen while he is away and who he may find. Fact is I believe he is handing you a line to get into your panties and score a virgin for his belt. That is just my feeling.

Below is a link I think you should look at before making up your mind. It has to do with whether someone is ready for sex. I have sent this link to many young lady's like yourself who have questions if the were ready.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.

I am afraid to tell my mom the truth about me not doing my home work I am scared. Help!!!

You may as well fess up now for if you continue to stall your teacher will tell contact her. If that happens or if she is summoned to school for a parent teacher conference because you are not doing homework and mom has to take of work to do so. Then mom has the drive home to work up a real good rage before she sets foot in the house. Better you tell her now and face the music then she be called by your teacher.

I too would like too know why you are not doing your homework. Maybe there is some advice we can offer you. Besides the fact that mom may get upset with you, yell at you, possibly ground you. There is the fact that your grade for the missed home work will be zero. Depending on what percentage homework has on your overall grade for a marking period it will be hard to raise your grade to an acceptable level with zeros on homework assignments.

Let us know what the problem is and if we can offer any suggestions we will. But you still need to tell mom ASAP.

I am 42 and been married three years to a 57 year old man!My concern is this i gound a jump drive laying on floor put it into my computer and it had 57,000 pics of naked women and porn clips!Is this normal behavior or is he obssessed?Most were young girls about 20,he is very conservitive with me so this really surprised and hurt me at the same time!He also goes on this nude hikes!I dint really have a problem with some porn but i am hurt that this is what he does when im not around!As he has been married three times before and discusses sexual past at times also!Im having a hard time even looking at him,he doesnt know i even have jump drive as i havnt decided what to do!

Many men enjoy looking at porn be they married or single. Having 57,000 pictures of nude women, going on nude nature hikes, without your knowledge is not normal behavior. Your husband may be a sex addict. He is most definitely addicted to a certain type of pornography.

There is an organization much like Alcoholics Anonymous called COSA that I found on the Web. COSA is a twelve-step recovery program for men and women whose lives have been affected by another person's compulsive sexual behavior.

Adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon, COSA is a program for our spiritual development, no matter what our religious beliefs. As we meet to share our experience, strength, and hope while working the twelve steps, we grow stronger in spirit. We begin to lead our lives more serenely and in deeper fulfillment, little by little, one day at a time. Only in this way can we be of help to others. COSA is:

An anonymous twelve-step fellowship

Self-supported through the weekly voluntary contributions of members

Not affiliated with outside organizations, including treatment centers, religions, or therapy.

AA has been very effective in helping people recover from alcohol addiction. COSA not only treats the addict but treats the addicts partner. I've included a link to their site which includes a locator for their meetings. I suggest you try a few meetings to see if they can be of help to you.

http://www.cosa-recovery.org/

I don't think my family really cares about my needs when it comes to academics. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have tried talking to them. I have tried yelling at them when talking didn't work. I tried tears. I tried making my point every which way possible from honey to vinegar and I don't know what else to do. Two of my cousins have already graduated from college. One of them is in medical school. When they were in school, people weren't even allowed to call the house because they were "studying." The one in medical school relocated up state because that's where he was accepted. His younger brother, who is a year younger than me (i'm 20, he's 19) recently had to go to the hospital. They didn't even call him where he was to tell him what had happened! because he was... "studying" and they didn't want to disturb him during exams. That's an emergency and they didn't even tell him because he's in medical school and they wouldn't want to ruin anything for the doctor in the family.

I have two years left of college. Next year, I apply to grad school or law school. I have asked my family to get me a desk for my room because I REALLY need it. I am in five school organizations, I have a job, and I really need a desk. I've been asking for two years.. and I still don't have one. I don't have the money to get one myself either. They told me that they were going to make me an office somewhere in the house... they've been saying that for three years. My family has also decided that my room is a storage room. They have thrown all these clothes on the bed and told me not to put them anywhere else because there was nowhere else to put them. I cannot study anywhere in the house after 7pm because the TVs are always on and very loud. The library by my house closes at 9. So, I decided that I would use the resources that were available to me. I would use the library at my school. But, my mom doesn't want me wandering around school after a certain time because it gets dark and there was a murder not that long ago at night and there's also not that many people here, so I understand her concern. I don't want to be here at night either. But, that was the only resource I had. She will just keep calling and calling or she'll come pick me up in another car because she doesn't want to be worried about me.

I don't get the impression that they're very proud of me or that they understand the importance of WHY I'm in all these organizations. They look good on my resume. They will help me with grad school. I work because I want to and it's extra money for me. But, everything else is what is going to get me where I want to be. I also do it because I'm passionate about certain causes. I don't sit around and lounge all day. I need a place to go where I'm going to feel relaxed and concentrate. No one is giving me the same respect that other people in my family had. I just need a place to study. I need that respect from them. They may not be like me, but I need their respect.

How do I get it? PS I have been "angel daughter." I don't go out drinking, clubbing, or anything like that. Obviously, on occasion, I'm a normal person and I go out. But, I'm not like one of those daughters you are always worrying about. Yet, they find a way to worry. The one night I do go somewhere like that, I will have 37 missed calls. But, that's just a side not. I need to know what to do about the studying.

Thanks

obviously your parents and your cousins parents have different views on the need for privacy and a quiet place to study.

The only advise I can offer here is you consider moving into a dorm room or sorority house. I would expect your parents to object and when they do you have one final opportunity to ASK for what you need in order for you to get what you need.

I assume you parents are funding all or part of the cost of your education. Male sure when you TALK with them that you emphasis you are only trying to get the most out of what they are paying for. That their lack of respect for your needs is wasting is in essence causing you to wast some of their money.

If none of this talking works your only alternatives is a dorm room or find someone to share an apartment with.

As to moms concern for your safety and her constant calling to check up on you. There is not much you can do then what you are doing now. Parents will always be concerned for their children's welfare. You might consider answering her calls each time you change a location, just for your own safety, other than that you will not change your mother.

Can a girl fall pregnant if a guy cum in her mouth

The only way a female can become pregnant is for sperm to enter her vagina; travel up and meet up with and fertilize an egg that has been released from one of her ovaries; then settle in the womb and grow. Overly simplified but I think you get the basic picture.

hello,i turned 13 on the 16th august 2011&ive been talking to this lad for quite a while&we always seem to talk about sex,but im a virgin:/,i feel ready to have sex,but i feel asif he's just gonna use me for a fxck&then hate on me. He has been telling me about the positions he wants to use on me&asking me to get on my knees for him,everytime i see him he blanks me,never says a word to me,but when were at home he will inbox me talking about sex,i feel ready and the convo's are making me more ready,should i wait untill i find someone who loves me for who i am and can wait,or do i just go ahead and let him have sex with me,please help me i feel so confusied,i just want to get it out the way but i could be doing the rong thing,all my friends say its good but i dont want to do it to fit in,just think its time for my most loved childhood memory to be given to him:/please help me as you can see im clearly stressed&confused im really scared of doing the rong thing!!!!!!1

First, I think 13 is way to young to be having sex. Second I agree with Zane if your asking strangers if you should have sex then you are definitely not ready.

Third: To have sex just to get it out of the way is not reason to have sex. Doing so is something you will regret for the rest of your life. Your feelings that if you have sex with this boy and then he will leave you are probably right. Teenage boys have only one thing on their minds when it comes to teenage girls and that is having sex. Some boys even make a game out of it. So many points for sexing different girls, extra points if they are virgins. Do you want to be just a pawn in some game he may be playing.

As I said having sex just for the sake of getting it over with is just plain wrong. Wait until you are older and in a meaningful relationship. Then when you do decide to have sex for the first time it will be a memory you cherish. Sex for the first time for a boy is no big deal but for a girl it is and it should be a loving meaningful event.

The following link will take you to a website that will help you decide if your ready.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.

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