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Do I just let him have sex with me to get it out of the way, or should I wait for someone that actually cares about me?
hello,i turned 13 on the 16th august 2011&ive been talking to this lad for quite a while&we always seem to talk about sex,but im a virgin:/,i feel ready to have sex,but i feel asif he's just gonna use me for a fxck&then hate on me. He has been telling me about the positions he wants to use on me&asking me to get on my knees for him,everytime i see him he blanks me,never says a word to me,but when were at home he will inbox me talking about sex,i feel ready and the convo's are making me more ready,should i wait untill i find someone who loves me for who i am and can wait,or do i just go ahead and let him have sex with me,please help me i feel so confusied,i just want to get it out the way but i could be doing the rong thing,all my friends say its good but i dont want to do it to fit in,just think its time for my most loved childhood memory to be given to him:/please help me as you can see im clearly stressed&confused im really scared of doing the rong thing!!!!!!1
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Well first off your 2nd guessing yourself which is a HUGE sign that you should NOT have sex with him. Honestly he is using you. i hope you can realize what im saying because im being 100% honest. HE IS USING YOU! i promise. Please do not have sex with him because you will regret it so much. and honestly i would stop talking to him completely because all he sees you as is a sex object and hes a waste of time.
I know what your going through with wanting to get it out of the way because im 16. and it's hard for me to sometimes. i said the same thing when i was 13-15. and im just starting to realize that having sex just to get it out of the way is not what i want. and im so glad i didnt do anything stupid like that.
i see girls at my school all the time who had sex at a young age and the guy either left them they got pregnant or they regretted it so much. the best thing for you to do is wait until you are WAY older and wait till you find someone who loves you and not you for sex. I'm sorry if you don't understand fully but please message me because i would be happy to help you with whatever you need.
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Don't do it I had sex with a boy when I was your age and got pregnant and I'm still scarred for life and that was with my boyfriend that I was Inlove with and loved me and I was with him for 2 years. So from me I say hell no
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you're only 13 and already thinking about sex??!!? holy crap you're so young! you're just a child!!! I'm almost 19 and I had sex when I was 18 hahaha.
You definitely need to wait until you find someone you love. Even if you feel like you're "ready" which I dont think is true.. Ask yourself this- are you "ready" to have a baby? are you "ready" to give something so special to this guy who you probably dont even know that well? are you "ready" to take that responsibility if you get pregnant?? You're 13. If you can't take care of yourself, how the hell are you going to take care of a baby if you get pregnant. You can't even drive!!! Its better to be safe than to be sorry.
Oh and you'll know when you're ready because when you're ready, you won't hesitate. If you have to come on advicenators.com and ask some random strangers if you should have sex with this guy.. then you're definitely not ready.
Don't make a stupid decision and "get it over with".. sex is an extremely special thing. Yeah, its great once you do it.. but that doesn't mean you should just do it with any guy you see. Wait until you find someone you LOVE.
Take me for an example.. i've had 3 boyfriends my entire life. I could have had sex with the first 2.. but i didn't. Why? because I didn't love them. I wasn't ready. I wasn't ready to have a baby. I knew I wasn't going to be with them forever so why give them something that special? My 3rd boyfriend (we have been dating for over a year and still together) is the guy i lost my virginity to. I was 18 and I absolutely adore him and in love with him. I knew I was ready to give it to him because I knew it wasn't just to "some guy".. Its something special and should be shared with someone special. So dont just hand it out to anyone who asks for it.
Be smart.
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First, I think 13 is way to young to be having sex. Second I agree with Zane if your asking strangers if you should have sex then you are definitely not ready.
Third: To have sex just to get it out of the way is not reason to have sex. Doing so is something you will regret for the rest of your life. Your feelings that if you have sex with this boy and then he will leave you are probably right. Teenage boys have only one thing on their minds when it comes to teenage girls and that is having sex. Some boys even make a game out of it. So many points for sexing different girls, extra points if they are virgins. Do you want to be just a pawn in some game he may be playing.
As I said having sex just for the sake of getting it over with is just plain wrong. Wait until you are older and in a meaningful relationship. Then when you do decide to have sex for the first time it will be a memory you cherish. Sex for the first time for a boy is no big deal but for a girl it is and it should be a loving meaningful event.
The following link will take you to a website that will help you decide if your ready.
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If you have to ask random strangers from the internet if you should have sex, Then you aren't ready. Honestly? I would wait, I would wait until you are older and have been in a relationship with someone for a long time. Lets face reality, At 13 no girl/boy knows what they want out of life. They all just think they do and in a few years your life will change. You will hit high school, Mature and enter another stage in your life and this boy you are with now will be old news. It's the truth
If you don't want to regret this, Then wait. If he keeps pressuring you into having sex with him then Ta-Da! there you go, He is all about sex. Don't fall under peer pressure this is the mistake too many people make these days. Guess what, Your friends really need to back off, Not because of your age but because someone's sex life is nobody's business no matter what age you are. It would generally only be someone's business if it were illegal somehow. Next time your friends pull a stinky little stunt then tell them your sex life is your private business and you do not wish to discuss it with them. If they decide to make fun of you for it, Well then they aren't real friends are they? There is much more to life then having sex just to get it over with. Sex frankly should be a meaningful thing that is shared with someone you love, trust and can see yourself with for a very long time. You don't want to screw up, Then I highly suggest you wait.
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