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what do i do about my mom? i want to be emancipated or get married at 16
ok... i am 15 and i am in love with this guy. and i wanna be with him forever and always... we have everything planned... we're going to try to emancipated together when i turn 16... could that work? even though my mom doesnt want me to... she doesnt think im ready... but im sick of living here... she has anger issues, theres so much stress, there emotional and sum physical abuse, and theres just so much problums. i feel that i can do better... and if emancipation doesnt work plan B was to have a baby... (im willing to do anything to be with him) could that work? if i had a baby or if im pregnant does that give me and him sum rights to be together?... and plan c was to get married at 16... does your guardian have to have a say in it?? i really need advice. Thank You!
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I cannot say much more than Razhie and Zane already have. Emancipation is a legal remedy to extreme situations. To even ask the courts for emancipation requires legal documents prepared by a lawyer. I do not believe you will find a lawyer anywhere who will prepare those document for you. If the physical abuse is such that you need to get away from your mother you will be made a ward of the court and placed with Social Services and Foster care until your 18.
Getting pregnant will emancipate you in some states. This is not a plan B, it is selfish and stupid. To bring a child into this world for reason other than love is wrong. Then there are the responsibilities you owe to this child. How do you plan to Cloth, feed, house and care for the child's medical needs. Minimum wage jobs won't pay for the rent let alone other needs and usually do not come with health care plans. If your thinking about welfare payments you can just about forget them. Given the present mood of lawmakers you may not be able qualify for welfare in the not to distant future.
The problems you have written about can be resolved in other ways than running of and getting married and having a baby. Talk to a trusted teacher or school principal about your home life. There are procedures they must follow to help you.
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You cannot legally get married without an adults consent, You are a minor and will need legal documentation by a legal guardian.
If you really have your mind set that a baby will solve your problems and help you get married at such a young age then you really need to reevaluate yourself. That is a pretty fucked up way of thinking never mind extremely selfish on both you and your boyfriends part.
Right now at your age a baby won't do anything more then cause baggage, stress and strain on your relationship. You are young, Your boyfriend is young and let me ask you a few questions: Do you have a job that pays more than 8 bucks an hour? Do you work more than 35 hours a week? Do you have a place of your own? Do you have a driving licence? No I am not lecturing you, These are serious questions and things you really should think about before you bring a baby into this world. You have not even had the chance to be independent, Responsibly comes with being independent and despite you and your boyfriend thinking you are going to be together forever things happen all the time whether you want them to or not. If you are being abused then you should seek the proper help by calling the police or by telling a trustworthy adult. Running away or bringing a baby into this world right now is probably the most fucked up thing you could possibly do.
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The court will not emancipate you you so you can marry your boyfriend, the court won't care if you are pregnant. That will not happen.
Empication of a minor exists in law to protect minors from the legal choices of their parents (extreme debt, medical choices, religious extremism, criminal activity). If you plan on getting married at 16, they will not think you are responsible or reasonable enough to be independent.
Having a baby will NOT give you any rights to be togeather -- if he is older than you it could even get him in legal trouble. As the father he'd have some rights to see the child, but that would be it. No one would have to let you be together. AND you'd be brining a child into your already fucked up situation, which is immensely selfish and wrong. Babies don't solve your problems. Parents solve problems for their babies. You need to solve some of these problems before you'll be a decent parent.
You cannot get married at 16 without your mother's approval.
You need to stop making these wild plans, and consider some much more reasonable possibilities. Do you have a friend or relative who would be willing to take you in? Do you need to call social services or talk to a guidance counselor to help Yiu get out of your mother's home?
There are rational way to address your home situation if your mother is out of control. It starts by asking other responsible adults for help. Your boyfriend can't save you, neither can a baby. Start asking adults in your life for help, now.
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