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About a year ago, I was hanging out with my aunts, one of their husbands, and one of their best friends, we'll call him B. They asked me to drive him home, so I did, and one thing led to another and after a few drinks we ended up sleeping together. Well we kept it quiet for almost a year, and I didn't see him. My nephew turned one this past summer and B was at the party. We couldn't hide our feelings, and one of my aunts saw us kissing, and they all started picking on him and asking him if he was into me. His ex cheated on him a while ago so he's still pretty upset about it and hurt and doesn't want to get into a relationship. Anyway my aunt (that he's close to) is a total b**** and she is really mean to me. She told both me and B that it was okay for us to date if we wanted, and then when we started to get close and hang out, she flipped out on him and told him he was an a-hole and to never talk to her again. Now he is really weird toward me and he won't touch me he won't be fun with me like he used to. He tells me it's because he doesn't wnat to get into a relationship because of his ex but I really think it's because of my aunt. What should I do?
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I think your right. The problem her is B. He is using his ex as an excuse not to get into a relationship, which is real enough on its own. In this case I believe he is using it because he may value his relationship with your Aunt more than his relationship with you. The question is why. If you can find the answer to this question then you may be able to salvage the relationship.
To attack you aunt and tell her to stay out of your love life is a no win situation for you.Instead just steer clear of her in the future. when and if she asks about your love interest in the future just say something to the effect; "Aunt X I keep my social life very private, I hope you understand", and leave it at that.
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Tell your aunt to stop being such an immature hag. To live her own life, not yours or B's. You can't let people keep budding into your life, if she doesn't approve for what ever reason, oh well. That's her problem and it's very selfish and immature. If B and you hit it off and your relationship with one another is healthy and sincere then by all means keep at it. He's just withdrawing do to insecurity and disapprovement by your aunt. Don't rush back into it, he's still hurt about his last relationship, take baby steps. Spend time together and try to be happy. Regardless of what others think. That's all we can do in life.
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