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teenage love and sex.
18/f
i wish i could ask my mom this, but i can't.. so please anyone whos wiser or older, help!
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months, but I've been friends with him for the longest time. He's funny, intelligent, and extremely good looking. I'm in love with him. I'm still a virgin, where as he definitely is not; however i am his first love.
I haven't had sex with him yet.
He's going away for school this year while i stay in town for school. We both agreed we can be with who ever we want while we're away, but he said when he comes back, he wants to be with ME. Now, don't get me wrong, i know he is in love with me. He was on a pursuit for my affection for a few months prior, and his friends tell me he's never acted this way with anyone else (and they are my close guy friends too). Anyway, what I'm trying to ask is, if he really did love me, would he be able to hook up with other people while he's away? Is this realistic, or are my expectations just too high? I'm scared. I don't know if I wanna have sex with him before he leaves which is in a few weeks. I mean, I want to, but I'm just scared.
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I agree with Adviceman
If the guy loved you then he would work it out no matter what the circumstances were. Is it normal? No. This guy wants to date you when you are available to him and when he is going away you will not be as available to him because he is hooked up in school work. Therefore, He wants to sleep around and hook up with other woman who are more of a convenience to him. Basically, You are just his rebound.
If you want someone who loves you for who you are, Then date someone who is willing to be faithful to YOU and only YOU. Do not let the guy be with you then walk out to date other people. That is wrong, It is not normal nor faithful. If he said to you that it's okay to date other people then I would really think about ending the relationship as he has thoughts of cheating on his mind. Don't be his doormat and wait for him to wipe his feet when he feels like it.
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You have really answered your own question here. If you are not sure you want to then you should not have sex with him, especially your first sexual experience. First time sex for a guy, which this isn't, is not the same as first time sex for a girl. I'm not talking about the pain and the bleeding, I'm talking about the emotional side of the act itself.
First time sex should be with someone you know loves you, not someone who wants to be with you then run off to school and be able to play the field. Who knows what will happen while he is away and who he may find. Fact is I believe he is handing you a line to get into your panties and score a virgin for his belt. That is just my feeling.
Below is a link I think you should look at before making up your mind. It has to do with whether someone is ready for sex. I have sent this link to many young lady's like yourself who have questions if the were ready.
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