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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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15 f
ok so like my ex is a total jerk and i jsut want to find someone better out there. so guys help! is there guys who arent jerks. these days it seems that guys only like me for my looks and think im hot or whatever and that jsut gets me so mad! like i realllllllyyyyyy want a real relationship but guys are jsut so immature these days and it just kills me! like evrytime they say something i always think its a lie1 like i dont believe anything any guy tells me anymore because of the bad reputation ive had dating guys. i really hate the fact that i cant find a really nice guy anymore. so if ur a guy and ur really sweet help me out and tell me something so i can get soem hope. that there are some sweet guys out there! thanks alot!
Although I'm not a guy, I can promise you that there are sweeties out there. I mean some guys are just horny and out there to find sex, but I reassure you that there are more guys that aren't like that at all.
My number one guy friend of all times is probably Giz. We shared so many secrets & I promise you that I'm your 24/7 emotional roller coster ride...yet Giz would stay up with me until 4AM at times just to make sure I went to bed with a smile on my face and he never once used me to have sex and what not. And there's Stephen who's a really awesome friend & he's so insightful on things. And there's Charles who's there for me & is philosophical at times. And Anthony is like the MOST innocent guy you'll ever meet. They are the few guys out of the many that are sweet, nice, and not out for sex.
Don't give up hope. There are really nice guys out there and don't give up hope b/c I'm the biggest pessimist and having me say that there is hope for you to meet sweet guys is like a miraculous thing =)
are there any amaziing songs like "le disko" by shiny toy guns around? its great music. thanks.
Well, there's this small band called Alice In Videoland and they've got the similar styles going on. Maybe The Killers? I don't know...but hmm, yeah...
would you consider slow dancing with another girl cheating?
If your gf is okay with it, then I guess not.
If your gf doesn't know about it and you're keeping it a secret from her, well, that would arouse suspicion.
Hi I am 16 and I am going to get both of my ears pierced in one day somewhere, I'm not sure where yet... I have been doing some research and I have heard that the piercing guns suck! and they screw up a lot... Do you think I should just get my ears pierced by a gun, or by hand at a professional piercing or tattoo shop?
Well, guns aren't cleaned too well so there's probably a higher risk of infection, though not much at all. I've gottn my ears pierced three times on each side [mainly because it kept closing when my earrings fell out] all three times with a gun. It's quick, less painful, and more accurate when it comes to piercing any part of your body in a striaght line.
I mean, I had my lip pierced with a piercing stud but it came out perfectly fine and it wasn't crooked at all. But it took a wee bit longer and was a little bit more painful. But, hmm it's not exactly an ear. My mom got hers pierced with a needle because my cousins basically forced her too [don't ask =P] but yeah, one side came out crooked so it's pretty much messed up.But yeah, a gun, although it's less sanitary, is a better choice.
Hmmm, my suggestions for an interesting ear piercing is either tragus, anti-tragus, or industrial...=)
i have been dating this guy and i really am starting to like him. i have feelings for him that i have never felt before. i care so much for him. and i would give him the world if i had the chance. he deserves so much better then what he has had in life. his mom dropped him off when he was two years old at his grandparents house because she didnt have enough money for kids and drugs and she chose drugs. about a year or two ago, a tree fell on him and paralized his knees and now he is in a wheel chair for the rest of his life. as things were finally getting better for him (moved back in with his real dad and step mom) his real dad shot himself last night. that was all he had. i know i got to be there for him but i don`t know how. and i feel like a failure to this relationship. i promised him i would be there no matter what. but i can`t be there if i don`t know how. i tell him everything is ohkay and will be fine. but thats not good enough. i let him sleep in my bed because he didnt wanna go back to the house his dad shot himself in. but i`m not doing something right. i wanna comfort him and be the best girlfriend becuase that is what he deserves.
can someone please help me. and tell me what i can do or say to try to make things right. i really like this guy and i don`t wanna lose him.
16/f
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Losing someone definitely hurts, especially if the person was the last person he had. And you're being a great girlfriend right now seeing that you're still with him and you haven't deserted him.
The one thing that really bothered me when I lost my granpas, uncle, and friend was people saying that they were sorry for me and saying that they understood what I was going through. The first was because I didn't want to be reminded of their deaths and I just wanted to move on. The second was mainly because I got pissed off when they said it because although I knew they were just trying to comfort me, all that ran through my head was that they couldn't possibly know what I was going through/feeling.
Try and get him to do things he enjoys & get his mind off of his dad's death. That's the best thing you can do [it was for me]. And make sure he knows that you're going to be there for him whenever he needs you even if it means taking phone calls at 4 in the morning. Tell him that you'll be his shoulder to cry on and that you won't be going around talking about this. Erm, yeah. Just stay with him and if he says he needs a break because there are too many things going on at this time, just say that you understand and that you'll be there for him when he's ready again. Even if you don't want to, understand that he's going through a tough time.
Hmm, yeah. Just be there for him no matter what =)
well my ex broke up with me about 2 weeks ago or so and i took it pretty hard at first then for a little bit i thought everything was okay and i was over him but im not. we still talk sometimes but we dont hang out and i havent seen him since like 4 days before we broke up. but i have run into his mom a few times and its weird but i dont know what to do i try to move on and that definatly didnt work. but i dont think he still likes me but i dont know if he knows how much i still like him, but one of my good friends just started dating his best friend and when they hang out he is there and i dont know what to do should i tell him how i feel or try to just act like things are fine and jut flirt and go from there???
Sorry this is kinda long!! =]
Well, I think you should try doing other things first to get your mind off of him. Two weeks isn't that long of a time so you will still want him back. So try hanging out with your friends, go shopping or bowling, cook, clean, whatever interests you. But still talk to him and try and maintain a friendship with him [My ex-boyfriend and I basically hate each other right now =P] Try dating other people and meet new guy friends. Who knows, there is probably a guy out there that you like a whole lot more than your current ex =)
so i talk to this guy quite often (normally through txts and IMs) and recently we got onto the topic of drinking, and ive drank before, but ive never gotten drunk....well now he talks about how we should hang out and get drunk and stuff like that, mostly cuase he wants to do stuff with me. I wouldnt mind making out or minor sexual things, but i dont wanna go any further...so what should i do to let him know that i wouldnt go very far with him, without making him think i wont do anything...thanks in advance
Hmmm, well I'm a straight edge person so I'm against you drinking, better yet getting drunk. So don't get drunk b/c he can easily rape you or you could do stupid things that you'll regret in the morning. And yes, even if you give him consent to have sex with you, it will be rape if you were under the influence of alcohol.
So don't get drunk because being drunk with a horny guy never results in making out or minor sexual things. If he asks you to have full sex with him, tell him that you'll do little things but you won't have sex with him. If he doesn't respect that, screw him. He's not worth your time .
ok im apoligizing now for the legnth bc its gonna be like but like I REALLY need advice so if you gave me some ill love you for EVERRRR..
Little background:
alright so my school is clique like no joke ok so i have this one friend emily and the rest of my friends dont like her. like she just doesnt fit like shes a slut, she drinks. and the rest of us just like to hang out and have a good time and thats just not her she'd rather be drinking and doing shit with guys. and we always gett in fights with her. like all the guys and girls in my 'clique' dont like her, and we think as soon as we get in high school (which is where were going this year) shes just gonna ditch us. which wasnt really gonna bother us bc the all the upperclass man HATEEEE our freshman class. bc we have a bunch of sluts. and number one on girls to beat the crap out of is her. and people think because were friends wtih her were like her and were not.
Story:
ok so the other night at my other friends house i got in a fight with emily and i told her how nobody wanted to be friends with her bc of those reasons and shes like thats bull and crap and she said how we shouldnt care what other people think and to some ecstent shes right but its high schoool its been that way for howeverlong and were not gonna change it, so. and at first all my firends were like good i hate her now we dont have to be friends with her but now emilys calling like the two girls in my clique that she noes are easy like to get friends wtih her agian bc they havent been friends with her that long and mind you ive been friends with her since second grade. and is like I LOVE YOU THIS IS SUMMER WE SHOULDNT BE FIGHTING. and there like yeah thats true adn now there all buddie buddies with her and like i dont know it pisses me off bc there two faced. and when i say shes all we talk about like im not lieing. it terriable but i dont no
ok so like i no theres no really question in there its just more like what do you think offf the whole decision bc i dont really regret my decision of not being friends with her its just im i dont know. just tell me what you think of everyhting
I'm going to be frank & if you're going to rate me bad, give me a reason other than the fact that I said something you didn't want to hear. Or the fact that I said something I should have that I couldn't possibly answer because you didn't put that bit of info in your question.
If you don't want to be friends with Emily, don't be. If you think she's going to give you bad reputation and effect you in a negative way in the views of people, don't be friends with her. It's all up to you as to what you should do. And about your friends, it's not your business to tell them who they should and shouldn't be friends with. If they want to be friends with Emily, let them. Just tell them nicely that you don't think it's such a great idea to become too close of friends with Emily for whatever reason you have...and leave it at them. Don't force them to not talk to Emily or anything. It's their decisions and you told them what you felt. If Emily gets on their nerves, its their problem and not yours. So I guess I'm saying that it's not your place to tell them who they can/can't be friends with. And about them talking about Emily yet still being friends with her...it's teen years. It's drama. It's the regular phase of teens. Either they like her or they don't and Emily will find out sooner or later.
my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?
Losing someone really hurts and I know because I've lost both my granpas, my uncle, a friend, and a hamster...although I don't think he's qualified as a person...
Basically what I found most comforting was knowing that my friend[s] woudl always be there for me and listen to me not matter what I rant about. And just knowing that I had a shoulder to cry on was a great thing. And so my advice for you is this:
Tell your friend that you're ALWAYS there for him even if you have to stay up until 4AM listening to him. Make sure he knows that you will keep everything he says to yourself if he wants you to and that you're there for him if he ever needs to cry. Just show that you're there for him 24/7 no matter what.
Also, don't try to get him to talk about it or mention something close to it...if that makes sense. I hate it when people try and do that. I enjoyed it when people did stuff that I enjoyed or tried to cheer me up/include me in fun stuff...just do what I enjoy doing.
Erm, me being weird, I feel better by listening to songs I can listen to, although it might not help him...but you're the one to judge whether or not it will be helpful to your friend...
Some songs are:
Welcome To The Black Parade -- MCR
What Hurts The Most -- Rascal Flatts
Erm, yeah. If you need anymore adivce, e-mail me or send me an inbox =)
PS..don't ever say you know what he's going through even if you may have experienced lsoing someone. It kind of just made me angry that someone would say that and I kept thinking over and over again that they'll NEVER know what I'm going through
Is there any place like online that i can make a journal. But i dont want people to be able to see it. I like keeping journals but i like typing more then writing and i want some place private online i can do it.
thankss.
Well, you can basically use any a web blog thing like xanga, livejournal, or myspace and set it to private.
Or you can go to download.com and download a program called iDailydiary. I don't think it's related to iPods or iPhones, though. Haha, anywhos. I like this better than the internet for some reason. It's just easier to access & you can put pictures and stuff. Plus, it's much more safe than putting stuff on the internet...yeah. But it's a program you download onto your computer and in order to get into your diary, you have to put in the diary name [you make it] and your password so you don't have to worry about anyone opening it from your computer =) I've been using it for a while now and I'm completely satisfied with ti =)
okay well i just turned 13 all my friends are older than me by a few months but i have fingered myself before and im the only one am i 2 young?
sports and thank you so much!!!!! please help
Don't fret.
Erm, most people don't talk about it/deny doing so. Who knows, your friends could've done so themselves.
So, erm, yeah. People around your age began to "experiment" with their bodies.
I have been trying to sleep for 4 hours. I have been itchy for most of that time. I thought it was bug bites.. then i saw all these bumps all over my legs.. and back. Could it be an allergic reaction?
I shaved today... so i'm thinking it's razor burn. severe kind because i kept scratching. but it's a lot of bumps!
i'm itchy everywhere. i have bumps on my back and forehead [which i did not shave, hah irritated acne?] and upperlip [i shaved]
is there anyway to make it go away? or the itch go away at least?
i have already tried allergy medicine.
i can't go to a doctor. i'm out of state.
You may want to get it checked out by a doctor as soon as you can, though. Because your legs sound similar to what happened to my sister. She shaved, got razor burns, scratched. And finds out she had an infection on her legs and she had to apply ointment and take oral meds.
I don't know about your head..but your legs reminded me of what happened to my sister >..>
15/f. For 7 months I was with my girlfriend. About 2 months ago we broke up & I was heartbroken, it's taken me a while to get over this, but I am finally ready to move on.
My best guy friend has always been there for me, and now he tells me that he likes me a lot. Now I am a lesbian, but I have feelings for him. I'm willing to try it out, but he is really experienced as in sexually. I've done pretty much nothing but make out with guys.
Do you think it's a good idea for me to be with him? Could I still be a lesbian and be attracted to a guy?
Well, you could be bi or bi-curious.
You never really know if you're attracted to them by influence, as friends, out of pity, etc, etc. So, hmm, try something with him, and if you don't feel comfortable, ask him to keep it a secret. If you don't like it, you're not commited to him or being straight or bi. Just try things with both genders. If you like both, you're bi. If you like guys, you're straight. If you prefer girls, you're a lesbian.
Hey, you can never fully know until you've tried enough things with both genders to compare
i know how to have sex ok
what i'm not sure about is the erect penis bit
do i have to give him that
it's weird i don't mind having sex with a guy
but i don't like the fact of giving him a b.j
i don't mind so much with a h.j but was just wondering if you HAVE to have that step before you have sex
i would rather the sex than a blow job
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
If you don't want to give him a hj or a bj, then don't. He'll just get hard by himself or from the mood or the fact that he's gonna have sex
Well i did an experiemtn to show how much pounds an anerexic person could loose in a day so I didn't eat for one day and now i don't feel hungry anymore.
I tried eating but I always feel full now so it won't go in.
Even if you feel full, sit at meals with your family/friends and just eat. Force yourself to eat if you can't eat.
ok well this is kind of been upsetting me for a while. Everytime i try to ask a question about my lovelife on here, everyone gives me the same answer to a question i was never asking. I'll be asking about something like becoming more closer to my boyfriend or how to show him my emotions without hiding them and ill say i love him alot or something and thats why i want to be more open towards him and in every advice im given, people always tell me im not inlove. In responses im always getting "He's just a crush so don't worry" or "Your to young to be inlove". I don't see how someone can be to young to be inlove, its like saying a child doesn't love his mum because he's to young to understand what it is. Ok i started to think "what exactly IS love?" and i googled it and got this answer "a strong positive emotion of regard and affection". So according to the dictionary, i AM in fact inlove. Its just these people who think that age does make a difference. I can understand that most people think teenagers are just hormone driven and that because while we are going through puberty and we start to feel more for the opposite sex or the same sex in some cases that we are just overwhelmed by these emotions and mis-judge it as love. It's not like i write all over my school books "I LOVE [NAME]" or in my msn name or anything like that, i just constantly have this inner warmth when i think about him or hear his voice or when hes cuddling me. I feel like even though im growing up people still treat me as a child for believing that im inlove. Theres only a select few of people i know who understand how i feel and i just need to know how people can think that someone who hasn't exactly had a lifetime of experience can be wrong about being inlove? Am i thinking stupidly? Should i just not even try a relationship until im over 20? Im so confused about everything and people are making me feel like im not inlove and im starting to grow distant to my boyfriend because of it. Please help.
Well, I'm not trying to please you here or anything, but I know what you're talking about. It's too long to be an infatuation, and it's too strong to be a crush.
I don't think age, religion, race, gender, or any factors should play in love. Love is love and anyone of any age can be in love. No one is too young to feel a feeling...wow that sounds redundant. Feel a feeling..haha anyways.
You're not thinking stupidly, although basing your feelings on a definition was just eh. You can't use logic to figure out if you are or aren't in love. So, anyways. What you feel can be determined by only you because no one else can feel what you're feeling no matter how close to you they are. So if you feel like you're in love, then you're in love. Enjoy life and believe in what you feel. Never let what other people say influence your thinking.
And as a very wise and sexy man said, "Be yourself. Don't take anyone's sh*t and never let them get you alive." Gerard Way
Haha, but yeah. If you feel like you're in love, enjoy it. Don't let other people's words influence your feeling and your relationship =)
Ever since I was born, I've been a super slower eater and I don't know what do it that can help!
Like a simple little breakfast, takes me an hour to eat.
Help!
Actually, eating slowly is a good thing for your health.
But I guess when you have 30min to get food and eat a school, it's just not a handy thing.
So, erm. Try and cut down on talking and try and chew faster if you can...erm that's pretty much about it. Haha, erm...pretend the house is about to burn down and you're eating for your life...
17/f, 5'8ish, 150lbs. I want to tone up, like my legs, stomach, and butt. My thighs and butt are big and I don't like it. I want to be able to wear shorter skirts without feeling self-concious. What can I do to sort of lose weight, tone up, in my legs and butt? School starts mid-August so I wanted pretty good results by then. Thanks!
Running
Jump roping
Lunges
Leg lifts
Piles [sp?]
Standinf first position [ballet wise] and spread your leg apart. Squat up and down
Squats..
Go up and down the stairs
Pretend you're about to sit down in a chair and getting up over and voer again
ok i have a friend i have always called my best freind.. but the thing is she is really loud and she CAN NEVER keep a secret but she says its niot her fault it is really how it is.. like one time she told my girl scout leader i was smokin weed.. who9 does that? but anyway we really are loosing contact like everytime we talk we argue ever since i cheated on my girlfriend with her.. only once and i never told no one.. i just dont know what to do .. should i let the freindship go.. or what?
Well, if she's causing stress and she can't keep your secrets for her life, then you should just let her go. Don't tell her anything you don't want her to tell people and just stay the "say hi in the hallways" friend type thing.
so i heard that lemon juice + a blowdryer = highlights... but i thought it was the light from the sun that highlighted your hair, not the heat? so would a blowdryer work?
No
Plus, lemon juice will damage your hair like woah