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15/f minor
so i talk to this guy quite often (normally through txts and IMs) and recently we got onto the topic of drinking, and ive drank before, but ive never gotten drunk....well now he talks about how we should hang out and get drunk and stuff like that, mostly cuase he wants to do stuff with me. I wouldnt mind making out or minor sexual things, but i dont wanna go any further...so what should i do to let him know that i wouldnt go very far with him, without making him think i wont do anything...thanks in advance
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I'm hearing alarm bells and I hope you are too. This guy is a player and bad news. This is a bad situation you could be getting into here.
Any guy who wants to get you drunk and then do sexual things to you is one to avoid outright. When you are that drunk you have no control or ability to make wise decisions about anything including sex.
You should tell him that "I really don't enjoy drinking or getting drunk. It's not my thing. You're a nice guy but I'm not ready for sex and would rather we be friends if anything."
He is likely the type to use you for sex (given the situation) and brag later on. I wouldn't want to make out with him later or be with him as a boy/girl thing as it sounds like the wrong person and situation for you.
However, see above if you just want him as a friend. You can also tell him where your boundaries are and that if he respects you and wants to be with you romantically on any level that he not raise drinking and sex up again. You need to be in control here and assertive.
Having said that he's bad news and a few other people who gave you advice noted this too. We aren't wrong and some of us know from expierience. Proceed with a lot of caution as anyone who wants to get you plastered where you cannot make sound decisions and have sex with you is a bad choice to get involved with.
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Tell him you've drunk before, and it's just not your thing. I dont blame you, it taste horrible and I dont want to act like an idiot, just because people say it's cool. Be yourself, if you're not comfortable, let him. He probably cares more about how hese coming off than you are, he might just be trying to impress you.
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NO. Don't put yourself in a vulnerable spot. If you already know ahead of time that he's wanting to get you drunk so he can do sexual things with you, you can already tell the whole thing is a bad idea. Even if you warn him of your limits, chances are he won't follow the rules & he'll keep pushing for more - especially with alcohol in his system. It's just a stupid idea & any stupid girl would go through with it. Respect yourself & your safety by avoiding underage drinking all together. It isn't even worth it, girl.
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tell him that you dont want to have sex with him , and if he trys to push it apon you be strong , and if he persists onb tell him you cant see him any longer , and if you dont want to get drunk simple say no!!!!!!!!!!!!
your friend nicole
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Hmmm, well I'm a straight edge person so I'm against you drinking, better yet getting drunk. So don't get drunk b/c he can easily rape you or you could do stupid things that you'll regret in the morning. And yes, even if you give him consent to have sex with you, it will be rape if you were under the influence of alcohol.
So don't get drunk because being drunk with a horny guy never results in making out or minor sexual things. If he asks you to have full sex with him, tell him that you'll do little things but you won't have sex with him. If he doesn't respect that, screw him. He's not worth your time .
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The only way to let him no is to straight up tell him. He can't read your mind. If you just tell him, maybe he'll respect you and take to your wishes. If not, don't associate with him.
And on a side note, don't get drunk or whatever just because someone wants you to. And you can get in trouble for it.
--Jack
(15/m)
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Just tell him id make out with you and whatever else but i dont wanna go farther
if he dosnt like that he dosnt deseve you
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