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ok im apoligizing now for the legnth bc its gonna be like but like I REALLY need advice so if you gave me some ill love you for EVERRRR..
Little background:
alright so my school is clique like no joke ok so i have this one friend emily and the rest of my friends dont like her. like she just doesnt fit like shes a slut, she drinks. and the rest of us just like to hang out and have a good time and thats just not her she'd rather be drinking and doing shit with guys. and we always gett in fights with her. like all the guys and girls in my 'clique' dont like her, and we think as soon as we get in high school (which is where were going this year) shes just gonna ditch us. which wasnt really gonna bother us bc the all the upperclass man HATEEEE our freshman class. bc we have a bunch of sluts. and number one on girls to beat the crap out of is her. and people think because were friends wtih her were like her and were not.
Story:
ok so the other night at my other friends house i got in a fight with emily and i told her how nobody wanted to be friends with her bc of those reasons and shes like thats bull and crap and she said how we shouldnt care what other people think and to some ecstent shes right but its high schoool its been that way for howeverlong and were not gonna change it, so. and at first all my firends were like good i hate her now we dont have to be friends with her but now emilys calling like the two girls in my clique that she noes are easy like to get friends wtih her agian bc they havent been friends with her that long and mind you ive been friends with her since second grade. and is like I LOVE YOU THIS IS SUMMER WE SHOULDNT BE FIGHTING. and there like yeah thats true adn now there all buddie buddies with her and like i dont know it pisses me off bc there two faced. and when i say shes all we talk about like im not lieing. it terriable but i dont no
ok so like i no theres no really question in there its just more like what do you think offf the whole decision bc i dont really regret my decision of not being friends with her its just im i dont know. just tell me what you think of everyhting
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People make stupid mistakes... but dont push them away, talk to her, nicely. And alone is best, so she doesn't feel pressured, and promise (and keep the promise) that what goes on between you two stays between you two.
We all make mistakes, but nobody like to be pushed away or insulted. Saying that no body likes her, and to go away is the worst possible thing you could have ever done, I would have lost all respect for you, and never have made an attempt to talk to you again.
Shes a person too, and needs friends, not to be an outsider. I think you guys shouldn't give a fuck about whats going to happen to her, you should be her good friends. She KNOWS what shes doing, and that it isn't right but thats her damn decision, and NOT you and your friends. Let her be herself, thats what made you guys friends in the first place.
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We are all free thinking individuals who are graced with choices and free will. I just really don't get it how we allow others to dictate what we think about someone or something because of how they feel about it.
If she wants to have a slut reputation, then so be it. She is right in thinking that she shouldn't worry about what everyone else thinks about her. She should only worry about what she thinks of herself.
If you don't want to be friends with her because of her rep, or whatever else, then don't be- plain and simple. But you have to accept it if your other friends want to continue to hang out with her.
There is no since in being mad at your friends who are being friendly with her. It doesn't necessarily make them two-faced. Maybe they are just friendly people? Maybe they don't have a problem with her? (Even though I understand they may tell you they do.)
But yah, they could be two-faced, and if so, why waste your time on that sort of friendship, either? I would rather be friends with a slut than a back stabber. How about you?
When you get into an argument with someone, never tell them "This is why nobody likes you" you tell them "This is why I don't like you" because you aren't likely stating fact when you speak for everyone. Not that you asked, but I thought I'd just throw that out there for you to consider.
ygs-29/f
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I'm going to be frank & if you're going to rate me bad, give me a reason other than the fact that I said something you didn't want to hear. Or the fact that I said something I should have that I couldn't possibly answer because you didn't put that bit of info in your question.
If you don't want to be friends with Emily, don't be. If you think she's going to give you bad reputation and effect you in a negative way in the views of people, don't be friends with her. It's all up to you as to what you should do. And about your friends, it's not your business to tell them who they should and shouldn't be friends with. If they want to be friends with Emily, let them. Just tell them nicely that you don't think it's such a great idea to become too close of friends with Emily for whatever reason you have...and leave it at them. Don't force them to not talk to Emily or anything. It's their decisions and you told them what you felt. If Emily gets on their nerves, its their problem and not yours. So I guess I'm saying that it's not your place to tell them who they can/can't be friends with. And about them talking about Emily yet still being friends with her...it's teen years. It's drama. It's the regular phase of teens. Either they like her or they don't and Emily will find out sooner or later.
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If you don't want to be friends with her, that's fine. You don't have to be. But it should be because YOU want to not be friends with her, not your "clique" or your high school classmates. If its your own personal decision based on your ideals and morals and such, and not those of others, then its fine. Don't let peer pressure get to you. Make decisions on your own [not to say that you can't have help..but don't do something because everyone else is doing it]. Its like the classic saying: If everyone jumped off of a bridge, would you? No.. probably not.. so just because everyone else doesn't like her doesn't mean you shouldn't. Catch my drift.
And your question wasn't that long.
--Jack
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ok im trying to understand this a little better, do im sorry if you dont like my advice
first of all, a lot of girls a twofaced so i wouldnt trust anyone to well if you know there gonan stab you in the back
i dont think you should of went off on emily if she was a real good friend and you other friends just told you to. if you dont like her at all then i think going off on her is fine.
if you wanna be friends with emily again talk to her, also those other twofaced girls, dont trust them as much.
and honestly i dont think this is you fault you other friends shouldnt of backstabbed you.
thats what i think. hope this has helped
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